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My self-summary
to embrace imperfection
to fumble for grace
these are a few of my favorite things

First off, I'm 47. It can be a little challenging to find someone who shares an interest in having kids in your 40's. So, it'd be nice to meet someone younger, because having nieces, and nephews can be great, but there's something different about having your own kids. If some extra mileage doesn't scare you, then read on! :)

Random facts: selectively social; introspective ambivert; Myers-Briggs: INFP; Kolbe A: 8-4-4-4; background: liberal arts, philosophy, travel, language, military, teaching, theatre, film & tv, finance; grateful to have lived abroad in Europe and Asia--eager to do it again; minions crack me up; according to my family tree I come from a long line of farmers, doctors, teachers, clergy, and rabbits.
What I’m doing with my life
Scoping out which Pacific Island to visit until the GOP implodes.
I’m really good at
taking a nap

practical things and fun things--and trying to mix the two

play is serious business
The first things people usually notice about me
The dude is tall.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like fiction and non-fiction; history and contemporary; scientific and philosophical. Reads lately ... Game of Thrones, Codependent No More, In the Garden of Beasts, Lincoln Lawyer, Stop Walking on Eggshells, Reckless Endangerment, the Stieg Larsson trilogy, The Glass Castle, The Resiliency Advantage, Pricing the Future, The Gifts of Imperfection, Concrete Planet, Quiet, Being Wrong, The Body Keeps the Score, Red Notice.

Movies: no splatter/horror ... otherwise, yeah, I like 'em. I guess I did like Resident Evil, but I think it's more the sci-fi/action genre. I like to mix drama/thriller and some foreign and documentary into my movie diet.

Shows: comedy; one person shows; broadway too, but it's been a few years.

Music: more cowbell!; good ska--bring on the brass; Sia; Neko Case; Lana Del Rey; Mazzy Star; Gillian Welch; Damien Rice; My Chemical Romance; David Bowie; Groove Armada; ELO; Rosie Thomas; Imogen Heap; Florence & the Machine; Leonard Cohen; Beth Orton; Yeah, Yeah, Yeahs; Cat Power; The Xx; The Be Good Tanyas; Eagles; Fiona Apple; Kasabian; a little dub here and there; nerd-core ...

TED talks; Radio Lab; a lot of NPR; Comedy Channel.

Food: sushi; cuban; thai; indian; spicey, spicey!
Six things I could never do without
(0) Sanity
(1) Freedom
(2) Faith
(3) Courage
(4) Compassion
(5) Love
(6) Spirit

Kind of an abstract thing going on there.
Especially zero. Gotta love zero.
I mean, what would we do without nothin'?

Also, apparently a smart phone with a dating app.
I spend a lot of time thinking about

Coming back to the present.

Responsibility and Gratitude.

Opportunity and Choice.

The regulatory functions of the frontal lobe.
On a typical Friday night I am
Balancing out the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I chug milk from the carton.
You should message me if
You can be yourself and let others be themselves.
You prefer to appreciate Life as a rich tapestry of colors, rather than merely black and white.

You can have fun with makeup, while being comfortable without it.

You can navigate conflict in healthy ways. You value others, as well as yourself. You appreciate balance, complexity, flexibility, and compromise.

Body, mind, soul ... what floats your boat? Do you know what you like--what nurtures you?
Do you ask yourself what makes you tick? Are you curious about the world, others, and yourself?

As far as night-life, you like to go out, but it's probably not a regular thing. Catching up on sleep once in a while is okay; feeling as if jet-lagged from five different time zones by the end of the week ... not so much.

You can accept the occupational hazards of being human and being with someone else who is also human.

You want to have kids, and to enjoy the challenges and rewards that come with our humble attempts to believe in and support children, as well as one another.
The two of us