I'm far-lefty and passionate about social change. I do web work for social good, I study social movements, and love engaging deeply on anything from ethics to economics to science.
I'm compassionate without being a pushover, nonjudgemental without being naive, and open-minded and not credulous. I lean strongly towards non-monogamy and rejecting the gender binary.
I'm a switchy top who loves to craft scenes that take you right where you want to go. I sub to strong women though not without a fight. =)
Originally a Bay Area native I recently moved to Oakland after three years in NYC.
Nonfiction: Jennifer Hecht's Doubt: A History, Steven Pinker, Douglas Hofstadter, and Daniel Dennet. I like some Harris and Dawkins but wish there weren't so terrible on politics and feminism.
Fiction: Margaret Atwood, Cormac McCarthy, T.C. Boyle. I have a soft spot for magical realism like The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon and Stone Junction.
SF/fantasy: Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson, Ursula Le Guin, Connie Willis, Terry Pratchett, Ian Banks, Kurt Vonnegut, and almost anything dystopic or utopic. I am noticing there's a whole new wave of excellent woman-authored scifi!
I read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life a few years ago and I'm very pleased to have NVC as a primary communication/conflict resolution tool.
Movies: Cloud Atlas, Like Water for Chocolate, Man Facing Southeast, Shrek, Spirited Away, The Fall, Twelve Monkeys.
Music: I have really wide tastes. Alternative, bluegrass, Latin, electronic, Afro-Cuban, folk, hip hop, punk, metal, industrial. I have a soft spot for genre-shifting covers.
Podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, Infinite Monkey Cage.
Food: Anything vegetarian! Indian, Thai, Mexican, Oaxacan, Middle-Eastern.
How to save the world. How to combine community, art and organizing into a viable social revolution.
I think about why humans ever wandered out of Africa and self-domesticated on the Levant. And about how that was a probably a mistake. Well, coming down out of the trees was probably a mistake. Or maybe leaving the oceans. It's hard to tell where we went so wrong. =)
You are a smart, accomplished woman and would like to date someone not intimidated by that.
You are a strong, compassionate bi male-identified person who likes the same.
Your gender never did fit you very well and you had to modify it or shuck it off entirely.
You like a lot of autonomy in your relationships.
You like rambling walks with talks about philosophy, ethics, politics, economics, history, and/or organizing.
You think about about how to change the world in some way large or small and/or are actively engaged in such change.
You prefer a relationship to develop through time and aren't strongly partner-driven; as a friend put it, "I'm neither intimacy-phobic nor commitment-driven at this point. It's half the fun to see what our dynamic turns into and where the journey takes us."
You are not cruising for purely casual sex. Even a casual relationship must have a degree intimacy, connection, and vulnerability, or it's simply not satisfying. Friends first.