Lately I arrange flowers, write code, build large-scale fire art, practice aerial acrobatics, study artificial intelligence, engage in a bit of recreational CNC machining, teach the occasional class, attempt to more fully understand BDSM, make up new rope dart tricks, and attend a variety of epic parties. Honestly, my life is great.
I reject the cultural narrative that the thing a person is paid to do defines who they are. There's just so much more. That said, the day job takes about 50% of the usable hours, which has an effect. So, for a living I tend to make software for organizing groups of people, an area in which I recently started and sold a company. Previously, I wrote code for Wikipedia, and before that I made kinky porn. I've also worked as a weldor, machinist, fire performer, EMT, and photographer.
I live in an elevator shaft (but don't get the wrong idea: it's a very sunny elevator shaft).
Boys: I'm listed as bisexual because saying anything else would be lying. I sleep with people of whatever gender. With a small number of exceptions (most of whom turn out to be in the circus), I tend to only be attracted to boys I know pretty well already. That sort of precludes "dating." In short, you should probably save that well-crafted, eloquent introduction for someone else. Good luck!
Everyone: The word polyamory sounds like a medical condition to me (sort of like how "spouse" is reminiscent of a livestock disease), but it also more or less describes how I've been living since I was a teenager. For example: right now I there's one relationship that occupies a good deal of my time (but we'd never throw around words like "primary"), and somewhere between 3-6 friends with whom I have a sexual or romantic dynamic, some of whom I've known for many years.
I find that life is better when I resist defining these things more precisely, but I keep my fancy free.
A few years ago I was taught how to listen. Now I do it a lot. My friends call me.
Seriously-out-of-date website: raindrift.com
Two of the most beautiful books I have ever read: 1. Steppenwolf, by Hermann Hesse, wherein we are introduced to a wretched, depressed character named Harry, who is then redeemed by the power of things I didn't realize I loved until years after I read the book. 2. The Timeless Way of Building, by Christopher Alexander. I realize it's unusual to be moved to tears by book about architecture, but every time I get to the part with the ancient fish in the little pond, yep, there I go...
Movies: I loved Short Bus—funniest porn I've ever seen. Amelie was great, and so was Waking Life. Oh, and Requiem for a Dream. I love Samsara. Stardust was wonderful. And holy shit, The Holy Mountain! There's a lot of good cinema in the world and I can't possibly list it all here.
Music: I tend toward the electronic, complex percussion, and unusual (but harmonious) sounds; nonetheless, my tastes are quite diverse. I fell in love with a pop song last week.
Foods: I'm mostly vegan, and lactose intolerant, and eat a low-GI diet. This makes me less of a pain in the ass to eat out with than you might think because I don't whine about it, but I am still unlikely to accompany you to that awesome steakhouse. It also helps that I can cook pretty well when I bother. I made spicy citrus and sake fried noodles the other day. It was quite tasty.
Shows: This probably refers to TV, but I don't watch it, so let's talk stage. I'm a huge fan of Cirque du Soleil, and circus in general. It's like that shit isn't even real. Also, I've gotten pretty into immersive theater lately. If you're in NYC, definitely go see Sleep No More. But, the best piece I've seen yet is House Tour. Sadly, it was custom-designed for Z-Space and isn't currently running.
1. The superintelligent machines that will supersede humanity as the dominant species on the Earth, how to build them, and how we might encourage them to love us.
2. The economics of global poverty.
3. The best ways to enable massive volunteer effort, and how to scale the organizing principles.
4. How to build a self-cooled steam/lpg/air thruster, and make it small enough for a dancer to wear.
5. The steps humanity needs to take to preserve the existence of life when the sun finally swells up and swallows the earth, and where I could fit into that.
6. A better way to hide a can of propane under someone's skirt.
7. Beautiful machines that immediately reveal everything about their function. Some are made of metal, some are made of code, and some are made of thousands of people working together.
The most important thing to me is that you understand how precious your life is, and you realize that you have the ability to use it for whatever you want. Be interested in things, to the point that your interest is infectious and motivates the people around you to make stuff happen, too.
Ideally you'll be confident in your ability to learn whatever you need and have the skills that come from believing in yourself for years, but you'll also feel comfortable living with almost nothing. This allows you take serious risks, to lead your life as if you're not afraid to fail, and therefore to do things that are amazing.
Or just drop me a line if you think I'm cute. Maybe I'll think you're cute too.