Looking for a relationship that's substantial, intellectual, emotional. Most guys out there say they want a relationship, but those take work. If you're looking for a real emotional, intellectual, and physical relationship, that's what I'm good at. Money and power are turn-offs for me, as is the need to prove yourself as this or that. Mainstream gay culture hits me as a cult, but no less than mainstream straight culture, I like people who are free to be themselves, whatever that means. So yeah, I guess I'm a 'non-scene' kinda guy, whatever that scene might be.
Shorts and t-shirt all the way, but the occasional sports jacket is always fun. Brooklyn over manhattan, and I prefer backpacking to expensive hotels when travelling. Luxury odds me out, makes the socialist in me feel pissed off. Pizza is one of god's gifts to food (at least if it's from nyc!), though a great meal is always appreciated, especially tacos or sushi. INFP describes me pretty damn well.
For what it's worth, I tend to get attracted to guys my age or a little younger, usually more to the masculine side of things (though that comes in many forms, being yourself is essential), and usually with dark hair and eyes. But attraction for me starts on the emotional level, this is just in general. Been single too long, looking to change that.
Oh, by the way, I'm Italian-American, Sicilian to be exact. Family's really important to me, and it usually involves lots of family dinners, food, visits, etc.
And as a good Italian-American, I find I yearn oneday, perhaps soon-ish, to have kids of my own and be a father, either with a partner or by myself.
And music! In my spare time, I record experimental music. I play lots of musical instruments (keyboard, bass, guitar, etc.), and in HS and college, music was all I did. I love recording especially, and lately I record noise/art music that mixes influences from 60's psychadelia, 70's prog, and cutting edge sounds. I love sonic experimentation. I used to play live a lot, in college I was in all sorts of rock bands (usually as singer/bassist/keyboardist, a few Rush/Pink Floyd cover bands!), and also did a lot of open-mic acoustic guitar type things. Lately mostly just recording, and loving it. Especially the synthesizers!
Some random faves:
Music: Lotta prog rock (classic 70's Genesis, love King Crimson (specially the recent stuff!), Yes, Rush, Floyd, Mars Volta, Tool, etc.), Shoegaze (Catherine Wheel, Hum, My Bloody Valentine), Electronic (Depeche Mode, Duran Duran), 90's alterna creative stuff (Jawbox, Blur, STP), Retro (Bowie, CSN, Beatles, Hendrix), etc.
Films: Tarkovsky!! Lotsa art films, everything from from Fellini to Oshima, Godard, Hitchcock, Welles, Park Chan-Wook, Sion Sono, Weerasethakul, etc. But lots of guilty pleasures like Lord of the Rings, Dune, horror films, sci-fi, etc
TV: Futurama is the best thing, ever. Gotta have my dose of Stewart and Colbert most weeknights. South Park, Game of Thrones (yes!!), Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, smart cartoons (Frisky Dingo, Venture Brothers, Archer, etc.).
Travel: Love to travel and do it whenever I can, I love encountering people and places that are different, and immersing in a new city and culture. Faves include Prague, Seville, Kathmandu, Antigua (Guatemala).
Tibetan Buddhism: I'm in the middle of writing a book on the philosophy of Tibetan Buddhism, spent two summers in Kathmandu, Nepal, studying Buddhism and interviewing and making great friends with a some amazing Buddhist monks. I find the philosophy as powerful as anything Western, and the belief system pretty amazing as well, tho I guess I don't really consider myself a Buddhist as much as a really sympathetic fellow traveler.
Kinda like Learning languages too (I'm pretty good with German and Spanish, can read French, took Russian for a while in college).
I went over ten years without a cell phone. I have one now, and even a smart phone.