I'm always rethinking everything about myself and about life, so I'm particularly open to new people, new ideas, new experiences, especially right now. I don't know where it will end -- maybe right where I started -- but I hope it's an interesting ride.
I am open minded, thoughtful, and creative.
I have a home studio with all kinds of keyboards, synthesizers, and cool gear that I have a lot of fun with. On my down time, I like to go into my studio, flick on the switches one after the other, launch my software, crank the volume up loud enough to make my ears ring, and start improvising, or working on a song. The technology gives you amazing capabilities. I find it very intense to be in the middle of all the gear, with thousands of sounds at my disposal, all mixing and flowing in and out from one circuit to the next, LEDs flickering, numbers and waveforms whizzing by and musical forms filling up computer screens, ... it can put me in a trance. I'm in the middle of a project of writing and producing an album of music, just for fun. I do all the instruments through synthesizers, write the lyrics, and sing (well, I try anyway).
Movies: Blue Velvet, Mulholland Drive, Blade Runner, Apocalypse Now, American Teen, The Machinist, + one thousand others
Books: Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, The Oedipus Cycle, The Crying of Lot 49, Naked Lunch, Collected Poems of Wallace Stevens, ..., lots of theoretical books, lots of others, ...
Classical Music: Anything by Webern esp. Cantata no. 1, Anything by Berg esp. Violin Concerto, Mahler 9, Sibelius 5, Early Stravinsky, Boulez Le Marteau sans Maitre, ...
Popular Music: Led Zeppelin, Alice in Chains, Soundgarden, Stone Temple Pilots, Robert Fripp, XTC, Jane's Addiction, Pearl Jam, ...
Food: I love all kinds of Asian cuisine, Chinese, Thai, Japanese, Vietnamese, ..., love the best of just about any cuisine, French, Italian, ..., mmmm my mouth is watering now, ...
Friends and family,
A laptop and an Internet connection,
A piano or electric keyboard,
What I'm ideally looking for ... I don't like to make stipulations, because I'm always surprised by unexpected chemistry, and have many times met amazing people who didn't fit my preconceptions. That said, the key thing for me is synergy. A relationship should add energy and possibility to both people's lives. I have many things I still want to accomplish and I expect my best years still lie ahead. I'd like to be with someone who feels the same way and who wants a mutual partnership. My favorite poem is Alfred, Lord Tennyson's Ulysses, which I memorized in high school.
Needless to say, I am completely uninterested in any form of drama, emotional drain, or mind games -- anything that will subtract from my life rather than add to it. Also, I consider competition with a relationship partner, or being threatened by their successes, pathological and a turn off. Being in a relationship means being on the same team, taking on challenges together, not draining energy by competing with each other.
I like women ... a lot. I have positive feelings toward just about every woman I've ever dated. I enjoy good conversation. It's rare that I don't enjoy hours of interesting conversation on the very first date. I value intelligence and creativity. My undergraduate and graduate degrees are from ivy league schools, so I'm comfortable with intellectual types, but I'm not hung up on academic credentials or anything specific like that. Artists, scientists, and writers, are exciting, but I've had fascinating relationships with women from very different walks of life.