oughtnaught
49 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Hi. I'm a creative, funny, iconoclastic smarty-pants who loves nature, travel, kink, adventure, and radical politics. Gramsci would call me an organic intellectual. My ex calls me a "silly animal." You can call me for lunch. =)

I'm far-lefty and passionate about social change. I do web work for social good, I study social movements, and love engaging deeply on anything from ethics to economics to science.

I'm compassionate without being a pushover, nonjudgemental without being naive, and open-minded and not credulous. I lean strongly towards non-monogamy and rejecting the gender binary.

I'm a switchy top who loves to craft scenes that take you right where you want to go. I sub to strong women though not without a fight. =)
What I’m doing with my life
I do tech consulting for nonprofits and other worthy causes and I work with a tech co-op that formed out of the Occupy movement. I'm reading and debating organizing, social change, and economics. I also travel quite often and was just in India for four months.

Originally a Bay Area native I recently moved to Oakland after three years in NYC.
I’m really good at
Communicating, adventure, exploration, creating safe space, reading, research, crafting bad puns.
The first things people usually notice about me
No clue!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Politics/feminism: bell hooks, Noam Chomsky, Howard Zinn. Really liked William Moyers' Doing Democracy, Picketty's Capital In the Twenty First Century.

Nonfiction: Jennifer Hecht's Doubt: A History, Steven Pinker, Douglas Hofstadter, and Daniel Dennet. I like some Harris and Dawkins but wish there weren't so terrible on politics and feminism.

Fiction: Margaret Atwood, Cormac McCarthy, T.C. Boyle. I have a soft spot for magical realism like The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon and Stone Junction.

SF/fantasy: Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson, Ursula Le Guin, Connie Willis, Terry Pratchett, Ian Banks, Kurt Vonnegut, and almost anything dystopic or utopic. I am noticing there's a whole new wave of excellent woman-authored scifi!

I read Nonviolent Communication: a Language of Life a few years ago and I'm very pleased to have NVC as a primary communication/conflict resolution tool.

Movies: Cloud Atlas, Like Water for Chocolate, Man Facing Southeast, Shrek, Spirited Away, The Fall, Twelve Monkeys.

Music: I have really wide tastes. Alternative, bluegrass, Latin, electronic, Afro-Cuban, folk, hip hop, punk, metal, industrial. I have a soft spot for genre-shifting covers.

Podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, Infinite Monkey Cage.

Food: Anything vegetarian! Indian, Thai, Mexican, Oaxacan, Middle-Eastern.
The six things I could never do without
It's the little stuff in life that mean so much to me: touch, sex, nature, reading, overthrowing the cisheteropatriarchal capitalist system... and then breaking for lunch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Yarg! Rub my head, make it stop!

How to save the world. How to combine community, art and organizing into a viable social revolution.

I think about why humans ever wandered out of Africa and self-domesticated on the Levant. And about how that was a probably a mistake. Well, coming down out of the trees was probably a mistake. Or maybe leaving the oceans. It's hard to tell where we went so wrong. =)
On a typical Friday night I am
Asleep, reading, driving, or dorking out on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Therapy. It's awesome.
You should message me if
You are brilliant and political and want to engaged on anarchism, socialism, and social change.

You are a smart, accomplished woman and would like to date someone not intimidated by that.

You are a strong, compassionate bi male-identified person who likes the same.

Your gender never did fit you very well and you had to modify it or shuck it off entirely.

You like a lot of autonomy in your relationships.

You like rambling walks with talks about philosophy, ethics, politics, economics, history, and/or organizing.

You think about about how to change the world in some way large or small and/or are actively engaged in such change.

You prefer a relationship to develop through time and aren't strongly partner-driven; as a friend put it, "I'm neither intimacy-phobic nor commitment-driven at this point. It's half the fun to see what our dynamic turns into and where the journey takes us."

You are not cruising for purely casual sex. Even a casual relationship must have a degree intimacy, connection, and vulnerability, or it's simply not satisfying. Friends first.
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