68Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I am looking for attraction on multiple levels. I avoid unnecessary drama, life has enough unknowns. I value staying active and fit, mentally and physically. I'm am compassionate, trustworthy and honest. I live North of Lake Merritt and am looking to date or a relationship in the East Bay within 10 miles or so. Finding a life partner would be great but that cannot be forced at the beginning of a relationship. A relationship with real trust, respect, forgiveness and great kissing would be remarkable.

I can make you laugh, if not we shouldn't see each other. I am a good listener and appreciate being heard, talking to each other and not at each other is important. I value clarity.
What I’m doing with my life
Some very difficult events in my life have lead to new venues. I ceased speculating actively in financial markets, earned an AA in Paralegal and English but decided not to pursue that. Recently I have taken up playing guitar again after a long break, challenging myself in developing a solo fingerpicking guitar style and writing original material. I exercise regularly, am involved in local politics, read a lot (non-fiction), tend to my yard, take long walks, road cycle occasionally, like some sporting events, and accept that my cat is nuts, I I like goint to museums, day trips, beaches and other cultural events, and would like to share that with a friend-companion-lover-partner. I'm also very good at hanging out. I am honest, direct and articulate; I value that in you.
I’m really good at
I was a professional musician for 20+ years and a professional photographer, so I'm good at both. I'm good at listening if I'm being talked to and not at; I will give you the same courtesy. I'm good at staying calm and am quite reasonable. I'm very good at taking you as you are.
The first things people usually notice about me
Let me know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"The Third Man" my favorite movie. My musical tastes are as varied as Pavarotti to Miles Davis; Chet Atkins to James Brown. There is no wider groove than "Cold Sweat" nor better arrangement than Nelson Riddle's "Summer Wind" behind Sinatra. The recent Adele hit "Someone Like You" is an excellent, well done Pop Hit with real emotional content; then I listened to more of her stuff and found it to be pablum. My point is that I seek what I consider excellent in the work itself.
Six things I could never do without
An ever evolving list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How best to proceed.
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would be leery of anyone who revealed an intimate private aspect of themselves here. One's inner self should be shared with those you trust, know and love.
You should message me if
There is interest and you want to check it out. You should be comfortable in your own space, be able to respect mine and very much enjoy being together if it works out. I'm not into digital relationships, Facebook is fine; face-to-face is much better.
The two of us