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My self-summary
I'm a thoughtful, giving, and energetic iconoclast, poorly balancing adventures and stacks of books. My work, passions and pass-times are the intersection of my restless mind and hands. I've been told I combine cynicism and joy, with relaxed intensity. I like that. I've been told I'm a self righteous goof-ball. I'm less crazy about that one.

I'm looking for an unusual person to discover and enjoy on their terms. I delight in meeting new people and watching them show me who they really are.

I escaped to San Francisco from Fresno, Ca, 20 years ago and despite everything I'm still falling in love with this city. For most of that time I've had an enveloping and tawdry affair with Oakland.

I'm a hardworking radical carpenter. I crave living and discovery but work and community activism come way first. Usually I'm OK with that. My work is demanding but exactly what I want (an office job would kill me). My activism is demanding but exactly what I want (except for tear gas, there's no good side to that stuff).

I was in the military (don't worry I was a peace-time cook, so no PTSD) and went AWOL for 3 years. Antiwar and antiracist organizing has been my most sustained political work but I do what I can to support a wide range of work to make a better world and Bay Area.

I like people in general but the weird ones are my favorite. I have very little tolerance for the poor treatment of other people. I WILL intervene when someone is wronged. I am a fierce anti-racist and feminist. I care deeply for those close to me as well as strangers and I'm considerate to a fault.

I love to travel but unfortunately most of my trips were short. The military took me to Oklahoma, Virginia, and Germany. Political work took me to Delaware, Washington, Missouri, Pennsylvania, New York, DC, Maryland, Jordan, Iraq, Mexico, Canada, Cuba, and the Republic of Korea (south). With my family I've been to Idaho, Costa Rica, and Puerto Rico. Some day I'm going to China (and back to Cuba).

I've worked on a number of tallest buildings in the Bay Area and am really into heights. I'm much more smiley than my photos indicate.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm squeezing a life in between community political organizing and construction work. I'm doing too much at once, loving and hating it at the same time.

My work background is steel carpentry but work lately has involved more painting and landscaping than anything else. Most of the buildings are pretty old so there's an antique fixture restoration element that's fun. I'm also learning electrical work and furniture-making the hard way.

I'm very active in a variety of bay area political/community struggles. My big challenge is to make time to read and study not just act. I've been an activist since I was 14 and more than anything, it defines my life.
I’m really good at
Lightening up tense situations, making people feel safe, finding weird ways to make boring fun and solving problems with tape. Also convincing the obnoxious drunk guy harassing everyone to go home, watching other people dance, helping friends move, swimming, wrestling, climbing, boxing, woodcarving, making sandcastles, gardening, brickwork and cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile and pony-tail.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Whatever I'm reading watching or listening to at the time is my favorite. On all accounts I'm all over the place, just depends on my mood.

The worst Hollywood horror to Citizen Kane. I'm a big Star Wars nerd. Also Documentaries, Zombies, Scifi, Cult, Noir, Anime, etc.

Mostly political history and theory but have a soft spot for Stephen King and Octavia Butler. Just finished "The Martian" by Andy Weir. Right now I'm reading "Showdown at Desire" about the Black Panther Party in New Orleans in 1970. And then there's Hellboy...

The Walking Dead, Girls, Broad City, Breaking Bad, Cowboy Beebop, Shield, stand-up comedy that isn't too racist or sexist, Human Planet, Blue Planet (does anyone else feel like Sir David Attenborough's voice magically makes you smarter?), Wilfred

I like being introduced to other peoples unusual music. I enjoy everything from hip-hop to country, but my favorites are Bob Dylan, Nina Simone, and Howlin' Wolf.

For me, cooking, eating and drinking is a celebration and ritual. Food is my religion. I carefully devour cookbooks and explore anything I've never had. Alcohol is my favorite intoxicant but spirits, wine and beer are more food than drug. Oh...I'm not a vegan. But cooking vegan is fun in moderation.
Six things I could never do without
Strangers, coffee, someone close, air, food, and water. I keep changing my mind on the order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Right now...How to best organize against racist police terror, antique door restoration, why my sisig doesn't taste as good as at that restaurant, and Egon Schiele.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a movie, pool table, amazing table of food or most likely working or at a meeting
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I had gay sex in the Army? Not many secrets. Just ask.
You should message me if
You want to meet a thoughtful, exciting guy to have fun with.
The two of us