rcarduner
48 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
To begin with, I guess I should admit that I'm yet another East Coast transplant; about two years as of this writing, and yes, there’s the usual connection to “The Technology Industry”. But that's the means, not the motive. I am by no means a “brogrammer” type and in fact I tend to conflict with them quite a bit. My background's in the arts -- I started out in the theatre and somehow became a software developer by way of being a lighting designer.

I would not generally call myself “down-to-earth” or “easy-going” — I definitely have my share of neuroses, and can be high-strung at times. But I do well with the right support and environment.

I'm very much an urbanite, but I love spending time outside of the city, especially well outside of it. What I don't think I'll ever get is the idea of suburbia, though in recent years I've warmed up somewhat to the charms of small-town life. To me the keys are diversity and walkability.

I'm not much into sports (playing or watching), but I do enjoy walking and biking, and sometimes activities like skiing, whitewater rafting, and spelunking. I'd say I'm about a seven on the adventure-seeking scale.

I like to cook, and am inclined to go for complex, spicier foods. I do eat meat, but not necessarily a lot of it, and I seem to be naturally working my way down the food chain as I get older anyway.

I'm a pretty hardcore atheist. I accept what we have so far scientifically discovered about the universe and the origins of life, and believe that eventually we will understand it as best as we can. From there, of course, it gets really interesting, and I can almost get metaphysical about it. But to make one thing absolutely clear, I don't believe that there's some guy in the sky judging us all. Or that Jesus died for my sins.
What I’m doing with my life
[November 2016] Many things you might have read here before are false. Not because I’m a liar, but because times have changed.

The last time I updated my profile, I had just started a new job and was working with Mac/iOS instead of Windows, which was exciting. Unfortunately, that was apparently a bait-and-switch deal -- after some time that project was cancelled and it was back to more stupid Microsoft shit. However, the good side of the story is that the company I worked for is actually based here, and I was able to transfer offices in the meantime.

Much of my "spare" time during my first year or so here was spent working on a side-project that I had already committed to, developing an iOS game for a private client. My long-time goal had been to start my own business, in partnership with a friend who was already living here. Now I've quit the full-time job to focus on that. I'm also working on a couple of our own ideas. While all of that's not necessarily any less work, it does give me a little more flexibility to explore the area a little more...
I’m really good at
Writing software and technical documentation. It seems I've been pretty regularly pissing off friends and relatives with Scrabble / Words with Friends.

I'm sure I have some other talents, but currently these are the only ones that help pay the bills. You can decide.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A fair amount of English literature: Wuthering Heights, Persuasion, and Emma are some favourites there. Going back a couple of centuries and on to the stage, I definitely like me some Shakespeare, but I'm picky about my performances. Göedel, Escher Bach. The Phantom Tollbooth (and The Dot and the Line of course). The Economist, but I don't subscribe anymore.

Movies: Like Water for Chocolate, Memento, The Princess Bride, some by Hayao Miyazaki, Charlie Kaufman.

Music: As with most people, my tastes have changed over the years. I grew up in the 1970s and 1980s with the Beatles, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, Queen, Yes, and Rush; later moved on to Kate Bush, Miranda Sex Garden, Hooverphonic, Delerium; Poe, Funki Porcini, Fluke, Enigma and others. Various recordings of Beethoven symphonies get fairly frequent auditions. Sometimes I listen to newer music too.

Television: The old series of Doctor Who was always a big favourite -- I was mostly okay with the new series for a while, and occasionally it still has good moments, but now I feel it's become really ridiculous and difficult to watch. Other British classics on my list include Monty Python, Fawlty Towers, and the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy (the original radio & television series, not the movie). I liked the original U.K. version of The Office, but I also liked the American edition for a while, too. Also on this side of the Atlantic, we can count Firefly and Serenity, Futurama, and The Simpsons (the first ten or 15 years anyway) amongst my faves. Brain Dead and Fleabag were two recent series I enjoyed, but otherwise, you can tell I haven't been watching a lot of television lately.

Food: Spicy -- especially Middle Eastern and Indian. Garlic. Olives, pasta, blackcurrant and Earl Grey tea. Cheese. Chocolate.

Whisky: Laphraoig.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a member of Prozac Nation. (Well, not technically Prozac, but one of its relatives.)

I'm also a member of The 420 Club, though it seems like since I've moved to California I'm doing it wrong.

I have a mild case of heterochromia. It's only noticeable now if you look closely (or when I become overheated), but it was more pronounced when I was a kid. (Actually, I recently discovered more about this -- see the new picture.)
You should message me if
You like my profile.

You are intelligent, but warm-hearted; ideally if you have an artistic background or interests, and have a liberal, open mind. (And I'm referring here to the TRUE sense of liberalism, based on individual freedom, generosity towards others, belief in progress, and acceptance of change.)

You are adventurous, outgoing, and not a picky eater.

Ironically, having moved to the Bay Area, I'm a little more hesitant to mention this right off the bat than I was on the East Coast, but ideally, I'm looking for something a little more than "plain vanilla" in the bedroom. But bearing in mind the relative sensibilities here, I probably mean just a little. I'm not really interested in making a movement or spectacle of it (NTTAWWT). I like the sense of touch, and I like to concentrate; you should be able to do the same.

You must accept the basic idea of evolution and that the planet is more than 6,000 years old. If you believe that "God" set everything in motion some 13 billion years ago at the instant of the big bang, then that might be a workable compromise, but if you insist that he put fossils on the planet to test our faith then it just ain't gonna work out.

This has been stated by many others, but I think it's a good rule: honest mistakes aside, you should know the difference between it's and its, and your and you're. (And of course yore, but that one's rarely a problem!)
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