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My self-summary
Stupidity makes me crazy.

If you send me an email without reading my profile through, I will think you stupid and we will never meet.... so read or don't write. I WILL know the difference.

You know.... summarizing me is all relative. Different people see me very differently. I guess like beauty, it's in the eyes of the beholder.

One thing noone contradicts is that I'm smart and I learn fast. If you can teach it, I can learn it - and then teach it myself.

I am socially liberal & fiscally conservative. I barely bought myself anything expensive before buying my first house.

I am loyal to those who are loyal to me. I don't believe in letting outside forces compromise relationships - they live or die on their own merits.
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally, I'm currently a computer programmer and team lead for a bank. I dance whenever I can without driving myself crazy driving, parking, or staying awake driving (which means these days I usually only dance in NYC if I have someone to drive with, which is a bit of a drag..the best regular dances are in Manhattan). That leaves me dancing an average of 2 or 3 nights a month in NJ. I also exercise 2-3 times most weeks. I volunteer from time to time, in animal welfare, and teaching(teaching dance, tutoring kids or teaching high school classes in personal financial literacy)

I have a fireplace that I have yet to use, would like to enjoy it with the right company.
I’m really good at
Logic. Dancing. Teaching almost anything I know how to do well and even some things I learn as I teach.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height and my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Haven't read much lately - except health-related. Read a couple of books by Jilian Michaels (she's fantastic at communicating the stuff). Used to read a lot of Robert Ludlum, the Harry Potter books, & some self help books. I'm a trekkie and have been since the early 70s. I even have Star Trek memorabilia (maybe that should have been in "The most private thing I'm willing to admit". I like most music, except rap. Classical puts me to sleep. I love country and as a swing dancer, I pretty much live for any 8 count music I can dance to. I like lots of ethnic food, but try to keep strong spice & dairy to a minimum.
Six things I could never do without
My brain, wait, sometimes i wish i didnt have one, so maybe that doesnt belong here?

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Is he out there? Did I already meet him and we didnt recognize each other?
On a typical Friday night I am
Historically, dancing. Recently, no particular place or activity.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not as private a person as I probably should be.
You should message me if
You know how to put 2 sentences together. You want to get to know someone amazing and out of the box. You get that everyone over the age of 4 has baggage and that in truly relating to another human being, you each take a side and carry.

If you are going to write and talk and give me reason to believe you might actually be a good guy and then vanish before we meet - go back to your wife (because I figure you're married if you're playing that game) and don't write me. If you really are a good guy, and single, write me. If we make plans to get together...and you change your mind or can't make it - don't be a coward. Have the guts and decency to say so - beforehand & honestly (interesting how men seem to either just not show up without cancelling, or use their moms as an excuse to cancel and then never reschedule. Funny how they think I am stupid enough to believe it. Scary that they are stupid enough to believe I believe it. You would think that nonsense was outgrown in elementary school).

If you live far away, take note: I've already been there, done that with LDRs and I'm not doing it again. If you write me and you live far away, YOU are going to be doing the traveling and potentially moving, so if either of those is not an option for you, don't play that game.

I am not a cougar - so no cubs please. Intelligent, kind, patient, responsible, mature men only need apply.

You start your email with 'Peanut Butter', or some other way to make me know you read the profile. I get a lot of emails that look like they could have been sent to absolutely anyone or everyone.

If you rated me highly, don't be shy...drop me a line.
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