Friends first and forever is my goal. Too often, a first date seems almost like a job interview with lots of stress. Hard to feel romantic. So many woman think a passion bell is going to ring. Yeah, right. How often did that concept work for you in the past? It seems that too often people are looking for things that they felt were important at age 16 or age 22. Hello. Life changed. If you didn't up date, then skip me. Anyhow, it is easy to find reasons not to go forward. Humans seem to be wired to do that. We like to demonize others. It avoids facing our own realities by findings faults or shortfalls in others. But, give the process a little bit of time and effort and the rewards do appear. In my opinion and experience, that is the difference in being truly available in the here and now. I am an optimist and haven't gotten discouraged.
Where I live in the world doesn't matter. Whom I am sharing the adventures with and what we are doing does. I am willing to modify my life. Are you??? It is a two way street situation. Amazing how many folks tend to forget this aspect. You gain by adapting to new adventures. I find too many woman have set up life choice walls (often first developed as teenagers) without realizing how that process limits and excludes. For a while I did the same. Time did educate me to be more open to the world's opportunities. So, don't get angry with me for shaking up your own world self view. Instead, celebrate that I get it. Did you? Let me know if you get it.
I have moved to Dunedin (north of Clearwater) into a new-to-me 1972 era villa. I have completed a gut rehab of this new-to-me home. Semi-retirement is wonderful. I drive a hybrid vehicle so getting in the car and going places is normal. My current goal is to always live in a warmer climate area during the year and travel. I continue to have a small summer time cabin near Annapolis. MD. The cabin is my current northern base of operations. But, it is up for sale. I want flexibility to spend time doing OUR stuff.
When left to do things by myself, I tend to do Celtic theme activities. Most of Europe is a mix of Celtic heritage and gene pool. I have four kilts and a great attitude about having an active social life. For example, at the St. Pete International Heritage Ball in April, I attended dressed in Black Tie, formal jacket, and kilt. We closed up the place dancing to all forms of American Music. No moss on my rolling stone. Day time in Florida is a natural for walks, kayaking, biking, casual breakfast and coffee and .... In my bucket list is a desire to learn how to cook differently for a healthier lifestyle. Besides traveling, I enjoy looking at urban development ideas. One of my two masters degrees was in Urban Development. I enjoy sunbathing, swimming, socializing, reading, and either doing stuff on the internet or watching TV (not in any order). In years past, I have done theater arts but today I would rather be part of the audience, be supportive, be entertained, and then go out for dessert. Life is too short to rehearse that much.
In general, life is like a big candy store (or box of chocolates). I like to feel like I am living life fully. To paraphrase Henry David Thoreau: "To suck the marrow out of the bones of life". Normally, I expect and want to dance - not just watch others dance. In semi-retirement, I want to do as much as I can with few regrets.
And, I would like to share many of them with you if you are that Mostly-Right-for-me individual (not perfect - just a great pair-up at this point in time in our lives). Let our future history together decide if it was our ultimate memorable relationship. If not, then we still found someone to be a great friend, created great memories, and share the here and now with.
boB (reversed on purpose - anyone can be a regular Bob)