relsqui
31Portland, United States
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My self-summary
Open, friendly, nerdy, precise. I value self-awareness, thoughtful communication, and plain old kindness; I dislike pretentiousness and excessive ego, which makes dating in Portland rough. Well, that, and I'm not a big beer drinker.

I'm a bit of a homebody. I do like going out and trying new things, I just like some re-centering time in between. Neither "introvert" nor "extrovert" describes me very accurately: I like being around people and get sad when I don't, but familiar ones in small groups are best.

Feminism and anti-racism are not optional. I don't need you to be actively involved with social change groups (I'm not), just give a shit about how what you say and do affects others. I wish this went without saying.

Last but not least: I'm nonbinary. My pronouns are they/them. If you're puzzled by this it's okay to ask me friendly questions about it. It's not okay to ignore it. (Casually getting my pronouns right is a great way to show that you read my profile!)
What I’m doing with my life
Winding up a degree in applied linguistics, with a minor in computer science, at PSU. ("At 31?!" Yeah, long story. Ask me over coffee.)

Realistically, getting distracted from homework by coding little side projects. (Same username on github.)

Trying to simultaneously find a post-graduation job and not think about jobs, which is tricky.
I’m really good at
Learning languages. Playing Tetris. Hugs. Saying what's on my mind and asking you what's on yours. Being direct but still polite. Organizing a plan. Adapting when the plan goes wrong.

I'm bad at remembering things if I don't write them down, but good at remembering to write them down.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, right now I'm totally bald, so probably that. When I do have hair it's usually weird colors or mohawked or something though. Plus I have all these facial piercings, and I smile a lot, and I talk really fast.

Suffice it to say that I'm pretty conspicuous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I was raised on Roald Dahl and mediocre fantasy novels, grew up on MUDs and fanfiction, and recently went on a kick of reading classics. Comedies of manners (Austen, Brontë) are my junk food. Just finished Robin Hobb's Farseer series on a recommendation, and liked it more than I expected.

I don't really make time to watch things on my own, but I'll watch your thing with you if it's pretty low-key. I prefer stories that charm me to ones that scare me. I also like getting warm fuzzies and being made to think.

Come to think of it, that's basically my taste in people, too.

Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: exactly. Strong basslines (or bass voices) make me melt. When I'm home alone I blast jazz standards and harmonize with Ella.

Oh yeah, and I'm unapologetically on the McElroy podcast bandwagon.
Six things I could never do without
1. Words.
2. The sort of friend I can talk to without words.
3. The right amount of free time: not too little, not too much.
4. Something to doodle and take notes on.
5. Affectionate touch.
6. Comfortable clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People and relationships. Morphology, syntax, semantics. Thinking itself. Whoever is physically nearby, and people I care about who are elsewhere. The algorithms by which passengers choose seats on partly-full buses. (... look, I spend a lot of time on buses.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Chilling with my roommates and/or partner, maybe cooking dinner or catching up on Car Boys. Failing that, poking around the internet or playing games or making something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
How I feel like presenting my gender from day to day varies over periods of about four to six months. It's always authentic, just a moving target.
You should message me if
You want to introduce me to a good chill bar or coffee shop.
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