50 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
People sometimes ask me if I'm a dancer (though I'm not rail thin, nor do I have a bun), because I'm muscular. My voice is girlish and I ask a lot of questions. I am playful, analytical, sometimes restless and always looking for companions for an adventure, generally outdoors.

I'm open to meeting a woman or man. [Lesbians: I have had a "bi" identity since I was fourteen. The bottom line is that I can't imagine leaving a happy relationship "for a man." Happy relationships are precious. Not the way I operate. I'm rational and loyal.]

I'd also be very happy to make friends/activity buddies for outdoor activities, right now hiking and xcountry skiing when the snow comes.

I love swing and waltzing. Please write me if you want to go dancing.

I highly value stability and reliability and an open mind and empathy. Perhaps that's what we all want. I expect I can meet your bar; don't you find that when people treat you well, you rise to the occasion?

A friend wrote this about me:

"Every time I'm with you, I feel more alive; my world opens up with new possibilities. You like to laugh and it's contagious. You're up for almost anything. You are non-judgmental, courageous, intuitive, supportive, very kind, very intelligent, capable of self-reflection and unafraid to change. Also, you have a way of being outspoken without being inappropriate and insensitive. It's rare that you find all those characteristics in a single person."

She is a sweet friend and persuasive when she wants to be.
What I’m doing with my life
Journalist and editor, Ivy grad, currently ghostwriting a public health book, and writing literary essays largely reviewing science books. My computer contains a couple of unpublished novels and I have gotten as far as having an agent. Ten years ago I began a poetry group, which is still going strong. I stay close to my Dad who is in love again at 85. I like good TV and movies, not necessarily artsy. And did I say I am always looking for ways to be outdoors. I love cello music and rich voices.

I've known I was bisexual since my teens.

When it comes to men, I have noticed that I attract men who have older sisters they admire or single mothers. (Oh no, did I just confess to being bossy?)
I have no children. Okay if you do. I have a fantasy of being a step-grandma!!.
I’m really good at
storytelling cooking interpreting poetry gourmet food for limited diets, conversation, seeing both sides, asking questions, metaphors, massage, decorating, dancing charming strangers.
The first things people usually notice about me
I get told fairly often that I come off as a "hippie" or "kibbutznic" because I'm friendly. Men like my butt. Hopefully, that's not the first thing they notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Suite Francais, Mrs. Dalloway, Felicia's Journey, Le Divorce, Huckleberry Finn, Lolita...Kay Ryan's poetry

History of Ideas

Indian and Asian fusion food, sushi, steak

Big Love, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black

Being John Malkovich,The Night of the Hunter, Rashomon, Babe

Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, Paul Simon, Cole Porter, Bonnie Rait, Bob Marley, "Crying," Beethoven, Rufus Wainwright (lucky Rufus next to Beethoven)
The six things I could never do without
I hate having to eat only one cuisine for more than a few weeks

water, as in sailing, swimming, walking alongside it, lying on a beach listening to it, carrying it around in a bottle or cup

colors I like green especially (these little green boxes with the crayon in them on this site are sweet)

work of some kind (could possibly be just chores)

people who listen

people to love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what I'm reading, what's going well, how to live happily and well, how my friends are doing.
On a typical Friday night I am
seeing a friend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once wrote a love letter to William James. He is the mentor in my head, both on philosophy and psychology. Please write me if that means something to you.
You should message me if
see above.
Any/OR... (these are not requirements) Also, though this list may seem long, all of this is true of me.

You are a rationalist. You understand that the world is glorious and unfair and tragic. You do not say "everything happens for a reason" or subscribe to the Law of Attraction.

You like to waltz or other kinds of dance (or would learn).

You want to do new things together--even after the first six months.

You like outdoor activities: xcountry in winter, beach in summer.

You are financially responsible and ethical.

You do not talk more than you listen or fail to notice that your listener is restless.

You can apologize if need be, and don't need to be "right."

You can make requests and state complaints in a useful way.

You have time for another person.

*******************below is no longer traits true of me

If you are or have been an academic

if you've adopted a child from another country....

you live in a beautiful place, including suburbs and country towns