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My self-summary
Finally updated my photos, but honestly I have no idea when I'll have the time or patience for dating again.

I am in the middle of a massive personal growth overhaul, both in terms of practical considerations and psychological shit. In the meantime, I'm going to be very busy and very stressed. I may find time for dating in there somewhere, I hope.

I'm not looking for random hookups. Friends with benefits are fine, but I put a pretty strong emphasis on the friends part. I want to know we actually get along and like each other before hopping into bed.

I am polite, compassionate, and try really really hard not to judge people, including myself, too harshly. I am not nice. If you piss me off, I will tell you in no uncertain terms what I think about your behaviour.

I am expansive and enthusiastic and constantly worried, usually about something stupid. I am always pursuing some obsession whether it be music, LARP, video games, writing, whatever. I care devotedly about my close friends and will turn mercilessly on anyone who hurts them. I will also kick their asses when needed, as I hope they would do for me.

I am a feminist, which means I think women are treated poorly for being women in our world and that's all kinds of bullshit. I would also call myself a humanist, in that I think treating anyone poorly for being what they are is all kinds of bullshit. I think the rigid hierarchies of class and gender and race and orientation and... too many other divisions to count, that we are surrounded by make people sick and hurt and angry, no matter where in the hierarchy they sit, and it's just all so unnecessary. I guess I'm just a really intense, sweary hippy.

I have a lot of opinions. I also like hearing new points of view, even if understanding them requires me to change my opinions. It's hard, but it's doable. I am generally pretty blunt, but I know the difference between honesty and assholery.
What I’m doing with my life
I sing, play guitar and write songs. I have a youtube channel http://www.youtube.com/user/MsFeyCreature/ where I sometimes record and upload these songs.

I am also part of a band called the Dial-Up Raiders. We've been playing open mics, and once we've got our new guitarists broken in we're due for a show in August.

Playing video games. Badly.

Playing Magic: the Gathering. Badly.

Transcribing recordings of lawyers arguing.

Doing data entry, organizing and generally whatever needs doing at the Canadian Federation of Musicians (musicians' union).

LARPing. I play Elegy, which is post-apocalyptic with a bunch of soft-science fiction shit thrown in. Suuuper fun. Lots of screaming and swearing.
I’m really good at
Singing, dancing, reading really fast, talking even faster, making animal noises, getting distracted, focusing really intently, getting to the point, being a hard-ass when needed, going from the point into outer frigging space, swearing at unfortunate moments, listening, cuddling, knowing when something's wrong, injuring myself and then having no idea how I did it, losing my glasses. Also, I am a really good travel companion, which I am honestly proud of.
The first things people usually notice about me
That my username is easy to misread.

Honestly, I have no idea. Possibly my height (er, lack of), or the fact that I'm singing, out loud, possibly while rocking out, as I walk down the street. Or it might be my shaggy Ukrainian eyebrows.

I have been told I'm intimidating. I'm not sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything written by Lois McMaster Bujold or Terry Pratchett, Kage Baker, Kate Griffin, Douglas Adams, Spider Robinson and the Strangers in Paradise graphic novels/comics/whatever. I read a lot of science fiction and fantasy from the library, chosen on the basis of "this looks cool."

I'm not that into movies but I like watching them with people. I'll pick favourites mostly from whatever I've been watching that was neat. In TV there is currently Food Wars, Durarara, Dr. Who, and Gotham.

I like a lot of music, but here's the short list. Sarah Slean, Janelle Monae, Amanda Palmer, Melissa Kaplan (currently doing the "Universal Hall Pass" project, in case you want to look her up, previously of a band called Splashdown), The Pink Spiders, Jonathan Coulton, the Danger Bees, Prozzac, Imogen Heap, Brody Dalle (both in The Distillers and Spinnerette), Die Mannequin, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, the Barenaked Ladies, La Roux, the Offspring, Deirdre Flint, Metric, Bif Naked, and pretty much any drinking song. I also love musicals, my favourite being Cabaret.

Favourite food would be either butter chicken or pad thai, depending on my mood.

There isn't a category for it, but I'm going to list my top games and game series anyway: Prince of Persia: Sands of Time and 3D (yes, I actually liked PoP 3D), Knights of the Old Republic (one and two), Zelda (ocarina of time, then majora's mask, then oracle of ages/seasons, then link's awakening), and Myst (Exile being my favourite, but I love all of them, though Uru is clearly the underdeveloped runt of the litter). Oh, and Day of the Tentacle (not what it sounds like), both Portal games and Tomb Raider (all the ones I've played anyway, I actually like the new one.) These days I play WoW to unwind as well.
The six things I could never do without
Words, in all their many fascinating forms, music, new information and experiences, a few solid people I can count on, occasional time away from everyone else, something useful to do.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
School, what the hell I'm doing with my life, music, work, sex, gender, abstract ideas and ideals, how to make everything less stupid and broken.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't think I've had a typical friday night in five years. I'm probably playing music, or playing magic, or out drinking, or at home drinking, or watching tv, or playing games, or sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't like surprises in my daily life, even good surprises. It's somehow totally different when I'm travelling or on some other adventure and have no idea what to expect.
You should message me if
You want to talk. Kissing is nice, but I want to know who I'm kissing first. I'm weird like that.

You find me interesting and want to ask me about stuff I'm doing or stuff I know. You have stuff you're doing or stuff you know that you want to share.

You have some event or attraction you want to check out but don't want to go alone.

You actually live in or near Toronto. I don't really need pen pals.