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My self-summary
PREFACE: I'm not interested in international cyber relationships or hearing from anyone more than 50 miles from Philadelphia. I don't own a car.

That being said, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Roxanne. For lack of a better summery: I'd say I am an aging hipster doofus, alpha female, who travels a lot, is a pseudo intellectual, and neo Pagan. If you're looking for a demure, quiet, laid back, submissive woman, I am NOT what you seek. I'm a 5 planet Scorpio, so to anyone who knows what that implies, "enter at your own risk and bring knee pads and a crash helmet". You will probably leave smiling.

I am a small business owner of a fine gardening company that serves the main line and a figure model for art classes.

The good, the bad and the ugly: quintessential under-achiever who's pathologically honest, bossy, demanding, out going, talkative, sarcastic, obtuse, passionate, critical, opinionated as well as funny, open minded, patient, compassionate, tolerant, spiritual, generous, loving, loyal, vivacious, sensual, and subversive. It all may sound a bit contradictive, but it would appear I can be critical and tolerant at the same time. Clearly off beat, off center, with very little off limits.....

Because I am gone part of the year, I am less than ideal as a traditional girlfriend. However, I love being involved with one man or woman at a time. Ideally, I am hoping to find someone who is smitten enough with me to stick around for the long haul. I guess I want the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility. I crave affection, connection and sensual rewards. I am a very LOYAL Scorpio type personality but I dont like it when i am forming a beautiful bond with a man or woman and am served ultimatums, when I am about to take off on a trip to see my friends/family. I am always coming back. This is my home base.
What I’m doing with my life
I am semi retired, never married and have no children to force me into adulthood. I am looking for someone to enjoy the ride with, who loves to play. I live in Austria an average of 2 to 3 months a year (on my best friend and her husband's farm) and SoCal a month or 2 (helping out parents and reconnecting with family and childhood friends who remain). The balance of my time is spent in PA in the Clark Park vicinity of University City.
I’m really good at
jack of all trades, master of none; except sexual expression (here are some tips and reminders to all of you who believe you are dynamite between the sheets, but probably never get honest feedback) ways to improve include:

*taking your time: relish touch, kissing and eye contact. Foreplay is overwhelmingly underpracticed. Make your partner hunger for you and create a fire. Sex should always focus more on the "journey', than the "destination".

*communication: being able to communicate your need/likes/dislikes without intimidating or offending your partner. You cant blame a lover for not living up to your expectations until you have at least tried to teach them how to meet your needs.

*being uninhibited: dont be hung up and insecure about your appearance, scent, taste, sounds, etc. It destroys passion on contact. Practice good hygiene and body maintenance and trust that your lover is INTO you, &

*putting someones needs before your own: NOTHING IS A BIGGER INCENTIVE and TURN ON THAN A GIVER. When someone is generous in bed with me, i am not only smitten with them, i want to reciprocate X 3.

NO i am not on here just to hook up. I DONT participate in NSA affairs (one nighters, hit and runs, casual encounters). There are other sites for this. its a dangerous world and necessary to be discrete, safe, sane and selective in our erotic exploits. If youre lazy and not willing to put in any time to get to know me, keep looking.....

photography, gardening, cooking, divination, naturopathy are all passions
The first things people usually notice about me
atomic red page boy hair cut and i am 5'10" with an intense presence
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
literature: classic, sci fi and fringe culture authors.
"Rubyfruit Jungle" Rita May Brown
"Naked Lunch" William S Burroughs
"Delta of Venus" Ananise Nin
"Tropic of Cancer" Henry Miller
"For Whom the Bell Tolls" Ernest Hemingway
"A Confession" Leo Tolstoy
"American Gods" Neil Gaiman
"The Master and Margarita" Mikhail Bulgakov
"The Road" Cormac Mc Carthy
"When Youre Engulfed in Flames" David Sedaris
"The Wind-up Bird Chronicle" Haruki Murakami
"Ubik" Philip K. Dick
"Post Office" Charles Bukowski
"The Fountainhead" Ayn Rand
"The Idiot" Fyodor Dostoyevsky
"The Stranger" Albert Camus

cinema: independent, foreign, and art house films.
"Dead Man"
"The Mysterious Case of Benjamin Button"
"Lords of Salem"
"Fanny and Alexander"
"Sin City"
"The Magician"
"The Fountain"
"Harold and Maude"
"The Piano Teacher"
"Beauty and the Beast" 1946
"Get Low"
"The Prestige"
"Nymphomaniac I & II"
"30 Days of Night"
"The Last Station"
"Pink Floyd: The Wall"
"Fantastic Planet"
Marco Polo
Ghost Adventures
Adventure Time w/ Finn & Jake
Strangers with Candy
Night Gallery
Star Trek (Voyager, Next Generation and original)
American Horror Story
Globe Trekker
The Prisoner
Ren and Stimpy
The Office
Everybody Loves Raymond
Two and a Half Men
The Outer Limits
30 Rock
Dharma and Greg
Victory Garden
So You Think You Can Dance
Gene Simmons, Family Jewels
Space 1999
Sunday Morning
Penny Dreadful

cuisine: international cuisine. LOVE Indian, Ethiopian and Thai. i enjoy cooking and do it everyday without fail, but eat healthier than most folks can tolerate.

music: indie/alternative, college radio, jazz (be-bop), blues, funk, retro r/b, soul, techno trance, world beats, goth, old skool punk, metal, and classic rock.
some top titles i adore:
"Interpol" Interpol
"Ju Ju" Siouxsie and the Banshees
"Copper Blue" Sugar
"Heaven Up Here" Echo and the Bunnymen
"Black Dog" Led Zeppelin
"Strange Days" The Doors
"Tattoo You" Rolling Stones
"Seven Steps to Heaven" Miles Davis
"Closer" Joy Division
"One Nation Under a Groove" Funkadelic
"The Skies Gone Out" Bau Haus
"English Settlement" XTC
"Lust for Life" Iggy Pop
"Goo" Sonic Youth
"Rain Dogs" Tom Waits
"Remain in the Light" Talking Heads
"10.000 Days" Tool
"Exodus" Bob Marley
"Toward the Within" Dead Can Dance
"Scary Monsters" David Bowie
"Treasure" Cocteau Twins
"It'll End in Tears" This Mortal Coil
"Taking Tiger Mountain" Brian Eno
"Catastrophe Ballet" Christian Death
"Hell Comes to Your House" hardcore compilation

art: i love German Expressionism and the Pre Raphaelites. Egon Schiele is my favorite figurative painter
Six things I could never do without
food, oxygen, shelter, sex, love, humor, and beauty. oh thats 7. oh well. notice i did not mention clothing. *-D
I spend a lot of time thinking about
everything: past, present, future. as much as i struggle to be in the now, sometimes my brain has other ideas
On a typical Friday night I am
how embarrassing. eeeek.
Usually being a hermit
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
my brazen, fire ball personality hides a tender heart
You should message me if
you are turned on by the concept of seeing someone who is often compared to a teenage boy, trapped in a middle aged womans body.
you have a nagging desire to attempt to tame a mustang.
my favorite age group is 25-35 for lovers and i adore a guy/gal who looks sweet and innocent in public and whose alpha horns pop out in private. lets wrestle! i will let you win. :-)
Although I love younger men, I'm no MILF. I derrive no sexual pleasure in role playing I'm your mommy. So to the under 35 years of age guys who seem to want to satisfy this fetish, it won't be with me. We aren't compatible.

foot note:
i do NOT want to hear from addicts (who appear to be a dime a dozen on here) whether its sex addiction, alcoholism, drugs, food, gambling. i have no problems with those in recovery, as i have 10 years off illegal drugs but am not interested in fighting anyones demons but my own.

i have noticed over the years that a huge population of lonely and socially inept people gravitate to dating sites (especially those that dont cost anything) with no real purpose or motivation other than to fantasize. there is no sincere intention to ever actually meet anyone face to face and i find this very tedious and exhausting.

please do NOT message me if you're only looking for an imagined meeting with a woman. i am REAL and i want to meet someone who can call me, show up on time, and dedicate an hour or 2 to a "meet and greet" without looking at their cell phone the entire time or cancelling minutes before the date through a transparent text. (this is your suicide, btw). my philosophy is "shit or get off of the pot". either you're in and committed to finding interesting friends and lovers or you're NOT. figure it out before saying hello to me. THANKS! :-D
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