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My self-summary
I'm trying this once again. I met two amazing people online over the last ten years, including one I thought was the love of my life. Now I'm looking for the next, maybe the last.

In relationships, I feel like though I may be far from perfect, there are a lot of things I've worked on, and it has really paid off. I'm a good communicator, I've developed a pretty good emotional IQ, and I always remember to tell people when I think they're good at something.

I am open, loving, and looking
What I’m doing with my life
I'm the office manager for a non-profit that organizes the biggest party in the city. This came about after working at a university for nearly 20 years, it's a pretty major career change, but I'm really proud I was able to survive and adapt in this crazy economy. You can teach an old dog new tricks!

Outside of that, I put an enormous amount of my energy and time supporting a local animal shelter. Specifically, I do a lot of work with cats - getting them adopted helping people find the right cat for them, and everything from nail maintenance to training new volunteers how to (safefully) show them to the public. It's really rewarding, but means I need to plan my weekends weeks in advance, which means that impulsive trip to the Farmers Market needs to be planned.
I’m really good at
Listening to people. Restraining cats. Listening to people while restraining cats. Defusing tense moments between people. Reinventing myself. Helping people reinvent themselves.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall, and I can be shy and a bit silly. Buy me a drink, and I'll warm up fast, but will get even sillier.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My tastes are too eclectic to list them all, but here's a few. Movies: Red, 2046, Amelie, Heat, Ikiru, Reds, Talk to Her.

Books: I'm really into short fiction. In that regard, so favorite authors in that regard are Tobias Woolf, F. Scott Fitzgerald (I know he's old school, but read "Babylon Revisited" some day and tell me he's not still relevant, Drown. As for longer works: Love in the Time of Cholera, The House on Mango Street, High Fidelity, many, many more.

Music: The Sundays (I made a Pandora station out of them, it's awesome!), The Beatles, PJ Harvey, Radiohead, Los Lobos, Tori Amos, Juliana Hatfield, X, The Pretenders, I've discovered this band called Ivy that I'm officially crazy for.
Six things I could never do without
A soundtrack of some sort, an internet connection, some form of written communication, water, a way to physically relieve stress, like running, swimming, or heck, even [sex], and of course, cats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
[Cats], about how all human communication fails just a little bit. How to perform better at my job, How to improve that, how to improve myself. How I can possibly play a role in making this world a little better. How I'm going to make a living doing this in this beautiful but ridiculously expensive city.
On a typical Friday night I am
Thinking about volunteer gig on Saturday! Often on a bar stool, making notes and thinking what lovely Mission District take out I'd like that night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes fear intimacy as much as I desire it, kind like the cats I work with.
You should message me if
you want to take a chance on something, believe that relationships are something you have to work on daily to make them successful. My busy season at work has ended, and I'm willing to make the time to really get to know someone special.

I guess I should add the 800 lb gorilla to the conversation - my sexuality. At my age, it's not a phase I'm going through. It's what and who I am. I'm very public - I have to be (I think it's cool and kind of odd that someone wrote me into an article in Wikipedia) considering my job. Anyone crazy enough to be with me has to be willing to live with this.

There's a huge difference between a passing attraction and a loving commitment to one person. It's infinite.
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