ownbeat77
39 Victoria, Canada
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My self-summary
I identify as polyamorous (poly, open relationships, non-monogamous), agendered (not identifying as a specific gender), graysexual (dancing between asexual {mostly} and sexual), demisexual and sapiosexual (my attraction comes from long term deep emotional and intellectual connection and stimulation), panromantic (I can be romantically attracted to most connections, but not sexually interested), and queer. I am also a bit of a relationship anarchist. What does that mean? I do not believe that affection, nurturing touch, and sensuality should be accessible only through sexual connection or securing sexual connection. I also do not believe romantic connections trump other connections in importance and priority. I find other types of connection to be much more nourishing and much more important in my day-to-day life and that involvement is what has priority. I am interested in friendships (companions, confidants, adventurers) and lovers (intimacy, affection, and sensual touch such as kissing, petting, cuddling, nuzzling, etc. Freely giving and receiving expressions of love). However, sex is off the table. I find my attractions to branch out all over when the energy of a person is irresistible. I’m into all gender identifications, all orientations, as well as all body types.

PS - I'm a complete and total sucker for cat-like affection.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a full-time student, so currently a lot of my time and energy is dedicated to studying.
I’m really good at
Cooking omelets that give people mouth-gasms! Experimenting with gluten-free baking to find that perfect mouthfeel. Articulating ideas that resonate with others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I sort of stand out, so outside of the obvious, my smile is brilliant and I'm frequently amused!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Fantasy, Horror, post-apocalypse settings, old-school Sci-Fi (Sword of Truth, Wheel of Time, Dies the Fire, Belgariad, Malloreon, Day of the Triffids, Earth Abides, Clan of the Cave Bear...), a huge collection of informational books on gardening, self sustaining, do-it-yourself, gathering, small -scale farming etc. The stuff fascinates me and I see it as dying knowledge worth preserving.

Movies: Horror, SciFi, Comedy, Action, Musicals, Bollywood. More specific titles would be: Resident Evil series, 5th Element, MST3K, Tank Girl, Monty Python, 2012, Star Wars ...on and on

TV: Doctor Who, Walking Dead, Lost Girl, Buffy, Firefly, Red Dwarf, Star Trek, FarScape, Battlestar Galactica, Dark Angel

Music: Sneaker Pimps, Portishead, Garbage, Concrete Blonde, Azam Ali, Collide, Cat Power, Stevie Nicks, Florence and the Machine, Delerium, Dollshead, Kidneythieves....

I also love the sound of bagpipes, especially live.

Video Games: Bioshock, Dead Space, Left 4 Dead, Mass Effect, Elder Scrolls, Fear, Prey, Resident Evil, Portal, Half-Life, Might and Magic, various other RPG's and FPS's, old school PC games like Xcom, Civilization, Sam & Max and Monkey Island

Food: blue crabs, Indian, Middle Eastern, Nigerian, Mexican and other ethnic foods
The six things I could never do without
1. My humans
2. Cats
3. Nature
4. Snuggly blankets and pillows
5. Humor
6. Chapstick
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I do a lot of self-analysis and meditation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Being silly with my humans!!
You should message me if
- If you are looking for some snuggles!

- If sexless romantic exploration and emotionally vulnerable connection appeals to you.

- if you understand the impact of heteronormativity on the way we connect and understand connection.

- if some of what I've said resonates and you just want to theorize about connections and social constructs around them.

- if you understand the power in a passionate make-out session based on purely connecting and expressing emotional intensity rather than as a goal towards a physical sexual finale.

- Believe consent is not limited to only sexual boundaries, but as a fundamental human right to autonomy in all things.

- Just say beach and/or coffee and I'll be a happy camper!
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