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My self-summary
just a big queer nerd into the dorky things, but also into some of the woodsy things, and sometimes the fancy things

i'm a big talker, and can easily launch into a story, but i try to balance it out with active listening.

I find I live by the sentiment that an unexamined life is not worth living. I question everything, not always intentionally, but simply as a function of my introverted brain.
What I’m doing with my life
trying to live by a simple motto: the only measure of your words and your deeds will be the love you leave behind when you're gone.

i work for a very large tech company/retailer and i'm trying to get a novel, or a short story, or an epic written.

my professional history has turned out to be varied, but i think i'm liking that.
I’m really good at
listening and talking, explaining and understanding, cooking and eating.

i like to think i'd be good at anything i put my mind to, but i think this is true of all people.
The first things people usually notice about me
my voice is deep, it travels, and i use it a lot.

i'm tall

my newest pair of glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
the answer to all is thus: my favorite is based on consuming that which is truly what it is, that adds to my life, that changes my preconceived notions, that surprises me.
Six things I could never do without
tattoos (i have three and counting)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
crafting the perfect story

the nature, cause, and cure for human paradox

how to quell my unhealthy capitalistic urges while still maintaining a decent wardrobe

what the future may bring for technology and the human spirit, and if i'll be alive long enough to see enough of it

whether it's worth going back to school to study design so i can make myself a cute pair of shoes

if my desire to sculpt my physique is motivated by a natural sense of aesthetics, or a decades old bias toward a particular form of beauty, and whether it's even possible given my specific cultural genetic heritage

finding the right word to describe exactly what i'm trying to say, even when it turns out the word doesn't exist

creating my own language to avoid the previous
On a typical Friday night I am
making some dinner and relaxing, unless i got home late from work. i'm not a bar-person, so i tend to stay home on the typical nights out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
sometimes i'm not a nice guy.
sometimes i'm not a neat guy.
sometimes i'm more human than I want to admit.
You should message me if
if you like intimacy and passion, you like to talk and argue, you like to read and share.

if you're kind, compassionate, and considerate.

if you're looking to develop something long lasting and aren't—despite a natural sense of what could be called desperation or a fear that you are getting too old for this shit—willing to risk a good thing by rushing at it too quickly.

if you smile when children are around.

if you are interested in getting to know me, because I like a guy who is proactive and goes after what he wants.
The two of us