I am at once nurturing, genuine, and warm, but I am also quick-witted and more than a little spicy. I find edges, sauciness, and general smart-assery to be sexy.
I'm an adult and I love being able to connect intellectually and on an emotionally mature level, but I'm also not above piggybacks and horsing around :-)
I would like to meet a man who has both a playful nature and a certain gravitas. Someone who has known strong emotions and wonderful people and trying times, perhaps. Someone ready to love and be loved.
In general, people with any mix of the following make my day: expansive love of humanity,
an interest in mindfulness, meditation, and yoga
and a spicy sense of humor.
Healthy self-confidence, excellent spelling, a little hipness, or a love of languages and words don't hurt either. I don't expect anyone to have all of these traits, but just know that whichever of them you possess get a ton of appreciation from me.
I am original, intelligent, a good giver of love.
I love stopping to enjoy simple things in nature, and I do so both unconsciously and consciously. The conscious aspect is a due to a love of life and living in the present. I would go so far as to say I am in love with the world, with the best aspects of the human spirit, and with the possibilities and meaning in our lives. I truly enjoy the rare folks who are also smitten in this way.
Being in love with life and the world doesn't mean turning a blind eye to the cruel, disheartening, or downright ugly facets of reality; just as the process of loving a person is not free from its difficult or painful aspects.
I would say I'm in love with the potential in all of us, the experience of living, learning, and overcoming, the beauty so evident in nature and art, and the interconnectedness and universality of the human condition. Just being in the presence of these things gives me that ***wonderful, expansive feeling of being in love***. Really and truly. I am often moved by the world around us, and moved by the ways humans can move each other. Stop me if I'm getting too meta.
I am very lucky that even in my workweek, I am regularly filled with this euphoric feeling. I delight in the way that the best of the human spirit can be nurtured and activated through relationships between people. I see this again and again with the brave and difficult work my kids and families do in therapy. Given the right conditions, people are able to show their best selves, and, man, is it impressive!! I so enjoy seeing these people I care about reach their potential and develop more empathy and shared strength with those around them.
I am excited to meet someone who also has a true love for humanity, someone whose best qualities lie in how he understands himself and in how he builds and cultivates his relationships with others. If this sounds like you, I can't wait to hear from you.
Music: Ray Charles, Solomon Burke, Clyde McPhatter, Nina Simone, Bruce Springsteen, Beres Hammond, Tanya Stephens, Justin Hinds and the Dominoes, Hank Ballard and the Midnighters, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley (shoot, all the Marleys), The Righteous Brothers, The Beatles, Eric Hutchinson, Eli "Paperboy" Reed, Whitney Houston (we're talking talent, people, not life choices!), (on that note): Amy Winehouse, Enya, Aretha Franklin, Regina Spektor, Sarah Bareilles, Ray LaMontagne, The Avett Brothers, Amos Lee, Los Lonely Boys, Tribe Called Quest, Jay-Z Missy Elliott, Macklemore, Kendrick Lamar, Ludacris (Yeah, I said it!)
Also, I'm not going to lie- I love a ton of dancehall and straight-booty shakin' Reggaeton- Da Me Mas Gasoliiiina!
TV: Arrested Development, The Wire (don't tell me what happens in seasons four and five, I still need to see them!) Mad Men, 30 Rock, Chapelle Show, Key & Peele, Broad City!
2. Buddhism, Yoga, mindfulness, meditation, sensation, this moment, and spirituality vis-à-vis the interconnection between all humans, between humans, animals and nature, and between body/mind/heart/spirit/energy and our inner witness (Do you like how I counted that as one thing? Interconnectedness ;-)
3. Laughter and running inside jokes
5. Genuine connections, sense of community
chocolate, kissing and sex/making love make the list, too ;-)
And you'd be looking for something real if you have a great connection with someone.