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My self-summary
Almost always: Thoughtful. Quiet. Contemplative. Artistic. Stable. Kind. Agreeable. Independent in my thinking. Intelligent. A lover of deep connections (intellectual and emotional). A mellowed idealist. Spontaneous. Traditional. Counter-cultural (in a quiet way). Generous. Open-minded. Sentimental. Surprising. Extremely independent in my daily life. Accustomed to being alone, and usually quite content in solitude. A secret poet. An occasional painter (of paintings, not houses). A compiler of images. An artist. A Jew. A brother, son and uncle. Honest. Quick witted. Compassionate. Reverent. Intuitive. Dangerously optimistic (I sometimes think the glass as 2/3 full). Unconventional. Funny in person, not so funny in prose. An easy laugher. A lover of imaginative, elegant theories. A possessor of easily pulled heartstrings. Polite. Presentable. Even formal, when necessary. Questing. Researching. Strong willed. Helpful. Easily distracted. Self-aware (or so it seems to me). Believer in God, but occasionally doubting. A risk-averse, unconventional entrepreneur. Not a workaholic. Solid. Supportive. Candid. Warm. INFP. Curious. Awe-struck by the beauty of trees growing and trees dying. Happy. Cautious. Faithful. Still learning.

From time to time: Self-centered. Stuck in my ways. Inadvertently offensive. Compassionate to a fault. Distant (when I need to refuel). Lonely. Awkward. Charismatic. Absent-minded. Irreverent. Sad. Angry. Gregarious.
What I’m doing with my life
I own a small company that designs, produces and sells architectural home furnishings. The things I design are sold in showrooms throughout the country. I employ mostly young artists in my studio/workshop, and run the business with a familial spirit.

I live in a house I designed with an architect friend. Still a work in progress, it's on a quiet city street and is buffered from the world by a semi-wild garden. I paint occasionally, take photographs occasionally, and am working on a books of images that brings together many of my artistic musings.
I’m really good at
I'm generally calm in my manner, so I'm a good guy to have around when things get tense. A friend with a background in counseling once used the term "unanxious presence" to describe me — a person whose calmness can help the anxious people nearby relax. Not that this is a role I relish — I'd much prefer to be around people who were calm and enjoying the day before I showed up!
The first things people usually notice about me
I smile easily and I really try to pay attention to the people I'm with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In no particular order...
John Steinbeck: Grapes of Wrath, Cannery Row, To a God Unknown.
Cormac McCarthy: The Crossing, All the Pretty Horses.
Richard Wilbur: The Field, Marginalia.
Jorge Luis Borges: Inventory.
William Wordsworth: Ode.
Yehuda Amichai: My Father.
Zelda: Each Man Has a Name.
Princess Daihaku: Autumn Mountain.
Christopher Alexander: The Nature of Order, The Timeless Way of Building.
Harold Rosenberg: Barnett Newman.
Rilke: Letters to a Young Poet
Neil Young. Johnny Cash. Bob Dylan. Phosphorescent. The Low Anthem. Waylon Jennings. Jessi Colter. Leonard Cohen. Sandy Denny. A.A. Bondy. Devendra Banhart. Vetiver. The Beatles. Emmylou Harris. Gram Parsons. John Prine. Bonnie Raitt. Kris Kristofferson. Erik Satie.
Alexi Murdoch. Yim Yames.
The Station Agent. My Life as a Dog. Following Sean. The Misfits. Old Joy. You Can Count on Me. June Bug. A River Runs Through It.
Barnett Newman. Mark Rothko. Caspar David Friedrich. Blinky Palermo. Amedeo Modigliani. Henri Matisse. Agnes Martin. Quilters of Gee's Bend. Richard Tuttle. Andre Kertesz. Philip Perkis. Arthur Wesley Dow. My grandmother and a few friends.
Christopher Alexander. William Wurster. Bernard Maybeck. Nomads, farmers and hippies.
Friday Night Lights. Parks and Recreation. Freaks and Geeks.
My house and garden, The Alhambra, old art museums, the gallery designed by Tadao Ando at the Art Instutite, clear creeks, my studio, the homes of good friends.
Six things I could never do without
I'm sentimentally attached to many, many things, but other than shelter, food, the companionship of family and friends and a good measure of solitude, I don't think there's any thing I could not do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The welfare of my employees, friends and family.
The quality of daily life.
The role of art in daily life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having a quiet, relaxed evening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Singing around a campfire with good friends is one of my greatest pleasures, although one I don't have the opportunity to enjoy nearly as often as I'd like.
You should message me if
You are... Independent. Calm. Quiet. Loving. Intelligent. Imaginative. Kindhearted. Thoughtful about why people are the way they are. Good at conversing, and equally good at sharing silence. A bit mysterious. Awed by life. Often serene. Helpful. Hopeful. Optimistic.

If you're someone who is always on the move, going from one activity to another, well, the world needs people like you, but we're probably not a match. On the other hand, if you lead a relatively quiet, peaceful life, that bodes well.
The two of us