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My self-summary
Wow, I'm really impressed by the changes made to gender and orientation options! Also, if you've noticed that our % match increased drastically, it's because I went through my questions and my answers are a lot different then when I first created my account five years ago.

*As an aside, I was looking and some of y'alls answers to questions and I was surprised at the number of sexist, fat shaming, racist, ableist answers from folks who belong to 2-3 different groups facing oppression. So here's my opinions, take them or leave them:

-Obese/fat people are beautiful and deserving of love
-Men are not smarter than women
-Not wanting to date somebody because of their race is racist
-Vocalizing strong negative opinions of a race is racist regardless of the reasons for the opinions
-Foreigners are just as valuable as fellow citizens
-Sometimes people need financial help from the government and the cost to you is minimal. Get over it.
-People often use substances because its how they survive in this world. They need support, not prejudice.

Well, now that that's done, lets get the good stuff over with: I'm polyamorous. This means that I believe in falling in love with a plurality of people simultaneously and being honest in all my relationships. It has been a wonderful experience and I'm hooked. I feel its a form of anarchy: the relationships are entered into based solely on the needs and happiness of the people involved as opposed to any form of hierarchy or structure.

This also extends to friendships. If I meet friends, then I will engage in that "relationship" to the extent that it is healthy for us to do so.

Well, that's it. I hope you enjoyed and that I piqued your curiosity so that we can chat and maybe get to know each other a bit better.

ps. I "like" anybody with an 80% or higher match with me. This is primarily because I hate the liking system on okcupid but also because I think y'all deserve it.
What I’m doing with my life
I currently have a job where I deal with people who are feeling socially isolated. Its a great job and I'm really getting to know Winnipeg well because of it. That being said, if you think there's something that would be fun, new and exciting about the city, I'd love to hear more about it.

I also like to write short stories. This may be a phase, however because it only started last fall and there's only been 2 stories. They're pretty good but who knows if I'll continue with it. It is fun though.

I am taking a Masters program which might take me several years. I think its been over 10 years since I've wanted to do a program like this. Hopefully I'll graduate and become a family therapist. I hope to do this without making money.

Lastly, I like to keep active. I bike for my job and I can end up doing close to 2 hours of biking in a day. Its really great because I get to see so much more of the city than if I was on a bus or a car.
I’m really good at
Meditation and relaxation. I feel that too much of an emphasis is placed on production and not enough on doing nothing. Sometimes I literally just like to stop and smell the flowers. I really like dandelions. I'm also good at helping others in my life slow down and relax too.

I also like to listen, respect boundaries, cook and play board games.
The first things people usually notice about me
I would really hope that it's my clever wit, propensity for puns, approachable smile and intelligence. But I bet it my scalp :P
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I go through phases of intense reading and I can do 3 books in a very short period but other than that I'm not an avid reader. What I really like is when somebody tells me about a book they've read, what they liked about it and the ideas they gleaned.

Movies: But I'm a cheerleader, The Iron Giant, V for Vendetta

Shows: I like shows that mess with norms. I like it when episodes aren't predictable. I've found Adventure Time, Rick and Morty and Gravity Falls to be really great. Can you suggest others? Perhaps something that isn't a cartoon ;)

Music: Electro Dubstep primarily, but anything else is good too. I'm a big fan of music that has a political or social commentary. Think macklemore's same love

Food: yes please. I like trying all sorts of new flavours.
The six things I could never do without
1. Breaking the rules. I enjoy finding ways to accomplish what a rule sets out to do while breaking the rule. For instance, in a workplace that wants a positive, professional atmosphere but discourages fraternizing, I'm going to fraternize even if it gets me fired because fraternizing is a better way to get a positive, professional atmosphere.

2. Social Change. I like to feel that I have an impact and a positive one on the people around me. What I like to see is social change which brings about more freedom and respect for all individuals.

3. Affirmation. One of the few books I've read and will recommend is book called "the five love languages". It teaches people how to communicate love. I express and feel love primarily through affirming words.

4. Stimulating conversation. I need my mind to be engaged to form connections with people. Also, sharing ideas is a great way to learn and learn how to love others.

5. Time alone. What can I say? I'm an introvert. I still enjoy time with others and I don't get cranky when I need to be alone.

6. A comfortable bed. I love sleep so I might as well love the bed I spend so much time with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to create a culture of care and compassion. Any ideas?
On a typical Friday night I am
thinking about work on the weekend, lol
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like to tell jokes about vegetables but most people don't carrot all.

I also have a fantasy that a woman I'm attracted to is sitting with a close friend discussing a potential boyfriend. The friend says, "but he's so hot". And the woman replies, "yes, but can he listen and do the dishes without being asked?"
You should message me if
Anybody can message me. However, preference will be given to the following:
Self identified anarchists
People with blue hair
People who don't feel the need to shave any body hair
People who don't feel the need to wear make-up
People who don't feel the need to conform to social norms
And people who don't judge the above.