First thing you need to know about me: I am married and not looking to change that fact. SlutBamWalla and I have been married for over eighteen years now, and we are polyamorous. If you don't know what that means or think it means we're swingers, then stop reading now, go read this page, and then come back. I am also involved with Yventide, a trans/genderqueer boi who I have been with for over eight years. I love her, she loves me, and I'm not looking to change that.
I am also not looking for a fuckbuddy. I've no interest in casual sex. I WILL NOT HELP YOU CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER! I am looking for someone, man or woman, interested in exploring an actual dating relationship. I am looking for someone for myself. Not for sharing. I am not recruiting a third for my husband. I've no interests in threesomes or the like. I merely desire a secondary relationship, one-on-one, in addition to my marriage and my partnership.
Now, that said, I would still prefer someone who identifies as bisexual (or variations thereof: pan-, sapio-, etc). The reason is that even though I'm not looking for a threesome, I want someone who will at least get along with my husband, and as we are both bisexual, we have had the best luck in friends with people who identify similarly.
I'm a homebody; I don't often go out socially. I want to be honest: I deal with a lot of social anxiety. Crowds can overwhelm me, leading to panic attacks. It's why I prefer dates that involve staying home and binging on Netflix. I also like having people over to my house for game nights where I cook and we spend hours playing Cards Against Humanity, Munchkin, or any other game while laughing.
Also, I am a large woman. If that doesn't work for you, then don't waste your time or mine by messaging. I'm not look for fat fetishists or fatphobic assholes. And if we don't have a match percentage of at least 60%, then don't even bother.
I am imaginative, dedicated, and ironic.
Full disclosure: I also suffer with chronic illness and chronic pain. This has been building for several years, but I just received my official diagnosis in March 2015. I am pretty much a walking pharmacy. :) It limits my ability to go out even more than my social anxieties, so having someone who would rather spend an evening in than out is a big bonus. :) If you can't understand, sympathize, empathize, and be compassionate about chronic illness and pain, then please, don't message me. I am open about these things, so don't be afraid to ask any questions you might have.
Movies: Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Two Weeks Notice, Easy A, The Replacements, Groundhog Day, Basic, The General's Daughter, The Others, Labyrinth, Legend, The Last Unicorn, Transformers, Wilde, Serenity, The Taking of Deborah Logan, The Cabin in the Woods, Zombieland, Tucker and Dale vs Evil
Television: Mad Men, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, BBC Top Gear, Glee, Sherlock, Brimstone, Forever Knight, Star Trek: Voyager, American Dad, Queer As Folk (US), Firefly, Wonder Years
Music: Breaking Benjamin, Linkin Park, Rachael Sage, Vienna Teng, Three Days Grace, Evanescence, Tori Amos, Adam Lambert, Ben Jelen, Slipknot, The Brother's Bright, Lady GaGa, Kate Miller-Heidke, Heather Dale, Kelly Clarkson, Lorde, Meatloaf, Pink, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, 30 Seconds to Mars... though I tend to like songs, not necessarily artists.
Songs: Blank Space (the only Taylor Swift song I like), Carousel, Blood On My Name, Dollhouse (Jai Wolf Remix), Try, Some Nights, Here's to Us, Cut, Somebody That I Used To Know, The Devil Wears a Suit, Glory and Gore, The Power Is Mine, Let Me Entertain You, Runnin', Marchin On
Musicals: Jekyll & Hyde: The Gothic Musical Thriller, Les Miserable, Newsies, Next to Normal, Little Shop of Horrors, Assassins, Chess
Food: snow crab, feta cheese, melon (just about any type), honeycrisp apples, strawberries, red grapes, peanut butter
2. My partner. Without Kris, life is quite boring. :)
3. Something to write on and with -- be it a laptop with a word processor or a napkin and lipstick. I need to write.
4. Internet connection. Lifeline. Yes.
5. Air conditioning. OMG, living on this planet without AC would be intolerable.
6. Salad. I practically live on this stuff, for which I receive no end of good-natured lectures from my nutritionist for.