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My self-summary
Let's get visceral.
What I’m doing with my life
Living in wild, wonderful Oakland. I try to make the most of the city, with its glittering ruby insides and dry sidewalk chicken bones. I spend time with interesting people, eat delicious food, and stay physically and mentally active and involved in my community. I want meet someone who helps me live these traits even harder.

My life-plan is to always be learning. This summer I learned how to ride a motorcycle and how to crochet, and I'm starting microbiology class this week at Laney.

I have a day job- which is work- not my life.
I’m really good at
Knowing what that thing is. Knowing what that word means. I could stand to be be better at acknowledging when I don't know.
The first things people usually notice about me
1. I'm short; 2. I have an unusual name; 3. I have freckles.

Honestly these are some of the most boring things about me, and boring people get hung up on them. Here's hoping you ignore this section of my profile, never mention any of the traits I've written above, and we can have a conversation where you learn some actually interesting things about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: I'm vegetarian but I won't proselytize, nor judge you for what's on your plate.

Music: Mostly the melodic electronic kind with barely intelligible words. I used to dig the "witchy thug gurrl" playlist on Songza [RIP]. Not music, but I'm really hoping for a season two of the Mystery Show podcast.

Movies and shows: I watch some on my own time, but I don't want to date you to sit around and watch a screen.

Books: I'm not ignoring you, I just really want to finish this chapter. After many years of diligent practice, I'm decent at not dropping books in the bathtub.

Internets: I'm all over it like cats.
The six things I could never do without
This question would be more interesting if it was "six things I could do without". It'd be like: electronics that beep, sexism, racism, taxpayer bailouts of large corporations, scratchy wool clothes, and fleas. Six things I actually need are way harder to enumerate. Here goes:

1. Seltzer
2. My own living space to come home to
3. Reading material
4. Vegetables and sauce
5. Being outdoors
6. Keyboard shortcuts
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Words, plants, food.


How the American healthcare-industrial complex monetizes death and prolongs suffering.

Myself. This sounds petty but it's truthful. Time I spend thinking about myself and my relationships with others proves to have significant dividends down the line.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably lurking somewhere in Oakland.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll bury this here: I didn't realize that dudes used "casual sex" as a search parameter until a friend told me I'd get fewer man-creepers if I unchecked that option on my profile. After I unchecked it, my number of daily visitors and messages plummeted; fewer creepers, definitely. But I should add, in all honesty, that casual sex is not off the table.
You should message me if
In the long-term, I'm looking for a partner who wants me to be a part of their life and with whom there would be honest, ongoing conversation about what that means. I want someone with whom I can 1) do meaningful activities; 2) be challenged by so I/we can grow; and 3) be a source of mutual emotional support. ... I want my partner to help me be the best version of me possible. I want to be the same for my partner.

In the short-term, you could be a booty call. Just be real about it!

You should message me if you're down for what's written above AND:
You actively communicate your needs, preferences, and emotions, and will hold me to the same standard. You are an optimist - no pessimists need apply. You have more precise words to describe yourself than "adventurous" or "fun". You eat vegetables. You are creative, somehow. You can drive a stick shift car. You know that evolution, climate change, and white privilege are real. You are a feminist.