35 Chicago, United States
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My self-summary
Kinky, married and ethically non-monogamous, and striving every day to completely own my own shit. I'm happy and my life is full of amazing people. I'm pretty lucky, I guess.

I once had a fabulous profile. Once upon a time I posted many great photos. My partner had a profile as well and we encouraged visitors to check out those profiles. I/we were totally open and transparent. Then one day, Someone I never met but who is connected to the same organization for which I work saw my profile. This person found polyamory offensive and couldn't understand how a married couple could consciously choose to be non monogamous. This person called my work and asked I be fired.
There was an investigation and a great deal of trouble. So, now i play the intentionally vague game. It sucks but I'm not sure what else to do. I'm happy to share photos and details if you ask for them.

Also, don't be the asshole that has to punish those with whom you disagree.
What I’m doing with my life
I deal with the goddamn customers so the engineers don't have to. I have people skills; I am good at dealing with people. Can't you understand that? What the hell is wrong with you people?
I’m really good at
Impact play. After care.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a pretty big guy with a soft voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
More Than Two, Screw the Roses, Send Thornns, Sex Before Dawn, Ethical Slut.
The six things I could never do without
"Unhappiness or negativity is a disease on our planet. What pollution is on the outer level is negativity on the inner. It is everywhere, not just in places where people on’t have enough but even more so where they have more than enough. Is that surprising? No, The affluent world is even more deeply identified with form, more lost in content, more trapped in ego." (Eckhart Tolle)

I'm trying to need less these days.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sting-y or thud-y?
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching history porn - The Borgias, The Tudors, Deadwood, Rome, Battlestar Galactica...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got a fetlife account.
You should message me if
You enjoy being afternoon drunk.

You want to visit a dungeon.

You value sincerity.