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My self-summary
Let’s get the shallow stuff out of the way:

-- Extroverted technologist by day, misanthropic Luddite by night
-- T-Shirt, shorts, flip-flops. To work. Because I can. I can pull off well groomed and fashionable when I need to, but it is not my norm. Most importantly, skinny jeans will never be a part of my wardrobe.
-- 25 year old car. It’s my toy, in good shape, with air conditioning
-- Android over Apple. It’s a principled stance.
-- I smoke cigarettes. Not inside, that's gross. I try my best to be considerate of others when I do. The best smoke is after running. Smart, huh?
-- My party days are behind me. If you are looking for a party buddy, I’m not your guy though you are welcome to party without me.
-- Crowds are exhausting. I don’t do them.
-- I can’t dance. I’m white.
-- Respectful, polite, open-minded
-- Never been married but a few LTRs. No kids, but I did get custody of the dog in my last “divorce”. I’m on great terms with my significant exes.
-- Concurrently fucking eloquent and delightfully crass
-- Considerate. Our time is valuable, and I don’t want to waste yours.
-- I’m a nerd. Took a lifetime to embrace that.
-- My “little extra” is about ~5 pounds. It was ~10. I affectionately refer to it as my “lab weight”. CS students don’t get out of the lab much.
-- Recent college graduate. I'm completely self-sufficient, but that means I can’t be your sugar daddy.

Still here? Glad you stayed!

I kick ass. At least that's what people I trust say about me, usually when trying to set me up on dates. I prefer to use a more modest tone when describing myself.

I've held residence in Austin for 30 years, and even though I have done just about everything there is to do around here, I have not tired of the place. While I may yet wander out to some foreign locale, Austin is my home and taking up residence some place else will never be more than a temporary situation. My family is here and my friends are here (most of whom I have known since childhood). I'm a bit of a South Austin snob, and tend to not wander further north than the Capitol.

I'm like a sine wave just slightly out of sync with the rest of society. We intersect, then deviate, then intersect again. Wash, rinse, repeat.

I am many things, yet I generally defy the labels. I've been known to ride a skateboard, but I am not a skater. I do athletic things, yet I am not an athlete. I take some photos here and there, but I would never consider myself a photographer. I've played some music, but will never consider myself a musician. At the moment (and for the foreseeable future), "software nerd" is applicable.

Pragmatism is a constant theme in my life. There are very few things that one has control over, and being aware of this allows me to focus my efforts on those things I can. To me, this is much like surfing and I use "surfing as life" analogies regularly. In those terms, I am not the aggressive short-boarder who paddles for everything that comes along. Rather, I am the patient long-boarder who paddles out everyday, then bobs around waiting for that one good ride with my name on it. Occasionally, I misjudge and take a ride in the washing machine, but that is part of the experience. Paddle back out...

Personality tests classify me as an extrovert (ESTP, to be precise), but unlike most extroverts, I recharge through solitude. I like people and being social, but I often find it to be an overstimulating experience and tend to steer clear of loud, crowded places. I would much rather sit in some quiet, off the beaten path spot with one or two close friends. Combine this with my independent streak, and I might go days at a time without making a phone call. Even though I may be alone, I am rarely lonely.
What I’m doing with my life
Killing it. Putting out fires. Herding cats. Modernizing an industry, one line of code at a time.

I've been active my entire life. I blame Paul Carroza for brainwashing me when I was young. These days, I run after work a few days a week and commute via bicycle on the remaining days (when I have time) for no reason other than it's fun.

I rarely drink, and prefer patio beers in those moments when I do.

My current life goal is to retire at a reasonable age and move to a Central American surf town. Nicaragua, anyone?
I’m really good at
Telling you what other things that fringe non-leading actor/actress has been in.

Situational awareness. I can pick out people I haven't seen in 20 years as they walk down the street. (Hey, that girl was in my 4th grade class!) I have great face recall, but I'm kind of sucking with name recall lately.

Giving advice. Even my mom asks for it.

Teaching. Mentoring. Leading. Planning. Executing. Getting things done.

Also, I can cook, resolve simple mechanical or electrical problems, fix your computer, and grow things. More importantly, I strive to be more than competent at whatever it is that I am doing.

I also have no qualms about admitting that I am not good at something.
The first things people usually notice about me
My gray hair... or my potty mouth.... Gotten a few compliments on my legs lately...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books? Not much time for pleasure reading. When I do read for pleasure, I tend to read non-fiction of the history/political/biographical sort.

Movies: Yep. I watch movies. I am a big fan of Kevin Smith, Frank Miller, Robert Rodriguez, and Luc Besson. I also like to watch movies that make others cringe... Van Wilder, for example...

Music: Although I'm not as passionate about music as I was in my younger years, I still listen to music on a daily basis. I cut my teeth on 80s hardcore and metal, 90s So-Cal punk, and misc. other stuff. I have a odd affection for European hip-hop. Currently in rotation are Rise Against, Dropkick Murphys (The Meanest of Times only), Silversun Pickups (Swoon only), VolBeat, Billy Talent, Lupe Fiasco, Talib Kweli, Idle Warship, Santigold, and Paramore.

I'm sure most of you will find this blasphemous, but there are several bands that I'm sure you like, but I will be just fine if I never hear them again: The Beatles, Queen, Led Zeppelin, The Doors, any jam band (this includes the Grateful Dead, Phish, etc). Flame on!

Food: I love to eat, be it food that I have cooked up at home or wandering out into town. I do most of my shopping at Central Market, but occasionally swing by the McDonalds (junk food is part of a balanced diet... It keeps you ready to eat crap when you have to). If I'm out, then Polvo's, Curras, Madam Mam's, Lamberts, La Condesa, Chilantro and Green Mesquite do it for me... School caused me to miss the last five years of the cuisine scene, and I'm trying to catch up. Aside from seafood, I'm not a picky eater.
Six things I could never do without
Coffee (it's a problem, but only in the mornings. Like a taste of heroin just to get straight.)
Running shoes
Flip flops
A computer (else my craft is worthless)
A sharp chef's knife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to resolve problems with the code that I am writing.

Better techniques for debugging people.

What my next personal refactoring will be.

Where to go on my next vacation.

Why OKCupid thinks that I am "less moral" when the concept of morality is completely subjective....

How the advent of mobile dating apps has turned the introductory communication into a series of text messages, and how unfortunate that it...

The social acceptability of contacting people you know on OKCupid. If you've been in Austin for any significant amount of time, it is inevitable that you will see someone you know on here. It is a horrible, taboo thing to make contact, even if only to say "hey"?
On a typical Friday night I am
At home, watching a movie, chilling with the dog, unwinding from the week and preparing for the morning run.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to listen to top 40 trash while coding.
You should message me if
You want to know how much ass I kick.
You live your life somewhat outside of the traditional paradigms of female behavior.
Marriage is not your highest priority.
You think we could have some intelligent conversation.
You want to check out some restaurants with me.
The two of us