48Ypsilanti, United States
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My self-summary
*grin* Um. I work as an hospice RN and am fascinated by science, medicine, and people. I am a long-term reader and watcher of science fiction and fantasy. If I don't get to play moderately complex strategic board games fairly frequently, I get a little twitchy. I am a pagan with a solitary practice, and am happiest when I'm living in a place which at least feels rural. I am the shameless minion of two cats, and they make my world a better place.

I may very well be a slow responder - just switched hospices in December. Seems to be going fairly well, though.

I'm a big fan of talking and socializing. I'm teaching myself how to kayak, and am a new but enthusiastic skier. I've got long-term love for hiking, biking, and canoeing, though life tends to keep me from spending anywhere near as much time outdoors as would be good and fun for me.

My most interesting camping trip ever involved going into the woods for three days by myself with no tent and no food as part of a vision quest.

I've not had much time for choral music lately, but when I'm in practice, I'm a pretty good contralto. I own a piano and a hammered dulcimer, both of which I'm hoping to learn to play someday.

I am warm, smart, and dynamic
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a hospice nurse. This means I try to provide warmth, comfort, dignity, and laughter, to people who are looking straight in the eye the fact that they're going to die soon.

Before you ask, no, I don't find this job depressing. Heartwrenching, occasionally. Heartbreaking? Not ever, at least not so far.

Hospice nursing is a fabulous job for me. I can talk about why for hours on end, but I'll save that for actual conversations.

As for the rest, my housemates are fun and mellow, and help me live on the cheap. We're living in the middle of farmland three miles from, well, close to everything. One housemate is building a progressive rock band out in the barn (and they're good). One is my primary RPG GM. And the third is a fellow board gaming geek.

At work, I help people die with comfort and dignity. I come home and grow kitchen herbs, watch birds at the feeder, and play games like Pandemic, Dominion, and Settlers of Catan.
I’m really good at
organizing large groups of people, thinking creatively, listening to people, massage therapy, and a variety of other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
visually are generally the smile or the cleavage, depending on their inclination, my mood, and what I'm wearing. For more than a passing glance? I make full eye contact, and try to really *see* the people I look at and talk to. If I've opened my mouth, the brains are pretty unmistakable; I'm very bad at "dumbing down". I have also been described as a "force of nature".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I do make it out of my genre box some of the time, but I'm generally reading science fiction or fantasy. Okay, and the junk food of my reader's soul - romance novels.

Top visual media list, free associated; Say Anything, Much Ado About Nothing (the Branagh version), Firefly, Torchwood, Stargate (Atlantis and SG1 both), Princess Bride, House, Boston Legal, The Guild. Almost never watch media alone.

Music? Again, a free associated list would include Sophie B. Hawkins, Jane Siberry, Loreena McKennitt, Peter Gabriel, Incubus, Train, Enigma, Steve MacDonald, They Might Be Giants, Bare Naked Ladies, Nik Kershaw, Wolfstone, Captain Tractor, Great Big Sea, Libana, Indigo Girls, Tori Amos and the fabulous S.J. Tucker.. I don't think there's a single genre out there that doesn't have at least one song, or at least one artist, who can reach out and move me, either through the music, or the lyrics.

Favorite food? American, Middle Eastern, Thai, bad Mexican, some good Mexican, doubtless others.
Six things I could never do without
Literally, oxygen, heat, water, and food. Figuratively?
1. My friends, particularly my chosen kin - people who really care, and about whom I can return the favor. (:
2. My cell phone.
3. Books.
4. Dreams.
5. Spirituality.
6. A reliable car.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How can I social engineering to make my world, the world of my chosen kin, and the world in general, a better place? What does the cat who is staring at me actually want? Will I be running this lifetime rich in chosen kin but unpartnered? Will I actually forge a hospice in a beautiful rural area, so people who wish can die surrounded in natural beauty? And, most importantly, which board game will I buy next?
On a typical Friday night I am
Either working or making up plans on the fly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm one of the most extroverted shy people I know. I can talk to someone for hours without ever saying anything important about myself. I would recommend asking me things; waiting for me to volunteer inner world stuff is not a great gamble.
You should message me if
you're a sweetheart all the way down to the ground and have a solid sense of your own power. What's the power bit mean? You have a pretty good idea who and what you are and what you want, and aren't ashamed to admit it to yourself, name it to others, and ask for it. It goes without saying, except that it doesn't, that I am looking for someone who uses their power for good, not evil. (:

Secure but sincerely nice people are the only ones who finish first with me; bad girls and boys need not apply.
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