54 Granada Hills, United States
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My self-summary
We all want to feel safe and like to think we are open to the next phase in life. Many are looking for that soulmate and person to fill their life or perhaps they feel they haven’t achieved goals or financial independence that is termed the American Dream…It seems we are enamored more with celebrities and real life drama, than being happy within.

Through dating many women I find there are no rules and having expectations or prejudging chemistry through words in a profile or pictures isn’t necessarily going to open you up for finding what you want. Some find you hot and others might not, but going out and meeting someone with the openness and possessiveness to meet a cool person has led me to meeting some pretty amazing lovers and friends.

I have had some say my last written profile was too sexual and yes perhaps at the time I enjoyed the variety of people and found women are much like men after being stuck in a long term marriage or relationship…while others look for that elusive perfect relationship or can only be sexual if they are in a committed relationship.

The slippery slope for the people looking for that soulmate is that pre conceived expectations kind of puts you in a box and sometimes we haven’t found that soulmate within ourselves, which unfortunately leads to repeating the same patterns. I don’t think there is any one wrong or right way to be…each person must find what is right for them.

Down deep we all want to love and to be loved, but we all have barriers or walls built through years of disappointment, fear of not finding love or feelings of inadequacy.

But trying to fix your life or self by having other people love you is an empty place. I like a connection where we can be ourselves and have learned to be in the moment. Someone who has done the work and wants an equal partnership based on natural flow and desire.

Although I would like to find that perfect fit, being open to new experiences and different people has taught me to live in the moment and enjoy the person whether it is a one-time meeting or evolves into a friendship or more.

I have enjoyed the process of meeting and getting to know different kinds of people all searching for that inner happiness, but I’ve found it most certainly starts from within. Even the meetings where mutual desire and chemistry is not there, I have met awesome people and I’ve learned much about myself.

It’s all good and once you stop having expectations or judging a profile from how they answered a question, how they look or what they write.

It’s only after you speak and agree to meet in person do you truly know chemistry or how you will feel with that person. There have been some pretty pleasant surprises over past few years where we both found more attraction in person. I have been told that I am much better looking in person, which is a nice compliment to hear from time to time.

Even situations where I met someone and there wasn’t that wow factor I have enjoyed meeting a cool person. It’s all about having fun and going with the flow, while being who you need to be, without unrealistic expectations of others. It’s all good if you love yourself, are honest with those you meet and open to the unknown.
What I’m doing with my life
Raising my kids...My daughter is transferring and trying to get her set to finish college, son is going into 2nd grade and growing up fast...finding other ways to make more $, balancing the house, workload and enjoying my time alone and with a special person.
I’m really good at
I am a good communicator and people person but also enjoy my quiet time. I am a good parent and I think I am really good at self reflection.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm cuter in person. Some think I'm hot and others not...its all chemistry and what you like:) I am me and pretty down to earth. I can talk with anyone.
The six things I could never do without
My son
My daughter
My cell, IPAD and high Speed Internet
Food and water
Mutual Passion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
thinking of better ways to be feeling stress free and open minded. I self reflect and try to be a better person.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out to dinner with my 18 year old daughter and 7 year old son..or a date to a movie or comedy show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've done weekly therapy for over 4 years now and find excepting myself by living without trying to control everything is the happiest place to be.
You should message me if
YOU r open minded, young at heart and a sweet soul Sexy and alive.