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My self-summary
I'm a Feminist Studies graduate from UC Santa Cruz! It's an everyday struggle to be myself, like girls without objectification, and confront the pervasive effects of homophobia, misogyny, and racism in our everyday lives. That's life as a Feminist geek!

I'm a singer, actor, scholar, and dancer (not all of those at the same time, and not particularly the best at any one of them)

I'm a dork in my spare time! I like OLD Dr. Who (William Hartnell!), OLD Batman (Adam West!), and singing OLD songs (Doo-wop and rock from my childhood)
What I’m doing with my life
Although I have my BA in Feminist Studies, I am doing pre-requisites for Nursing at a community college. I want to be an RN!

I'm an occasional sight at midnight at the Rocky Horror Picture show. I have a fabulous wig that could probably use a good brushing right now.

I'm probably singing a broadway ballad because I get to express my emotions better when I sing, instead of in life, where I keep being told to push them down.

I have a long love affair with ballet, which generally means I have unhappy muscles and even more unhappy feet. I still struggle with learning 8 counts so I've never been better than an amateur dancer.
I’m really good at
Being intense? If being more intense than the average guy is a poison pill for you, maybe it's better we got that out of the way.

I don't know what to put here, so you'll get what other OKCupid users have said! You can trust them! Or you can message them and say, "WTF?"

OkCupid user sveltskye says: "oscar_fn_wilde is great peeps! He is a really fun, caring guy who is always down for an adventure. Besides that, he is incredibly generous and a genuine, sincere friend, with a splash of geek and just a dash of bumbling charm. :D Snatch this one up before he is gone!"
The first things people usually notice about me
I write too fast, and too much. Those of you who have been message bombed by me probably find very quickly that I tend to use the dartboard method of communication, throw as much as possible about me at first and hope something sticks.

I smile an awful lot, my laugh is...quirky, and I tend to bounce around when I'm nervous.

Almost all of my friends are female. This is a holdover from being a Feminist Studies major, but I generally don't have much to talk about with other guys. If it wasn't for geek/singing stuff, I wouldn't have any male friends at all.

Apparently I have a nice butt. People tend to notice when I wear tights.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite Book: American Gods by Neil Gaiman
Favorite TV Show: The Pretender (I think Micheal T. Weiss is really, really hot)
Favorite Music: I'm definitely into East Coast Punk Cabaret and awesome contemporary folk influenced music - Amanda Palmer, Zoe Boekbinder, Unwoman, Jill Tracy, Nicki Jaine. and Musicals. Lots of Musicals.
Food: Thai food is probably my favorite Ethnic food style - I tend to want the whole menu at any Thai restaurant. I prefer to cook vegertarian.
Six things I could never do without
1. Sondheim Musicals
2. Stephen Fry
3. Discworld Novels!
4. Singing
5. Thai food
6. Being awkwardly in love with someone (Generally unreciprocated, such is life)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to make the future brighter! How to try to build a society where genders are more equal, a society where we don't have a permanent underclass of people trapped in nowhere jobs because of non violent criminal offenses.

The Dalai Lama! He's a great inspiration for me, and I got to see him in Foxboro, MA during a difficult time in my life, and he was very inspiring in getting through that.

Whatever happened to Nicki Jaine? She was this amazing musician from Philadelphia who completely disappeared off the Internet circa 2011. I used to be facebook friends with her back before their were "fans" on the site. But I think she's retired or something...
On a typical Friday night I am
out with friends. Either I'm going to sing, I'm going to role-play, or just enjoy the time I have with people I care about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I didn't kiss a girl until I was 22.

I kissed a boy first. I didn't particularly like it. He was not wearing cherry chapstick, maybe that would have made it work.

Oh, big thing. I don't get texting. Texting, for me, is a bad form of communication - I hate not being able to get any kind of inflection or context for what people say, and I tend to say what people do not want to hear when I write a text based on my perception of a person. Definitely don't want that as a primary form of communication.
You should message me if
you could figure out that me writing you a really long message was me being genuinely me instead of trying some pose for socially acceptable introduction.

Message me if you'd like to laugh, like to discuss gender, awesome music, and make great new friends. I don't think anyone can have enough great friends, and I'd really like to get to know you.
The two of us