OneDarkFlame_
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My self-summary
*just looking for friends right now... not really in the dating mood.

Born in Poland, lived in the US most of my life... Just moved to Maynooth in March.

For a while now I have been trying to explain to others something about myself that I could not find a word for. Recently, I have found a word to describe this: I am a sapiosexual.

I have a child-like enthusiasm about me and a sense of wonder about the world.

I'd say I'm fairly nerdy/geeky and get along well with those types

I feel deeply but am logical at the same time, sometimes its a bit of a push/pull with
my heart and my head. However, usually my head wins.

I am very honest. And I want honesty from others, even if it hurts me. There
is no reason to lie. The truth will come out in the end anyway...
why waste someones time? If someone doesn't like something about
you, and they are willing to let it come between you, it will
eventually anyway.

Id rather be hated for something I truly am,
than loved for something I am not.

I am highly honorable and ethical by nature. Sometimes to my own detriment.

I try to live my life in a way that if I were to get hit by a bus tomorrow, I would have no
regrets.

I love to experience life to the fullest I can. This does
not mean I value experience over doing the right thing. I try to do the right thing in my life, even if that means I have to
sacrifice something 'fun' or 'interesting', etc.

I find good communication to be of utmost importance in any
friendship/relationship.

I like people who are unique and not
afraid to be themselves. Being different is a GOOD thing!

I tend to think about everything and anything, always analyzing and coming up
with my own theories. My mind is always going! So is my heart.

I want to learn for the rest of my life! I adore knowledge. I find most subjects fascinating in one way or another.

I'm am a passionate person, and have a tendency to put everything I have into everything I do.

I am rather determined, live with conviction, and once I decide on a goal I waste no time in fulfilling it.. full steam ahead! This trait tends to come off as being the opposite of 'go with the flow', I have a directive.. Im intense and I fight hard for things I want in life. If you are looking for someone very easy going Im probably not your girl; though I can be that at times, naturally I have a more serious, systematic approach to life/problem solving.

I am an independent thinker: I tend to think things through for myself rather than just accept anything at face value or because someone said so. This and the above traits, make me a bit of a challenge. If you want someone easy, where you dont have to put much work into the relationship, Im also not your gal. I can be crazy, fun, and colorful... joking often, as well as very silly and goofy.. but Im not easy. If I love you, I will work hard to make the relationship a success. I want the same. I admire those who think for themselves and fight for the things they believe in/want/think etc.

Quite versatile. I'm a little bit of everything and looking for the same.

Ive had a lot of life experience, this can be both a good and a bad thing,
But I like to see it as that I learned a lot. Which is a good
thing. heh.

I laugh. a lot. Because I find humor in everyday life.

And for those of you who remember okc's three word thing: I am curious, intense, and quirky
What I’m doing with my life
Mostly, living it. We only live this life once and I want to experience as much of the things I find important as I can. I have wanted to move to Ireland since I was 5... I am finally doing that. I dont want to be held back by things that don't really matter in the grand scheme. I want to enjoy life and all it has to offer. Pick what I want to do and go do it!

I am a mother and a student. I try to be the best mother I can be to my 3 year old son. Also, I am just about finished (1 class to go) with my Business AA degree (level 7). I will be taking a few years off and working while I build my residency in Ireland so that I may start to work on a BS (level 8??), also in business. I mean hey, if youre going into business you need to know a little BS ;). Previously my goal was to obtain a Master's degree in Psychology (marriage and family therapy), which was my dream job since i was a child. However, circumstances have changed my previous plans.

I enjoy spending time with those that are important to me as well as meeting new people, watching good movies/shows, going down to the beach, reading, going on random adventures, playing music (guitar and drums), learning (i LOVE learning!)... I like just doing whatever happens to come into my head for the moment. However, I currently have very limited time to do all of the things I so love.

Other fun things: Board games, camping, concerts, cooking, arts and crafts (crocheting, scrapbooking, other projects), dinner parties, going to the local thrift store... lol.
I’m really good at
Conversations. Being fun and crazy without need for any substances. Writing. Understanding whats going on inside of people, often before they understand it themselves. Dealing with whatever life throws at me. Striking up a conversation with pretty much anyone. Making things happen. Reading peoples vibes. Arguing (not because I wanna argue, just that Im good at it). leaving an imprint on peoples lives (or so Im told). Cooking. Running the other way when people get too close too fast (timing is everything). Telling you what movie that actor was from. Giving advice. Going out in a moments notice (okay, so I need ten minutes but still lol). Finding humor in everyday life. =P
The first things people usually notice about me
I think probably the first thing people notice about me is that I am very expressive and rather honest/direct. I dont hide much... I just try to be myself as much as possible.

also, Im sort of an odd duck. I've rarely felt like I've fit in anywhere. Just kind of quirky. But I like it that way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Now this is the best section! Movies? Music? Books? AND food!?! Goodness me, I think Ive gone to heaven. lol ;)

Movies: Princess Bride, Interview with the Vampire, LOTR, Bram's Dracula, Underworld, Matrix, American Beauty, The Butterfly Effect, The Nightmare Before Christmas, The Fifth Element, Empire Records, Fight Club, Terminator (all), Back to the Future, The Neverending Story, Pirates of the Caribbean, Star Wars, Spider Man, The Prestige, Howls moving castle, Spirited away, The Crow, Lost Boys, Lucky # Slevin, Aliens, Harry Potter, Saved, Die Hard, Sin City, The 13th Floor, Equilibrium, Star Trek, Avatar, Before Sunset, Romeo and Juliet, All Disney, Ever After,Interstellar, Looper, 50 first dates, 13 going on 30, The Slipper and the Rose, Diwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, AI ...

Shows: I dont really watch TV anymore...but there are a few shows I really like: Sense 8, That 70's show, Sliders, Chobits, Avatar (last airbender)!!!!, Dexter, Heroes, Angel, Roswell, Mad Men is addicting! The occasional episode of family guy and courage the cowardly dog (that show is damn funny!).

Books: I would have to say that Anne Rice is my favorite fiction author. I love her vampire series. Im currently reading The Neverending Story and rereading Bram Stoker's Dracula. Any book that has to do with typology (MBTI, Keirsey, enneagram, Jungian functions, etc). I also very much enjoy reading books I can learn from...usually various non-fiction stuff etc.

Music: I <3 metal! llmll Deftones, Stabbing Westward, God lives underwater, Ours, Linkin Park, Tool, Perfect Circle, HIM, Danzig, Korn, Smashing Pumpkins, Metallica (old stuff), Offspring (old stuff), Def Leopard, Guns N Roses, AFI, My Chemical Romance, CKY, Jimmy Eat World, Incubus, Our Lady Peace, Cake, Jack Johnson, Content Life, Journey, Depeche Mode, The Cure, Talk Talk, Sarah Mclachlan, Coldplay, John Mayer, Keane, Beatles, Gipsy Kings, Modern Talking, ATB, Most 80's music, lots of classic rock, etc. HOZIER!

* this list needs some sort of update (1-11-08). Heres some other stuff Ive been listening to lately: Chevelle, Circa Survive, Seether, Last Falling, Apartment 26, Sister Machine Gun (Ive actually loved them for years heh), Mindless Self Indulgence, Muse, Red hot chili peppers, System of a down, Alanis Morissette, the Sundays, The Smiths, Lacuna Coil, and various metal and rock music.... (wow I really need to update this music list but I dont have time right now so its staying... 2/2016)

Foods:My absolute faves are Lobster and Crab, but I like a variety of different kinds of food. I like Polish food, Italian food, Thai food, Indian Food, Japanese Food...anything that is different/exotic and usually healthy. I loves them veggies! And I am not too fond of junk food/fast food. But I'll try anything...
The six things I could never do without
My Son (and family including my dog). Good conversation, music, freedom to explore, affection, true understanding...passion (and of course food and water and such things).

Recently Ive been realising more and more that I can do without quite a lot though...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I would like to experience next and how to make that happen. People and their motivations, their feelings, their thoughts, our similarities... helping people if they want it, my life, how I can be a better person, the future, the past, the now, why, does any of it even matter?, how I can learn/grow (or have learned) from the present circumstances, understanding, acceptance, the environment, FREEDOM!- demanding it for myself and others, yin/yang, nature, energy, school, health, finances, typology, music, movies, physical affection ;)... My mind goes a thousand miles per hour. I can even have two conversations at once!
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with my son if it's my night to have him. If not, I like to watch movies... see friends... go to shows (when the funds allow for it)... read... have meaningful conversations... playing a board game (or something like D&D..yes Im one of THOSE, lol). doing various projects. Going on random adventures! I prefer being around others and am usually okay doing whatever the group prefers or whatever seems like the thing to do in the moment.. but I am just fine on my own as well and can usually come up with something to entertain myself.. I never understood how anyone could be "bored" with how much there is to do in life! and sometimes Im studying a thing or two.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I haven't had the easiest past, but Ive beaten considerable odds to be the person that I am today. *flexes muscles* :)

Im addicted to chocolate!

and although metal/rock owns my heart <3.. I listen to totally cheesy horribly wonderful dance/pop when Im getting ready in the morning lol! :P

I don't feel like I fit in with the normal crowd but you would probably never notice until you scratched the surface. ;)

Also, Ive had this profile on OKC for about 12 years, before it was ever a dating site. So there is a lot of information on here that I written over the years...
You should message me if
Friends: You think we might get along and youre in my area ....if we have similar interests...If youre a decent person (no liars please)... If you really want to?

Potential Dating Partners: If you are looking for something real and not just a hook up. You think we might be a good match, or you'd like to find out.

Intelligence,wit, kindness, and honor are greatly appreciated. Please have a healthy relationship with conflict (i.e: you don't use avoidance tactics, don't sweep things under the rug, aren't passive aggressive, and don't start fights just to make conflict because you cannot feel comfortable without it), I work hard to get through issues as they arise and much prefer the same. Also, if you are the "too cool for school" type, then you are too cool for me as well ;)
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