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My self-summary
I'm a college professor and writer, good with words . . . maybe better with words than with reality. But I do all right in three dimensions most of the time.

I am considerate, literate, and gainfully employed

Update: I'm flattered by the responses I've gotten, even the "just want to say hi" variety that don't work geographically. (I'm a hi-sayer from way back.) I am indeed 59 years old, not 59 in dating-site-years, and even though I take care of myself, there's no getting around that fact. So if you're trying to relive your twenties, we're likely not a good match. (Oh, and if you're actually still in your twenties . . . turn off the computer, call your dad and talk things out.) On the other hand, if you're just marking time, playing out the string, living vicariously through relatives, that's likely not going to work either.

Second update: I like getting messages, but please don't be offended if I don't respond immediately. I tend to have multiple programs running at once and often am not aware of a message until hours after the fact--especially if I'm struggling to meet a deadline.

Third update: I've noticed that many women's profiles mention a determination to "keep it real." After giving the matter some thought, I've concluded that I like a bit of artifice in a woman.

Fourth update: There's nothing I like better on a Saturday night than pouring a couple of glasses of Pinot, letting Miles set the mood and curling up by the fire with a special lady . . . oh, who am I kidding? I can't carry that off.

Fifth update: I used to be anti-tattoo, but my position is evolving . . .

Sixth update: I used to think fact-checking was the new foreplay. It turns out foreplay is the new foreplay.

Seventh update: My last physical was two weeks ago, and I regret to report that I'm no longer 5'9"--I now check in officially at 5' 8 1/2" ... but I prefer to round up. Besides, I like to think I live a 5'11" life.

Eighth update: I need to clarify something in my "I'm looking for" statement. I've selected "located anywhere" and "for new friends, long term dating." I'm looking for NEW FRIENDS anywhere, but, realistically, when it comes to long-term dating, I'm not going to uproot from least until I retire. My experience with long distance involvements has been, well, mixed (to be kind).

There's a sweet spot between realism and idealism, between maturity and exuberance, between wisdom and possibility; I'd like to meet you somewhere in that vicinity.
What I’m doing with my life
Breathing in and out, as often as necessary, and appreciating that act, as often as possible.
I’m really good at
Sly insinuation.
The first things people usually notice about me
My desire not to be noticed . . . which, in truth, is just a pathetic cry for attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: The Beatles. (No close second.)

Food: California Pizza Kitchen, various dishes. Also, a cinnamon raisin bagel with low fat cream cheese, various locations, especially on a Saturday morning; throw in a cup of hot tea with lemon, and I'm yours.

Movies: Casablanca, Wuthering Heights (Feinnes, Binoche version), Tombstone, Annie Hall, Manhattan, Crimes and Misdemeanors, The Producers (Mostel, Wilder version), Monty Python and the Holy Grail, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Stripes (Bill Murray's lowbrow pinnacle) and Groundhog Day (Bill Murray's highbrow pinnacle).

Books: Where to begin . . . ?
Six things I could never do without
1) Avarice
2) Envy
3) Gluttony
4) Lust
5) Sloth
6) Wrath
. . . had to heave Pride overboard to indulge the rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Medieval theology. (No, honestly.) The small of a woman's back. My next book. My diminishing skills in softball and touch football.
On a typical Friday night I am
Inscribing medieval theology on the small of a woman's back with a felt tipped pen. Thinking about my diminishing handwriting skills.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I spend WAY too much time procrastinating by browsing OKC profiles.
You should message me if
It's difficult to answer this question without sounding like a sappy greeting card. On the other hand, we're probably NOT a good match if:

1) You don't recognize that there are intelligent, well-meaning people on both sides of the political spectrum.

2) You think that people who are religious are weak-minded, or that people who aren't religious are damned to hell.

3) You've posted a photo of yourself at a crowded bar, holding a beer, with your tongue sticking out like one of those "Waaaasuuuup" guys. There's nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't fit in with the fun.

4) You've posted a photo of yourself flipping the finger to the camera. (Hard to understand the charm in that, but maybe I'm just out of the loop with respect to dating etiquette.)
The two of us