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My self-summary
People sometimes ask me if I'm a dancer (though I'm not rail thin, nor do I have a bun). My voice is girlish and I ask a lot of questions. An ex who likes alliteration described me as "beautiful, sensitive, striving and studious."

I know you can fall in and (a bit) out of love with the same person many times. I'll make more time for you than the typical New Yorker--am always looking for ways to be outdoors. Do you bike? Kayak? Me, too.

I am always doing new things. Lately, I've been taking abstract photos (rust! lichen! metal!) and exploring the "Stoics;" I know lots of psychology of the academic/scientific sort and some philosophy. I think about ethics often.
What I’m doing with my life
Journalist and editor, Ivy grad, blog writer, also writing literary essays largely reviewing science and popular philosophy books.

My computer contains a couple of unpublished novels and I have gotten as far as having an agent. Ten years ago I began a poetry group, which is still going strong. I stay close to my Dad who is in love again at 85.
I’m really good at
storytelling cooking interpreting poetry gourmet food for limited diets, conversation, seeing both sides, asking questions, metaphors, massage, decorating, dancing charming strangers.
The first things people usually notice about me
I get told fairly often that I come off as a "hippie" or "kibbutznic" because I'm friendly. People like my butt. Hopefully, that's not the first thing they notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Suite Francais, Mrs. Dalloway, Felicia's Journey, Le Divorce, Huckleberry Finn, Lolita...Kay Ryan's poetry

History of Ideas

Indian and Asian fusion food, sushi, steak

Big Love, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black

Being John Malkovich,The Night of the Hunter, Rashomon, Babe

Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, Paul Simon, Cole Porter, Bonnie Rait, Bob Marley, "Crying," Beethoven, Rufus Wainwright (lucky Rufus next to Beethoven)
Six things I could never do without
I hate having to eat only one cuisine for more than a few weeks

water, as in sailing, swimming, walking alongside it, lying on a beach listening to it, carrying it around in a bottle or cup

colors I like green especially (but not the green of the pencils on this site).

work of some kind (could possibly be just chores)

people who listen

people to love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what I'm reading, what's going well, how to live happily and well, how my friends are doing.
On a typical Friday night I am
seeing a friend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once wrote a love letter to William James. He is the mentor in my head, both on philosophy and psychology. Please write me if that means something to you.
You should message me if
Lesbians: I've known I was bisexual since my teens. I can't imagine leaving anyone "for a man." A good relationship is precious.

Any/OR... (these are not requirements) Also, though this list may seem long, all of this is true of me.

You are a rationalist. You understand that the world is glorious and unfair and tragic. You do not say "everything happens for a reason" or subscribe to the Law of Attraction.

You like to waltz or other kinds of dance (or would learn).

You want to do new things together--even after the first six months.

You like outdoor activities: xcountry in winter, beach in summer.

*******************below is no longer traits true of me

If you are or have been an academic

if you've adopted a child from another country....

you live in a beautiful place, including suburbs and country towns
The two of us