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My self-summary
I am primarily composed of opposite extremes. I'm incredibly loud and friendly except when I'm shy and quiet, cuddly and affectionate except when I'm wary and distant, brash and bold to make up for fear and insecurity, strongly opinionated and always worried I might be wrong. I'm pragmatic and somewhat literal-minded, but I love talking about abstract ideas and tend toward poetic imagery.

All alone in an empty room I can find something to stress about, but in the middle of a huge mess I calm right down and get to work. In the face of charm and compliments, I can't help but look for the catch. Once my trust is earned, it takes a lot to break it, sometimes to my detriment.

I'm not always easy to deal with. I'm vulnerable and honest, for better and worse. I'm loyal and protective, for better and worse. To those close to me, I'm basically a puppy.

So why am I here? I suppose I'm looking for packmates. Friends/family, kindred spirits, people who get it. The rest of my team. If that makes any sense to you, you might be one of them. Of course, if it sounds like total nonsense you still might be. I don't know how this shit works.

Oh, and I'm...iffy on the whole poly thing. Open relationships are one thing, and a partner who sleeps around (safely and openly) doesn't bother me, but I do want them to focus on me romantically. I know full-on polyamory works for other people, and that's great, but I prefer to keep it simple.
What I’m doing with my life
I sing, play guitar and write songs. I have a youtube channel http://www.youtube.com/user/MsFeyCreature/ where I sometimes record and upload these songs.

I am also part of a band called the Dial-Up Raiders. We've been playing open mics and are organizing our first show soon.

Playing video games. Badly.

Playing Magic: the Gathering. Badly.

Transcribing recordings of lawyers arguing.

Doing data entry, organizing and generally whatever needs doing at the Canadian Federation of Musicians (musicians' union).

LARPing. I've been playing Elegy, but I can't afford the time and money right now, so I'm trying out Changeling: The Lost.
I’m really good at
Singing, dancing, reading really fast, talking even faster, making animal noises, getting distracted, focusing really intently, getting to the point, being a hard-ass when needed, going from the point into outer frigging space, swearing at unfortunate moments, listening, cuddling, knowing when something's wrong, injuring myself and then having no idea how I did it, losing my glasses. Also, I am a really good travel companion, which I am honestly proud of.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a courier bag with an owl on it. This is honestly the most commented-on aspect of my appearance.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything written by Lois McMaster Bujold or Terry Pratchett, Kage Baker, Kate Griffin, Douglas Adams, Spider Robinson and the Strangers in Paradise graphic novels/comics/whatever. I read a lot of science fiction and fantasy from the library, chosen on the basis of "this looks cool."

I'm not that into movies but I like watching them with people. I'll pick favourites mostly from whatever I've been watching that was neat. In TV there is currently Food Wars, Durarara, Dr. Who, and Gotham.

I like a lot of music, but here's the short list. Sarah Slean, Janelle Monae, Amanda Palmer, Melissa Kaplan (currently doing the "Universal Hall Pass" project, in case you want to look her up, previously of a band called Splashdown), The Pink Spiders, Jonathan Coulton, the Danger Bees, Prozzac, Imogen Heap, Brody Dalle (both in The Distillers and Spinnerette), Die Mannequin, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, the Barenaked Ladies, La Roux, the Offspring, Deirdre Flint, Metric, Bif Naked, and pretty much any drinking song. I also love musicals, my favourite being Cabaret.

Favourite food would be either butter chicken or pad thai, depending on my mood.

There isn't a category for it, but I'm going to list my top games and game series anyway: Prince of Persia: Sands of Time and 3D (yes, I actually liked PoP 3D), Knights of the Old Republic (one and two), Zelda (ocarina of time, then majora's mask, then oracle of ages/seasons, then link's awakening), and Myst (Exile being my favourite, but I love all of them, though Uru is clearly the underdeveloped runt of the litter). Oh, and Day of the Tentacle (not what it sounds like), both Portal games and Tomb Raider (all the ones I've played anyway, I actually like the new one.) These days I play WoW to unwind as well.
The six things I could never do without
Words, in all their many fascinating forms, music, new information and experiences, a few solid people I can count on, occasional time away from everyone else, something useful to do.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
School, what the hell I'm doing with my life, music, work, sex, gender, abstract ideas and ideals, how to make everything less stupid and broken.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't think I've ever had a typical friday night. I'm probably playing music, or playing magic, or out drinking, or at home drinking, or watching tv, or playing games, or sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't like surprises in my daily life, even good surprises. It's somehow totally different when I'm travelling or on some other adventure and have no idea what to expect. I just don't like expecting a thing and then having another thing happen. It's stressful.
You should message me if
You want to talk. Kissing is nice, but I want to know who I'm kissing first. I'm weird like that.

You find me interesting and want to ask me about stuff I'm doing or stuff I know. You have stuff you're doing or stuff you know that you want to share.

You have some event or attraction you want to check out but don't want to go alone.

You actually live in or near Toronto. I don't really need pen pals.