33Cologne, Germany
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My self-summary
I am a kinky, queer, demi-sexual psychologist from Cologne.

I love listening to people when they tell me their stories.
I'm mostly fairly down to earth but I enjoy doing crazy things every once in a while.
I have lived in four countries on three continents, but I feel most at home in California and the Rhineland.
If I want to relax I usually go on a hike or re-read old books - if I'm not cooking or baking.
I am close to my friends and I love meeting new people, especially people whose perspective is different from my own.
I'm a pretty tolerant person but I have very little patience for sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia or ablism.
I really enjoy philosophical and political debates but I need the irrational, poetic, non-linear and spiritual to feel truly alive.
What I’m doing with my life
Working with people and enjoying it IMMENSELY. After years in the ivory tower it feels surprisingly good to do something so creative and constructive.

I've recently returned to Cologne after 14 years of exile (yay!) and am still getting used to being back. It's awesome! I love exploring parks, museums, cafes and art events and can often be found exploring different neighbourhoods and checking out used bookstores. I'm also fascinated by the pagan community and and love hanging out at events for queer ladies (and gentlemen).

I really enjoy knitting, hiking, cooking and reading/writing poetry with people, so I'm always looking for partners in crime.
I’m really good at
Being the listener in the background when people need somebody to talk at to figure out their life. Inventing new recipes (sometimes literally while I sleep). Keeping my promises. Banter, sarcasm and gentle teasing. Not judging people or actions before I have had a chance to really understand them. Loving people for their idiosyncracies.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told I have a kind smile. :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
That changes all the time but currently:

Books: Rivers of London, The Sound of Rattles and Clappers, everything by Terry Pratchett, The Last Report on the Miracles at Little No Horse, Atlas of a Difficult World, Lord of the Rings, Women who run with the Wolves, Beloved, The Mists of Avalon, Parable of the Sower, The Telling,....

Movies: Match, Mad Max Fury Road, Avengers, Skyfall, The Business of Fancydancing, The Hours, Die große Stille, Zugvögel, Frida, Where the Wild Things are, The Itty Bitty Titty Committee, Yaloms Anleitung zum Glücklichsein

Shows: Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries, Mushi-si, Leverage, Sherlock, White Collar, Doctor Who, The West Wing, The Daily Show, Firefly, Due South, Tatort, Looking, Call the Midwife

Music: I don't actually listen to a lot of music and am wildly eclectic. Sometimes it's baroque music, sometimes punk rock, sometimes folk or pop. Right now I'm getting into Beethoven's violin pieces.

Food: I'm a huge fan of bread and love trying out new recipes! My current favorite food is probably pupusas, but I also love sushi, tabbouleh and blackberry pie.
Six things I could never do without
Conversations that seem like they have never stopped even when you haven't seen the other person in years. Getting to know awesome people and new facets of myself when traveling. The beauty of poetry. The satisfaction of making something with my hands. The feeling that the universe is divinity dancing. The taste explosion of truly delicious food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where to travel next, my friends, psychotherapy, the awesomeness of being queer, how to get anthropologists and psychologists to talk to each other, critical race theory, spirituality, books I read, food, transgender studies....
On a typical Friday night I am
Either in a pub with my friends or curled up at home with a good book and some red wine!
You should message me if
You think we would have fun together! I'm still re-acquainting myself with Cologne and am always happy to meet cool new people from around here.

You can actually start and carry a conversation. Please give me something more than "Hi!" or "How are you?" to work with here!
The two of us