gentle_coda
31 Washington, United States
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My self-summary
"If I could begin to be / Half of what you think of me / I could do about anything / I could even learn how to love like you. / Look at you go, I just adore you / I wish that I knew / what makes you think I'm so special"
— Rebecca Sugar, Love Like You

"Half of life is fucking up, the other half is dealing with it."
— Henry Rollins

"Life isn't a support system for art. It's the other way around."
— Stephen King, On Writing

"I love you, you light me, warm me, you are suns."
— China Mieville, Embassytown

"Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But since no one was listening, everything must be said again."
― André Gide
What I’m doing with my life
Teaching web development for eight hours a day, fencing, lifting heavy things & putting them back down again, taking care of my two kittens Jinx and Vi, writing, and exploring DC
I’m really good at
Biting off more than I can chew

Explaining abstract, intangible things like websites and racism

Making friends with total strangers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What should I do now?
You should message me if
You are skeptical of gender and generally avoid its dualistic siren song, preferring instead to be a full-fledged human bean, contradictory multitudes and all

You really enjoy getting footrubs

You love to talk, to listen, you love words and language and feel a special kind of something when someone makes just the right words for you or listens and loves just the right words from you

You take people at face value, allowing them to define themselves over time with their actions, rather than making presumptions based on statistical likelihoods and anecdotes

You have a soft spot, a penchant, a curiosity, or perhaps a hunger for charming submissive boys with nice arms and dulcet whimpers and myriad masochistic buttons to press

You're looking for someone to build a future with, someone you can write in the "Emergency Contact" box without a second thought, someone to be your anchor or wings or home or concubine, someone who can fall in love with your scars, someone to go out with and come home to. Someone you don't want to share but aren't afraid to leave alone or loan to a friend, who needs a lover not a mother, who can be all yours and several someone elses' too and it works out great as long as we set healthy boundaries and lovely expectations and keep our calendars in sync

Or perhaps if you are into one or more of ... lists books puzzles cats pizza netflix kink cuddles comics fencing compersion sci-fi dadjokes fantasy gaming napping chai kissing solaire leona portland vermont teaching learning vel'koz compassion feminism intersection programming karaoke boylesque watercolor drink-n-draw hedwig rollins walking wandering collars parties solitude spreadsheets silence dancing fucking petting pegging begging dating linguistics databases coffee cola curry weed tumblr twitter reddit nyc cleveland sf painting stretching miyazaki asimov mieville butler carlin
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