I'm open to meeting a woman or man.
I love swing and waltzing. Please write me if you want to go dancing. Lately, I've been exploring the "Stoics"; I took a handful of philosophy courses in college and wish I'd taken more. I also know lots of psychology of the academic/scientific sort. .
I highly value stability and reliability and an open mind and empathy. Perhaps that's what we all want. I expect I can meet your bar; don't you find that when people treat you well, you rise to the occasion?
A friend wrote this about me:
"Every time I'm with you, I feel more alive; my world opens up with new possibilities. You like to laugh and it's contagious. You're up for almost anything. You are non-judgmental, courageous, intuitive, supportive, very kind, very intelligent, capable of self-reflection and unafraid to change. Also, you have a way of being outspoken without being inappropriate and insensitive. It's rare that you find all those characteristics in a single person."
She is a sweet friend and persuasive when she wants to be.
My computer contains a couple of unpublished novels and I have gotten as far as having an agent. Ten years ago I began a poetry group, which is still going strong. I stay close to my Dad who is in love again at 85. I like good TV and movies, not necessarily artsy. And did I say I am always looking for ways to be outdoors. I love cello music and rich voices.
Lesbians: I've known I was bisexual since my teens. I can't imagine leaving anyone "for a man." A good relationship is precious.
I have noticed that I attract men who have older sisters they admire or single mothers. Not that I require this! I have no children. Okay if you do. I have a fantasy of being a step-grandma.
History of Ideas
Indian and Asian fusion food, sushi, steak
Big Love, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black
Being John Malkovich,The Night of the Hunter, Rashomon, Babe
Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, Paul Simon, Cole Porter, Bonnie Rait, Bob Marley, "Crying," Beethoven, Rufus Wainwright (lucky Rufus next to Beethoven)
water, as in sailing, swimming, walking alongside it, lying on a beach listening to it, carrying it around in a bottle or cup
colors I like green especially (these little green boxes with the crayon in them on this site are sweet)
work of some kind (could possibly be just chores)
people who listen
people to love
Any/OR... (these are not requirements) Also, though this list may seem long, all of this is true of me.
You are a rationalist. You understand that the world is glorious and unfair and tragic. You do not say "everything happens for a reason" or subscribe to the Law of Attraction.
You like to waltz or other kinds of dance (or would learn).
You want to do new things together--even after the first six months.
You like outdoor activities: xcountry in winter, beach in summer.
You are financially responsible and ethical.
You do not talk more than you listen or fail to notice that your listener is restless.
You can apologize if need be, and don't need to be "right."
You can make requests and state complaints in a useful way.
You have time for another person.
*******************below is no longer traits true of me
If you are or have been an academic
if you've adopted a child from another country....
you live in a beautiful place, including suburbs and country towns