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My self-summary
Fairly recently through an amicable, although emotionally intense, breakup.

Not particularly interested in actively searching for a partner, but if the right person came along, not opposed to slowly building a relationship that could be partnership in the future.

I am interested in finding and meeting people who appreciate those perfect moments, always already fleeing by the time you realize they have come. But in its becoming, that moment has stained all that follows, and that boundless blaze we carry through all our days. Such moments are glorious even alone, but experienced with another like-minded person, cast all the world in a new light.

Also all the expected things of modern PNW living: hiking, Netflix bingeing, podcast listening, walking around Discovery, cycling (I'm a bicycle commuter), drinking whiskey, beer and wine, going out for brunch, eating cheese for dinner, ogling a well made, classic cocktail, skiing, road trips to the peninsula and the Cascades, spending too much on sandwiches, complaining about the lack of good, cheap, Tex-Mex.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to not put my foot in my mouth too often.

Figuring out how late is too late to make a whole pot of coffee.

Wearing out bicycle drivetrains and tires.
I’m really good at
Seeing past what people say to what they mean, but knowing that my reality is never theirs.

Letting go of a thing I built and once found perfect.

Cooking breakfast.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Tin Drum, In the Aeroplane of the Sea, General Tso's Chicken, Puttanesca, Carmen, anything by P. G. Wodehouse, The LOTR Trilogy, Brideshead Revisisted, House of Leaves, fake meat burritos, steak, The Royal Teneabaums, Ardbeg Corryvreckan, Bon Iver, stinky cheese, The Living, NYC bagels and pizza, red wine, orange juice, Titus, I am a Strange Loop, Mysteries of Pittsburgh.

The following was brought to you by the stream of consciousness that happened to be passing through me.
Six things I could never do without
The feel of real paper under my thumb.

The feel of warm sand under my feet.

The rush of wind in my hair.

The roil of steep hills.

Dark and light.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
How strange it is to be anything at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Defying physics via grilled cheese.

Making popcorn for the coming Milky Way-Andromea collision.

Forgetting to pee before I leave the bar.

And always, always, looking for a karaoke bar with Magnetic Fields and/or Tom Lehrer.
You should message me if
If I seem like someone you could enjoy having a drink with. We can just see what, if any, winds come up we feel like following.

I do not actively identify as poly, but all but one of my relationships since 2008 has been some variation of poly/open.

I am presently highly ambivalent about whether I want my next serious relationship to be open at all, and if so, how open, but that would ultimately be a conversation to be had then and with that person. I do not consider poly to be a solution to the problems of being in a relationship, only a different dynamic that brings a different set of issues and triumphs.

So while I am likely not a good match to join your happy poly commune/house-hold/family, I am comfortable and content dating those who are poly. I understand jealousy, communication, openness and honesty, and how those all intermingle to create new and unexpected situations that need to be worked through with compassion, empathy, and some degree of eventual understanding.

I am also comfortable dating those interested in monogamy, although if you easily veer into jealousy we are likely not a good fit.
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