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My self-summary
I'm thoughtful, intelligent and nerdy. Really don't know what boredom is, because there is just so much to learn and do. I'm open minded and I use many long complicated words and short, profane words to express complex thoughts. I'm a smart ass, but I'm certainly not mean about it.

Here's a list of interests and activities that float my boat: adoptees searching (I'm a reunited adoptee), anime, archery (re-curve and medieval crossbow), traveling (I would like to do more international travel, but the economy the way it is...), going to museums, learning about history , irish/celtic culture and language, studying mystical and occult systems, digital and film photography, weaving, knitting, spinning (on wheel and my specialty, drop spindle), gardening, herbalism, Japanese culture and art, cartoons and animation, graphic art, studying mythology, drumming (doumbek and djembe), ecology and sustainability, genetic diversity, cyberization (is it time for my robot body yet?), singing, etc. I love Steampunk and Victoriana and both art and literary movements. I'm interested in, and want to be involved with, the "maker" community. I would like to develop my art in metal, glass and electronics.

The older I get, the closer I am to knowing how ignorant I will be on the day I die.

I love driving down the highway, the windows and the sunroof open, singing loud with the stereo up loud. I really do not care if anyone disapproves. I have no one to please these days but myself.

I want to meet people who have something to say, and something to offer to the world. I want people in my life that encourage me to laugh. Please note that I have zero tolerance for racism and sexism, and am a staunch supporter of gay-marriage and women's rights, especially reproductive rights. I am always astounded when someone contacts me who is obviously racist or homophobic. And you thought we get along beeecause......???

Scammers, back away slowly. I know you and your patterns. Move along. Nothing to find here.

I am intelligent, irreverent, and curious. I am a maker. If you are too, there's a significant chance that we will get along well.
What I’m doing with my life
Technical support services for internet and network connectivity for education and non-profits.

Currently taking a break from college; not sure when I can go back ($$$ & time= *sigh*). I would like to get a Master's in Library Science.

I have back and hip dysfunction that has been identified as genetic (my dad had severe back problems of the same type). Sometime soon I will have to have my hip replaced...will that make me a cyborg?

"Incipere multost quam impetrare facilius."
I’m really good at
Making stuff. Writing stuff. Reading stuff. Watching stuff. Being a smart ass about stuff. Rolling my eyes at stupid stuff. Singing in the car. Making you laugh if I like you.

*just a side though...why doesn't OKC insert "I really suck at..."? That would probably tell me more about a person than "I'm really good at..."*
The first things people usually notice about me
My massive unicorn steed, perhaps? no? Ah, those curvy horns like Tim Curry had in "Legend," only more petite, because getting through doors with those things is nothing but hazardous. Oh, probably not. In truth, I'm guessing that you'll notice I'm overweight. That's so....common....*sigh* I also have red hair...and you know what that means...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Science fiction, some fantasy, graphic novels, non-fiction, etc. DeLint, Gaiman, Gibson, Bester, Sterling, Octavia Butler, Tanith Lee are favorites. Non-fiction about everything and anything. The latest favorites have been Lev Grossman's ongoing series "The Magicians," The Milkweed Triptych by Ian Tregillis and Erin Morganstern's "The Night Circus". I adore the book "The Phantom Tollbooth," and I'm still waiting for my box to arrive...

Movies: Matrix trilogy, Amelie, Spirited Away, MirrorMask, Kurosawa films, David Lynch films, Miyazaki films, Jeunet films, Fido, Fur, Ghost in the Shell, Blade Runner, Dark City, Metropolis, The Fall, Kamakazi Girls, Run Lola Run, Sita Sings The Blues, Southland Tales, Fight Club, Serenity. Love traditional Kung-fu and action movies...do not love typical "chick flicks."

TV: Deadliest Catch, Anthony Bourdain's No Reservations, Bizarre Foods, Mythbusters; Adult Swim, The IT Crowd, Torchwood, Doctor Who, Full Metal Jousting. Much love for late 60's and early 70's "Japan-amation" and the series Space 1999;

Music: Life has a sound track. Techno, classic rock, marching band music, 70's funk and pop. I adore O Fortuna which everyone insists on calling Carmina Burana. I'm very fond of ELO and Queen.;

Food: Japanese (especially sushi), Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Kalamata olives. I used to love dark beer, but can no longer drink it. I am wheat allergic, gluten intolerant, and have pretty well quit eating grains for health reasons (and yes that makes eating problematic). I am a sucker for mochi and pearl milk tea. I've gone back to drinking coffee. I forgot how much I love coffee. Kona blend. I think I need some right now. Weirdly enough, my last "favorite" thing has become kombucha. I was always EWWWWWWWW. And then I drank Synergy kombucha. Turns out that I still surprise myself.

Really this is a very short list representing a very long list of what I enjoy. There's a very short list of what I do not like: the movies The Piano and Fargo, Celine Dion and Brussels sprouts. Ew. Oh, and cheese food...food for cheese, not for humans.
Six things I could never do without
HEY, don't tell me what to do, OKC. Screw artificial limitations. NO LIMITATIONS. If I need 1 thing or 100 things...well, that's what I need, right?

Allergy medication, a good book, air conditioning, a dependable car, indoor plumbing, contact lenses, a knitting project and a high speed Internet connection. Oh, and of course...my flexible sense of the absurd.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why is it that most of the people who are compatible with me, and who seem to be the most interesting, are living in the Pacific Northwest? It's really maddening. I just took a trip out there, and I can see why. I really fit in Portland. I'm in love with the entire area.

Is it me, or have people lost the ability and possibly the will to have a conversation for the purpose of getting to know what another person thinks and feels? Has the advent of our Facebook society left us unable to say anything remotely meaningful? Is everyone's attention span that short now? Or is everyone too nervous about online dating because they watched an episode of "Catfish"?

Why do some people have these beliefs that women who are overweight are somehow nicer or have better "hearts" than other women? News flash: we don't. Any woman may have her priorities straight, in whatever way that merges with yours. If you think that overweight women put up with more crap because they are desperate, um, not if they have intact self-worth.

When can I have my robot body? The more I know about genetics, the more I find out that I was born "behind the eight ball." I am trying my best to try to find out how I can be as healthy and functional for as long as possible. I am losing weight, and working out.

I wonder if all this is just a dream...and what will happen when I wake up.
On a typical Friday night I am
Let's say...not spontaneously combusting. I avoid that even more than that which may or may not be typical.

Chances are I've gone to my local knitting store, where I work and hang out, to chat with friends after work. Sometimes the chatting extends to all hours. I like my friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Private is private. I'll put what I'm in the mood to say here.

I'm in a long term, long distance relationship with a great guy that I found on OkC. For everyone still looking for someone wonderful, don't lose hope! You too might find someone wonderful on here. Patience, Grasshopper!!

For the record, I am 100% monogamous, and absolutely faithful. I still keep a profile active because I've found some really interesting, cool people here. I reserve the right to make deep and meaningful relationships with other people until I'm no longer breathing. I don't believe there is any such thing as the "right" person anymore. There is potential for great synergy between two people...it is up to them to build trust and work at valuing and amazing each other. There is nothing more beautiful as two people who encourage each other to embrace wonder and who know how to play...even while they take care of business. Joy is underrated.

I am quite a bit less civilized, tame, dispassionate and vanilla than I sound in this profile. It's up to you to find out how.

I' m bisexual. No, it does not double my chances of getting a date on Saturday night. For the record being bisexual does not make me "confused." I do not "miss" the other sex.

I love my friends.

So, I'm fat, so the hell what? Would it make any difference if I said that I eat well, I have documented endocrine dysfunction and a genetic back injury? Usually not. You want to know how overweight I am, you are welcome to ask. I have a current picture posted. I am an interesting, funny, loyal friend, and I make every effort to know the people I choose to love deeply. Does that make me any more attractive?

I think people who can do that little raise one eyebrow at something questionable...well, I think that's pretty hot. No, I can't do it, even after extensive effort.
You should message me if
I'll let Henry Rollins speak for me in regards of what I am looking for:
"I want a (man/woman) who can sit me down, shut me up and tell me ten things I don’t already know…and make me laugh. I don’t care what you look like, just turn me on (…) Just have something in there. I want one of them READERS, that’s what I want…"
The two of us