relsqui
31Berkeley, United States
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My self-summary
Open, friendly, nerdy, thoughtful. I value self-awareness, intentional communication, and plain old kindness; I dislike pretentiousness, self-deprecation, and excessive ego.

I'm a bit of a homebody. I do like going out and trying new things, I just like some re-centering time in between. Neither "introvert" nor "extrovert" describes me very accurately: I like being around people and get sad when I don't, but familiar ones in small groups are best.

Feminism and anti-racism are not optional. I don't need you to be actively involved with social change groups (I'm not), just give a shit about how what you say and do affects others. I wish this went without saying.

Last but not least: I'm nonbinary. My pronouns are they/them. If you're puzzled by this it's okay to ask me friendly questions about it. It's not okay to ignore it. (Casually getting my pronouns right is a great way to show that you read my profile!)
What I’m doing with my life
Figuring out the new normal after moving back to my hometown. By day, I direct computer programs to assemble and distribute other computer programs, which is more fun than it probably sounds. By evening I play video games (think Animal Crossing, not Halo) and BS with my friends. By night I try to get a good eight hours of sleep, but it's hard, you know? Always something else to catch your attention.
I’m really good at
Learning languages. Playing Tetris. Hugs. Saying what's on my mind and asking you what's on yours. Being direct but still polite. Organizing a plan. Adapting when the plan goes wrong.

I'm bad at remembering things if I don't write them down, but good at remembering to write them down.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm fat, I have light pink hair and a faceful of piercings, I smile a lot, and I talk fast. It's probably one of those.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I was raised on Roald Dahl and mediocre fantasy novels, grew up on MUDs and fanfiction, and recently went on a kick of reading classics. Comedies of manners (Austen, Brontë) are my junk food. I read Robin Hobb's Farseer series on a recommendation last year, and liked it more than I expected.

I don't really make time to watch things on my own, but I keep up on Steven Universe when I remember, and my roommate has me going through Bojack Horseman (which is basically the opposite among American cartoons). I don't think about movies very much, so I probably haven't seen your favorite yet.

I prefer stories that charm me to ones that scare me. I also like getting warm fuzzies and being made to think. Come to think of it, that's basically my taste in people, too.

Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: exactly. Strong basslines (or bass voices) make me melt. When I'm home alone I blast jazz standards and harmonize with Ella.

Oh yeah, and I'm unapologetically on the McElroy podcast bandwagon. Ask me about my disproportionate fondness for TAZ background characters. (Also, Shrimp Heaven Now.)
Six things I could never do without
1. Words.
2. The sort of friend I can talk to without words.
3. Regular access to sunshine and breezes.
4. Something to doodle and take notes on.
5. Affectionate touch.
6. Comfortable clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People and relationships. Work. Thinking itself. Whoever is physically nearby, and people I care about who are elsewhere. What other people are reading on BART.
On a typical Friday night I am
Chilling with one of my roommates, with a decent likelihood of sharing a joint and making shortsighted decisions about junk food. Failing that, poking around the internet or playing games or trying to psych myself up to unpacking my new room.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really actually not either a dude or a lady (even a trans one). I think that means you have to be a little bit queer to date me? Because if you only like one gender, I'm not it.

That said, I've dated straight people pretty happily in the past, so if you think you can convince me your orientation doesn't contradict your interest, try me.
You should message me if
You like chatty coffee shop dates and quiet lazing-at-home dates. You let people take care of you some of the time and take care of them some of the time. You usually choose your words thoughtfully. You speak geek but aren't snobby about it. You're worried about the country right now.

You don't need to be my one and only. I have a sweet partner who lives too far away, and I'm open to adding someone nearby but not replacing them.
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