Write me if you think it's true, or write me why it isn't...
People sometimes ask me if I'm a dancer (though I'm not rail thin, nor do I have a bun), because I'm muscular. My voice is girlish and I ask a lot of questions. Strangers talk to me and the families of my exes send me Facebook messages. I am playful, curious, sometimes restless and always looking for companions for an adventure, generally outdoors.
In job interviews if they ask about your faults, one is supposed to say, "I'm too meticulous, punctual, and considerate." My boast-confession is that I am compulsively helpful. It's actually a confession. I get into trouble that way, and I'm working on getting over it.
I'm open to meeting a woman or man. I've always been monogamous in the past but am considering alternatives. I'd also be very happy to make friends/activity buddies for outdoor activities, right now hiking and xcountry skiing when the snow comes.
I also love swing and waltzing. Please write me if you too are happiest doing any of these.
I highly value stability and reliability and an open mind and empathy. Perhaps that's what we all want. I expect I can meet your bar; don't you find that when people treat you well, you rise to the occasion?
A friend wrote this about me:
"Every time I'm with you, I feel more alive; my world opens up with new possibilities. You like to laugh and it's contagious. You're up for almost anything. You are non-judgmental, courageous, intuitive, supportive, very kind, very intelligent, capable of self-reflection and unafraid to change. Also, you have a way of being outspoken without being inappropriate and insensitive. It's rare that you find all those characteristics in a single person."
She is a sweet friend and persuasive when she wants to be.
I've known I was bisexual since my teens and have thought long and hard about what that means. I have had relationships with both men and women.
When it comes to men, I have noticed that I attract men who have older sisters they admire or single mothers. (Oh no, did I just confess to being bossy?)
I have no children. Okay if you do. I have a fantasy of being a step-grandma!!.
History of Ideas
Indian and Asian fusion food, sushi, steak
Big Love, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black
Being John Malkovich,The Night of the Hunter, Rashomon, Babe
Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, Paul Simon, Cole Porter, Bonnie Rait, Bob Marley, "Crying," Beethoven, Rufus Wainwright (lucky Rufus next to Beethoven)
water, as in sailing, swimming, walking alongside it, lying on a beach listening to it, carrying it around in a bottle or cup
colors I like green especially (these little green boxes with the crayon in them on this site are sweet)
work of some kind (could possibly be just chores)
people who listen
people to love
Any/OR... (these are not requirements) Also, though this list may seem long, all of this is true of me.
You are a rationalist. You understand that the world is glorious and unfair and tragic. You do not say "everything happens for a reason" or subscribe to the Law of Attraction.
You like to waltz or other kinds of dance (or would learn).
You want to do new things together--even after the first six months.
You like outdoor activities: xcountry in winter, beach in summer.
You are financially responsible and ethical.
You do not talk more than you listen or fail to notice that your listener is restless.
You can apologize if need be, and don't need to be "right."
You can make requests and state complaints in a useful way.
You have time for another person.
*******************below is no longer traits true of me
If you are or have been an academic
if you've adopted a child from another country....
you live in a beautiful place, including suburbs and country towns