42San Mateo, United States
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My self-summary
Aspiring musician, tribute/cover band singer, and generally active person. I really enjoy physical activity (esp rock climbing, to this point indoors), but also like slowing down and enjoying stillness at times as well.

In TL;DR form, I'm polyamorous and bisexual and consider myself to be a feminist.

I also answer to quite a few names, but won't list them here :).
What I’m doing with my life
An east coast native, I’ve now been in the bay area for the last couple decades.

Though I enjoy my job managing software engineers, my job definitely does not define me. I’m a strong proponent of work/life balance and it has lead me to discover - and love - playing music. Guitar lessons, voice lessons, and playing with others are all parts of my “happy place”. Currently I am the singer in an Ozzy tribute band and having a blast with it. If you enjoy playing music of almost any kind we’ll probably get along.

I'm fortunate to have two partners with whom I'm in supportive relationships, although I am actively looking for someone else to share a deep connection with (hence OKC).

Actively, I’ve dabbled in running, cycling, and indoor rock climbing, but I’m game for pretty much anything active that won’t murder a beginner ;). I’m actually really looking for a regular rock climbing partner.

When I slow down, it's to enjoy time with friends, watch TV, read, or play board or video games. Cuddling can be sublime
I’m really good at
Exploring new things, learning melodies, and being optimistic. And using the Oxford comma!
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, hair and dimples. And “is that a kitty earring?”
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For books I tend towards fantasy, though I don't read as much as I'd like. Big fan of the Wheel of Time and the Nightrunner books. I’m trying to branch into non-fiction with some of the heavier things going on in the world.

My taste in music tends towards guitar-oriented rock and blues (guitarist), but I like most genres; one of my favorite things about meeting new people is being introduced to new music. My guilty pleasure stuff tends to be obscure European power-metal groups.

TV is mostly various Netflix series these days, and I feel like I’m playing endless catch-up with the most popular shows of the day (Walking Dead, Game of Thrones). I tend to go on and off watching TV.

As for movies I enjoy a lot of science fiction. Music documentaries can be kind of inspiring. My oddball favorite last year was Florence Foster Jenkins.
Six things I could never do without
My cat
Climbing gear
Google Calendar
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Recently, “what the heck happened to the world and how can I help make it better.”
On a typical Friday night I am
On energetic weeks, out on a date, climbing with friends, at a show, or at some local brewery exploring.

On less energetic weeks, chilling out with a book, show or game and recharging for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I had it here and decided instead to provide it if asked. The answer changes based on how well you know me. Or make up a crazy guess!
You should message me if
You’re looking for someone to do some fun active stuff with.

You’re looking for someone to catch some cool live music with.

Or, you just think we’d get along and want to meet and see what unfolds between us.

I’m currently in a place where I’m looking for a deep connection but not to force anything. I like to let relationships find their own intensity, and that can include friendship. Reach out!
The two of us