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My self-summary
Last updated: August 27, 2016

First thing you need to know about me: I am married and not looking to change that fact. SlutBamwalla and I have been married for over eighteen years now, and we are polyamorous. If you don't know what that means or think it means we're swingers, then stop reading now, go read this page, and then come back. I am also involved with Yventide, a trans/genderqueer boi who I have been with for over eight years. I love her, she loves me, and I'm not looking to change that.

I am also not looking for a fuckbuddy. I've no interest in casual sex. I WILL NOT HELP YOU CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER! I am looking for someone, man or woman, interested in exploring an actual dating relationship. I am looking for someone for myself. Not for sharing. I am not recruiting a third for my husband. I've no interests in threesomes or the like. I merely desire a secondary relationship, one-on-one, in addition to my marriage and my partnership.

I'm a homebody; I don't often go out socially. I want to be honest: I deal with a lot of social anxiety. Crowds can overwhelm me, leading to panic attacks. It's why I prefer dates that involve staying home and binging on Netflix. I also like having people over to my house for game nights where I cook and we spend hours playing Cards Against Humanity, Munchkin, or any other game while laughing.

Also, I am a large woman. If that doesn't work for you, then don't waste your time or mine by messaging. I'm not look for fat fetishists or fatphobic assholes. And if we don't have a match percentage of at least 60%, then don't even bother.

I am imaginative, dedicated, and ironic.

Full disclosure: I also suffer with chronic illness and chronic pain. This has been building for several years, but I just received my official diagnosis in March 2015. I am pretty much a walking pharmacy. :) It limits my ability to go out even more than my social anxieties, so having someone who would rather spend an evening in than out is a big bonus. :) If you can't understand, sympathize, empathize, and be compassionate about chronic illness and pain, then please, don't message me. I am open about these things, so don't be afraid to ask any questions you might have.
What I’m doing with my life
I am an author of QUILTBAG erotic fiction with several best-selling books. I spend much of my time writing. I also started a Zibbet shop with my partner selling perfume blends, bath products, and homemade rune sets: Divining By Northstar. Top it all off, I am one of the organizers of a yearly GLBTQ multimedia convention in Tampa: RainbowCon. I also love to cook, and I have a little menagerie of pets. Busy-busy!
I’m really good at
Writing, cooking, jewelry making, resin and clay crafting, sarcasm, painting.
The first things people usually notice about me
Usually my hair and my eyes. I'm a natural ginger. :D
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Lord of the Rings, The Silmarillion, The Histories of Middle-Earth, The Last Herald Mage Trilogy, The Sandman, The Shining, Carrie, The Second Child, Mutation, Black Butler, Loveless, Death Note, Saiyuki. I'm just a big fan of 90s young adult fiction, fantasy, gay romance, and horror/thriller.

Movies: Deadpool, Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Two Weeks Notice, Easy A, The Replacements, Groundhog Day, Basic, The General's Daughter, The Others, Labyrinth, Legend, The Last Unicorn, Transformers, Wilde, Serenity, The Taking of Deborah Logan, The Cabin in the Woods, Zombieland, Tucker and Dale vs Evil

Television: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, BBC Top Gear, Sherlock, Brimstone, Forever Knight, Star Trek: Voyager, American Dad, Queer As Folk (US), Firefly, Wonder Years, The Supersizers Go...

Music: Breaking Benjamin, Linkin Park, Rachael Sage, Vienna Teng, Three Days Grace, Evanescence, Tori Amos, Adam Lambert, Ben Jelen, Slipknot, The Brother's Bright, Lady GaGa, Kate Miller-Heidke, Heather Dale, Kelly Clarkson, Lorde, Meatloaf, Pink, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, 30 Seconds to Mars... though I tend to like songs, not necessarily artists.

Songs: Blank Space (the only Taylor Swift song I like), Carousel, Blood On My Name, Dollhouse (Jai Wolf Remix), Try, Some Nights, Here's to Us, Cut, Somebody That I Used To Know, The Devil Wears a Suit, Glory and Gore, The Power Is Mine, Let Me Entertain You, Runnin', Marchin On

Musicals: Jekyll & Hyde: The Gothic Musical Thriller, Les Miserables, Newsies, Next to Normal, Little Shop of Horrors, Assassins, Chess

Food: snow crab, feta cheese, melon (just about any type), honeycrisp apples, strawberries, red grapes, peanut butter
Six things I could never do without
1. My husband. There is no overriding reason other than he is an integral part of who and what I am.

2. My partner. Without Kris, life is quite boring. :)

3. Something to write on and with -- be it a laptop with a word processor or a napkin and lipstick. I need to write.

4. Internet connection. Lifeline. Yes.

5. Air conditioning. OMG, living on this planet without AC would be intolerable.

6. Daniel, my sweet ginger tabby ESA (emotional support animal).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The voices and worlds in my head. About 3/4 of my waking moments are filled with thoughts of my writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Writing, typically. I devote quite a lot of time to it, because in order to make it in the publishing world, you have to. Some Friday nights are spent vegging with the husband-thing and the boi-thing watching movies or shows we stream through Netflix or Hulu or Amazon, which happens to be a favorite way of mine to spend Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like watching two gay men get it on in a porn movie. As much as I like to be with women, I like to watch guys together... which is probably why most of what I write is homoerotic in nature.
You should message me if
You are looking for a relationship with a slightly neurotic, chronically ill writer. If you are poly or understanding of poly. In other words, I am not looking to replace my husband or my boi. I've kinda gotten used to them. If you don't mind pets, as I have one large dog and fourteen cats. If you like watching television while cuddling on the couch (one of my favorite activities). If you don't mind being subjected to the worlds and characters in my head and asked your opinions.

Most importantly, if you are capable of saying more than "hi" or "hey sexy" in your opening message. Show me that you've read my profile by engaging me in some kind of conversation if you want me to respond to you!

I'm a complicated gal, and I hope I'm worth getting to know. ;)
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