30 Marshfield, United States
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My self-summary
I eat a lot of cheese.

Kindness is important above all.

I am grateful for the circumstances/friends/family around me that allow me to live a successful life by the metrics in which I place importance.

I get restless from time to time.

I don't mind silence, I don't mind being alone, and melancholy fits me like an old coat.

I'm not perfect by a long shot

I'd like to be with someone who can laugh at the world with me.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a single father with primary custody, so my life revolves around my 2 boys 5 days a week or so, and I'm quite careful about who I bring into their lives. I am a self employed, successful private contractor, I set my own hours to work around the kids. I like the freedom to work how I choose and the autonomy of doing things my own way. I like challenges. I'm independently reviewed so you can see what other people think of me!

Paying attention to current events, local, political, everything. I like to think of the world as a whole and where I might find a place in it. I listen to Pandora with one ear and NPR with the other. Take that literally, though the metaphor is attractive now that I see it in print. You can have an ear too, as long as the NPR ear isn't listening to "Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me", or Radiolab.
I'm game for a night out, a night in, a romp into Boston, road trip in or out of state. I consume adventure with a fiery passion. Maybe a bit over zealously. Seriously, even OKC has "more passion-driven" as my dominant trait. That's right, stalk the shit out of my profile and wonder at how connected you already feel to me. Is it mutual? All this online dating stuff is mysterious.

My shit is together. As much as one can keep one's shit contained.
I’m really good at
Wordplay, sarcasm, appearing mischievous, laughing, compliments, using fragments of sentences, flavors, engineering custom solutions, romantic spontaneity, finding the exact right phrase, being pedantic, massages
The first things people usually notice about me
"I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not right now"
- anyone I've ever held a conversation with

My beard. Eyes are up here, ladies.

I am extraordinarily resilient, and have the strength to always work hard and land on my feet. You'll only pick that up if you're intuitive though, or if you read it here, first.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Kurt Vonnegut, David Sedaris, Robert Jordan, Vonnegut, Douglas Adams, H.G. Wells, H.P. Lovecraft, Orson Scott Card, Vonnegut, Isaac Asimov, Vonnegut, Bradbury. More. Did I mention Vonnegut?

Two Door Cinema Club, The Shins, Cake, Franz Ferdinand, Lilly Allen, Modest Mouse, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Zox, Tristan Prettyman, Muse, Kate Nash, Death Cab for Cutie, Regina Spektor, Bon Iver, radiohead, Ok Go, the Strokes, the Arctic Monkeys, The Postal Service, Thom Yorke, Daft Punk, The Fratellis, Ocelot, Deadmau5, Pendulum, Kaskade, Justice, Ingrid Michaelson, The hush sound, The Decemberists, Tarkio, and far too many more to list, my typical sound is alternative, something dark or ironic. I also have a soft spot for select singer/songwriters.

I love italian, indian, mexican, french, american comfort foods, desserts, hors d'oeuvres, cheese is kind of a big deal (cheddars and goudas, not so much swiss), asian foods, fresh vegetables, fish of most kinds, anything trader joe's; I've only set one thing on fire unintentionally. I am pretty educated about food, and I know how to eat really well, but sometimes I just want a steak bomb with mayo and pickles.
The six things I could never do without
I am ridiculously low maintenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How in my personality traits it has me listed as both "more literary" and "less well read". How do you know how much I've read okcupid, and are you really fit to judge that way?

Current Events, Red Heads (yes that is a proper noun), Philosophy, steampunk (and how little I have compared to how cool I think it is), neuroscience, astronomy, physics, gadgets, our place in the universe ("less why we are here" and more "where the hell are we, really"), politics and the preservation of the status quo at the cost of foundation rattling progress (and how shitty that is [the staus quo, not the progress]), Nikola Tesla, the existence of Atlantis , old gadgets like The Antikythera Mechanism, the periodic table of elements, portmanteau; like frust, procrasturbate, and parsec.

If multiverse theory is correct, then you and I have already dated an infinite number of times, been infinitely married, infinitely broken up, and infinitely stood up by one another. We have an infinite number of children, have an infinite number of degrees, and have physically touched each and every solitary piece of the world's soil. I am not intimidated by the here and now, what will be and has been goes on forever into eternity, all we can do is enjoy the ride in the present, and trust that the universe has every possible base covered, because it does.
On a typical Friday night I am
In Boston, at a bar or a show or a friend's place. But maybe we could do something fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've done some unconventional modelling.
You should message me if
You would like a response. As a rule everybody gets one, as I know how much it blows to get blown off.

You love to laugh.
You know when to take things seriously, and can let it go the rest of the time.

You want to come hiking in the blue hills

You want to visit a meadery.

You want to try out archery.

You want to do a high ropes course.

You want to go to a show (theater, music, comedy)