40Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Kind, compassionate, generous, usually the rock, but also vulnerable and need support. I am looking for a best friend and partner. Someone's who realises that relationships are never perfect and take work. I try to never make any decision without considering how my actions will affect those around me. My pleasure is generally based on the pleasure of those I am with and in a relationship, on my partner's. I am always down to cuddle and long to be wanted. I have large hopes but no expectations.

Strictly non-monogamous, but more than wanting a life long commitment. We can hash out the details between us.
What I’m doing with my life
I fix shit. I currently do donation based auto repair in oakland and I dream of opening a community auto repair.
I’m really good at
Feeling awkward in crowds. Finding faults in others when I truly want to be connected.

Creating space for those who need someone to hear them. Solving problems or just being there for people.
The first things people usually notice about me
that i am not wearing any pants.

Also, it can take a while for me to feel comfortable and start making jokes. Booze also helps this, so I consume it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Nina Simone, NIN, Taxi Driver, Home cooked, Endurance

Honestly, this section is too much right now. Maybe some other time.

In general I like things that have something to say or art that is made out of compulsion. Any art for arts sake is just ok with me.
Six things I could never do without
Being wanted, Touch, People to care about, Things to fix, Kitties, Freedom.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex and intimacy and love. Real love where people work towards making each other happy and that look in their eyes when you can see they want you around.

I am also stuck in an endless existential crisis. Been this way for as long as I can remember. I will not burden you with anymore than you want to hear. Just cuddle me and my brain goes blank. Or let me get lost in you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dive bar or sleep. Always want to be around people I love, but can't always be that lucky.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I am inconsolable, all i want is someone to hold me, and lay their head on my chest.
You should message me if
You want to be one of my new friends, cuddle buddies, play partners, adventure friend, yoga partner

You have vegan recipes to share.

You believe in AND practice enthusiastic consent and enjoy LOTS of communication (at least at first) The more clear you can be about your boundaries, the more comfortable I will feel about interacting with you. When it comes to intamacy with a new person, I like to say "I am available for ...."

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.

You wanna cuddle with someone without them trying to fuck you. Seriously. DTC. Down to cuddle.
The two of us