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My self-summary
I do not fit in a teacup. I rarely have a teacup in my hand. I might be persuaded to read the leaves in your teacup and would do an excellent job of it, but I'd be faking it too (mostly). I'm sad that the Boston teaparty was not an enjoyable event for all attending. Angry people are not my cup of tea. I think most tea tastes like hot water that has had a twig swished through it. That teacup ride at Disneyland just makes me dizzy.

Other than that, to know me is to love me.

(And in spite of the above, I think it would be fun to own/run a little teahouse.)

I am eclectic, complex, and funny
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently training for a mission to Mars.
I’m really good at
Finding connections between diverse things, finding common ground between people, showering my friends with love and funny stories, and I like to have little projects going.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm quiet but I don't come across as wishy-washy. I might be noncommittal about something but it's pretty clear the mental gears are turning. I'm also a very good conversationalist once I decide to get chatty with you. I'm a very social non-social person. :p
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read a huge variety of books and magazines, and the subject matter is diverse. To give an idea.... Magazines that I read fairly often are Vanity Fair, Esquire, Mojo, and (gasp) that worthless rag, The National Enquirer. Yes, that one. Really. As far as books go, I was an early and advanced reader, and in elementary school I was cutting my teeth on authors like Asimov, Heinlein, John Hersey... These days, my taste runs to lighter stuff. I have zillions of books crammed into my living space, among the things that I read for fun are:

Art & Fear (Bayles/Orland)

The Denial of Death (Ernest Becker)

Portraits of 'the Whiteman': Linguistic Play and Cultural Symbols among the Western Apache (Keith H. Basso)

Existential Psychotherapy (Irvin Yalom)

Radical Departures: Desperate Detours to Growing Up (Saul Levine)

Totem Poles (Pat Kramer)

Amish Society (John A. Hostetler)

Bunch Grass (Robert Sund)

The Work of Craft (Carla Needleman)

The Art of Negotiating (Gerard Nierenberg)

The Celtic Spirit (Caitlin Matthews)

A Storm of Swords (George R.R. Martin)

Sword-Born (Jennifer Roberson)

Shakey: Neil Young's Biography (Jimmy McDonough)

Obsidian Butterfly (Laurell K. Hamilton)

Moon Called (Patricia Briggs)

Heir of Sea and Fire (Patricia McKillip)

The Blue Sword (Robin McKinley)

Somewhere to be Flying (Charles de Lint)

Great Good Food (Julie Russo)

The Way of Herbs (Michael Tierra)

The Essential Rumi

Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas (Hunter S. Thompson)

Tales of the City (Armistead Maupin)

Four Arguments for the Elimination of Television (Jerry Mander) ~ I do watch tv though so have no fear

Best American Erotica (Susie Bright)

The Inner Sky (Stephen Forrest)

Astrology, Psychology, and the Four Elements (Steven Arroyo

Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind (Shunryu Suzuki)

Zen Telegrams (Paul Reps)

Complete Works of Robert Frost

Complete Works of Alphonse Mucha

American Indian Cooking

Movies: I watch a large variety of dvds, and the subject matter is diverse. A few that I would particularly recommend are:
Amelie, Bad Santa, Best in Show, Big Eden, Bukowski: Born Into This, Contact, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Enlightenment Guaranteed, A Fish Called Wanda, The Full Monty, Ghost World, Good Will Hunting, Grosse Point Blank, Harold and Maude, Jet Li's Hero, Kill Bill, Leaving Las Vegas, Local Hero, Monsoon Wedding, Pinero, Pleasantville, Punch Drunk Love (pretty much the only Adam Sandler film I can stand), Pushing Tin, Raising Victor Vargas, The Royal Tennenbaums, Shrek, The Station Agent, This Is Spinal Tap, Transamerica, Walk the Line ...and if it's Johnny Depp, I will usually go see it because I find his role choices fascinating.

Music: I listen to a wide variety of music and....diverse.
On any given night, I might be listening to Bollywood filmi music, Hole, The Allman Brothers, Joni Mitchell, Audioslave, Soundgarden, Lucinda Williams, Ryan Adams, Alice in Chains, Bing Crosby, Neil Young, Tom Petty, Marvin Gaye, Tom Waits, Bonnie Raitt, Bruce Cockburn(who has the most unfortunate name in music), Dionne Warwick, Counting Crows, The Toadies, Edith Piaff, The Mamas and The Papas, Daniel Lanois, Dave Brubeck, The Derailers, Eva Cassidy, INXS, Marty Robbins, Vivaldi, Holly Cole, The Innocence Mission, Death Cab for Cutie, Sarah McLachlan, Norah Jones, Pete Yorn, Peter Gabriel, Patti Smith, Thievery Corporation, The Waterboys, Jeff Beck, Kenny Rankin, Moby, The Killers, Aerosmith, Cat Stevens ....and of course the odd recording of Japanese shakuhachi and koto. And the Yemenite folk songs by Ofra Haza. It sucks, but I lost my recording of Claude Bolling & Jean-Pierre Rampal's "Suite for Flute and Jazz Piano." I also can't find any of the new-age stuff by Steve Halpern that will make leaves sprout from your ears. And I really need to get some Motorhead. And yes, I've been to the opera and didn't run screaming from the hall.

Food: Blah blah yakkety yak okay I'll be honest here, my food tastes are not diverse. Italian, Thai, some Indian, some Chinese, a little Mexican, some French, and a lotta lotta traditional midwestern cooking. Diner food is fun. You practically have to put a gun to my head to get me to cook something (or I have to really really really like you, times a thousand) but when I do cook it's utterly delicious and you will nearly weep with happiness.
Six things I could never do without
Comfortable shoes (that includes shoes with heels). Dr. Bronner's soap. Things that are sky blue/turquoise. Rocks (tumbled semi-precious stones, river stones, plain garden rocks - it's about color and texture and uniqueness). The sound of birds in the trees. A car with good acceleration.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
....what makes a particular song particularly good. The bass line? The catch in the singer's voice? What element(s) elevated the song from "okay" to beautiful. Maybe it was the string squeak just before the chorus that made it heart-catching... I instinctively examine things of beauty so I can weave their elements into other forms.

I enjoy all the tiny graceful moments of life ~ the fluid way that some people move, the brightness of the moon, the twinkle in a stranger's eye, the way that light plays across my friend's cheekbones, the sound of rain on the roof, the way that water swirls when it drains out of the kitchen sink, flavors and textures and sights and sounds and all that stuff.

I also think a lot about why people do things. And random things, like how the world would have been different if Freud hadn't come before Einstein...

I think a lot, but I don't ponder. I'm a quick thinker. I'm intellectual, artistic, practical, direct, and kind. And I often think how glad I am to have those qualities.
On a typical Friday night I am
...never sure what I will be doing. I am not much of a long-range planner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I never caught my parents "doing it."
You should message me if're interested in being actual friends. I tend to e-mail with someone for a little while, then if that goes well, jump to a few phone conversations, and take it from there. I'm not looking for sex with near-strangers, it's important to me that my relationships are based in genuine friendship, and I've never been good at sucking up to people and using them. So, expect real conversation, honesty, and kindness - and be prepared to give the same.
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