A quote I have seen attributed to Dr. Seuss seems apropos: "We’re all a little weird. And life is weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness -- and call it love." And that, really, is all I am looking for in life: someone to be weird with. But I want to be one of those couples that still holds hands when they're 80; a "we" instead of a "you and me."
I am drawn to the unconventional and unusual, to the odd; to the strange. Aesthetically, I am drawn to women with an unconventional and/or unusual appearance; intellectually, I am drawn to women with an unconventional and/or unusual manner. If you pride yourself on being normal and fitting in, we almost certainly will not get along; if you look like a supermodel, I almost certainly will not be attracted. The attraction lies in the strangeness.
My own strangeness:
I am a smart-ass; I am goofy. I like semicolons; I like dashes (and parentheses) -- and overly long ellipses................. I like art galleries, browsing in book stores, gardening, cafés, and long, aimless walks. I read constantly, usually several books at a time. I do crossword puzzles in my head, without writing the answers in. I like doing things with my hands, which is why I am usually to be found wearing at least one Band-Aid....
I love to cook, and am quite good at it, but rarely put much effort into it just for myself. Having someone around to cook for (or better yet, with) would be a truly wonderful thing. I am, however, extremely committed to being vegetarian (for ethical reasons) and I would find it *very* difficult to date someone who did not share these ideals. FYI.
I am not very good at taking myself seriously. I am a news junkie, a knowledge nerd, and an obsessive collector of knowledge of any sort.
I am endlessly fascinated by words. And light. And people. And small, mysterious objects whose purpose or function is not readily apparent.
I like a hike in the mountains just as much as I like an evening spent on the couch in front of a movie or with a book. I enjoy travel (and have traveled extensively), but this is my 40th address in 20 cities in 11 states and 2 countries, and I am really hoping to stay put for a while. I love my home, my cat, my work, my friends new and old, and everything about my life -- all I lack is a companion to share the adventure with.
And of course writing, sculpting, making things, breaking things, fixing things -- I am *very* good with my hands...... (Okay, I *know* that's cheesy, but it's not my fault. My friend Rachel told me to write that.)
Music: Pretty much anything but country or reggae; I even love gospel music, even though I'm an atheist! I have a strong preference for shoegaze-y and ambient/drone music, especially if it has ethereal female vocals -- though I also like New Wave, punk, and industrial. Specific bands are (in completely random order) Cocteau Twins, Dead Can Dance, This Mortal Coil, Switchblade Symphony, Rose Chronicles, PJ Harvey, Stars of the Lid, Lycia, Queen, Journey, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Love Spirals Downwards, lovesliescrushing, Beirut, Orchestar Zirkonium, Billy Holiday, Dresden Dolls, Tapping the Vein, Android Lust, Mira, Rosewater Elizabeth, Edith Piaf, Emilie Autumn, Brian Eno, Django Reinhardt, Low, Einsturzende Neubauten, Portishead, Wall of Voodoo, Dark Sanctuary, Flaming Lips, Throwing Muses, plus just about any classical music from the medieval to the modern era.
Movies/TV: Wings of Desire, Elling, Three Amigos!, Tapeheads, Donnie Darko, It's a Wonderful Life (yeah, I'm a sap....), Spirited Away, The Gleaners and I, Buckaroo Banzai, Pi, Amelie, The Imposters, Mythbusters, Greg the Bunny, The Simpsons, Futurama, House, The Red Green Show, The Young Ones, Monty Python, Fawlty Towers, Big Bang Theory, This Old House or any other "house porn," Nova, Nature, Masterpiece Theatre, Mystery!, gardening shows.
Food: Well, as long as it's vegetarian (obviously) and gluten-free (sadly), just about anything. Top of the list, though, are Ethiopian, Thai, Indian, Middle Eastern, Italian. And I can absolutely rock a Really Big Salad. And I make what is officially the *World's Best* French Toast. And I love to bake.... No, that doesn't really narrow it down at all -- like I said, just about anything. And often. One of my best friends has nicknamed me "Metabolism Boy." I generally do my best to eat healthy, and my diet is mostly organic, but also enjoy the luxury of Bad for You food (probably more often than I should, actually). Also, I used to publish a magazine of beer reviews, I currently review wine, and I loves me the hell outta some coffee.......
So I will assume that *things* here means concepts more than actual objects, in which case my answers are art, literature, music, green growing life, the opportunity to create, and friends with whom to share conversation about it all.
Also, I am not nearly as tough and self-sufficient as I pretend to be -- I may act like a crotchety old man, but I'm really a big softie.