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My self-summary
i think life is an amazing mystery and we are all brave just for showing up to it each day.

I am dorky, gentle, quiet and observant. and strong.

i've always been more attracted to people's kind energy than their gender, orientation, prestige, possessions or looks. if i have a type it is for nerdy gentle naturophiles.

physical chemistry only happens for me when there is a comfortable emotional and intellectual chemistry (and sometimes not even then, but enjoy the other kinds of chemistry with gratefulness and joy)
What I’m doing with my life
i am a homeowner of a small cheerful old house. i have wonderful grown children, and a somewhat cranky cat.

i've recently retired and am enjoying some lifelong avocations (writing, making little art things, travel, enjoying nature and being curious about people).

i am often out walking local trails in a leisurely way, taking photos.

i've had a pretty time consuming cancer hobby the last five years (and don't mind questions about it). like all other humans, i am terminal. (just maybe sooner than later). this means i'm very focused on the joys of now, and am not looking for a traditional connection.

i don't need a caregiver or a rescuer. fortunately, i have a beautiful support system, and am taking good care of myself (nutrition, exercise, sleep). sometimes i have treatments to do (and a new hairdo). often my cancer is behaving, and i'm feeling all right, and can enjoy adventures.

even though i have this big thing going on in my life i am interested to learn about another's life, to celebrate their joys and care about their concerns. however, i am honestly not available for unnecessary drama in any form
I’m really good at
enjoying the day to day things.

noticing nature. realizing the utter strength and utter fragility of life.

listening to and eliciting your thoughts, day and night dreams, goals, worries, ideas, stories

seeing the loveliness of gender and orientation without a preconceived notion.

writing has been a lifelong pasttime for me. lately i've been expanding my creativity to other arts too
The first things people usually notice about me
dorky quiet cheerfullness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: lynda barry, anne tyler, rumi, mary oliver, rilke, walt whitman. laura ingalls wilder was my childhood celebrity crush.

movies: a room with a view, ma vie en rose, antonia's line, emma, carwash, breakfast on pluto, together, biloxi blues, to kill a mockingbird, muriel's wedding, pride and prejudice

music: van morrison, marvin gaye, kd lang. t-rex. leonard cohen. the music made by young people i know.
Six things I could never do without
daughters. cat. library. trees. humor. notebook.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the world, the environment, fair wages, clean water for people. racial and gender equality. i think about how to live in action and contemplation. i wonder how to give room for grief, compassion and working for justice in balance with enjoying all that's beautiful in the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
various things. maybe reading a book. or visiting with one of my daughters or friends. or making a collage. or watching a film. or just relaxing in the quiet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
even though i'm in this precarious situation, i would still like to experience affectionate companionship. i like that feeling of growing with someone (or someones). talking, romance, cuddling, walks, giving and receiving gentle feedback, meals, sharing feelings, supporting one another's best hopes and being there to sort out life's challenges.

at the same time i know asking others to connect with me deeply is a risk for their heart and mine.

my situation and being an introvert can sometimes make me a flaky friend. very present sometimes and then suddenly less available. i'm not good as someone's only or main friend or intimate. and i kind of hate talking on the phone. (email and text works much better). i also have a preference for people who live close by, so we can get to know one another, in person, at a slow pace.
You should message me if
something resonated here.
you are comfortable talking about your feelings/fears of a possibly time limited connection.
you pledge allegiance to the world.
you are a gentle person who needs occasional solitude.
you like written words.
you are nature's bride or groom.
you are kind of romantic and kind of practical at the same time.
The two of us