56Eugene, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a half full kind of person. Yes I have down days, but they're few and far between. It's just not worth it personally to get into a rut where I blame everything around me for problems. If I don't like the situation, then it's time to change it. Of course I'm also pragmatic enough to realize that change doesn't just happen by wishing about it. That requires some effort on my part.
Relationship wise, I'm the one who listens and asks questions. I'm finding that causes problems for some. If a person needs a sounding board for resolving a problem, they come to me. Unfortunately, this had led to relationships where all the other person wants to do is vent and not do anything to change to make sure that the problem isn't anymore. While I have a high tolerance for listening, I don't do well if all someone wants to do is "whine." Complaining about a problem won't change anything.

Now that the kids are grown, it's time to start seriously looking for someone to spend me time with. I am not looking for an FB, one nighters, or meaningless texting relationships. If you're not serious about looking for a relationship that will last, don't bother.
What I’m doing with my life
Much of my time is filled with my job these days. Not everyone can say that and I'm thankful that I have one. It does make meeting people a bit tough as I work at night 4 days a week. The rest of my time I spend wandering about town and helping my oldest son with his website. He occasionally needs me to write an article or two for it from a grouchy middle aged perspective.(grin) I admit it's fun to twit twenty something gamers since I have one of them at home. Strange, I thought they were supposed to leave after college.

I'm also getting back into taking pictures with film. Yes, digital photography is fast and easy, but it seems a bit empty to me. Somehow it's taken the fun out of taking a really superior photo.
I’m really good at
I do tend to listen to what other people say, which has come back to bite me after I repeat verbatim what someone told me three months ago.
I enjoy writing, and have a good eye for framing pictures.
The first things people usually notice about me
I generally have a smile. They also tell me I have mischief in the eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I never watch network tv as I find that it lowers your IQ. Most time when I bother to turn on the television, it will be on the history or science channel. I will admit that I sometimes will watch SyFy
I read a bit of everything.
Six things I could never do without
Phone calls from the kids
my Nook
did I mention COFFEE!
a few months of food stored
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can improve the lives of people without becoming preachy about it
On a typical Friday night I am
Working... sigh. Somebody has to work at the hospital here in town and I can usually be found up in the lab
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Whining about things that a person is capable of changing makes me insane.
I'm not here for you to tell me how terrible your life is. Tell me how you think you can change it for the better and we'll work on it together.
Also, I'm politically ambivalent. I figure we have a selection of none of the above these days. They aren't making the decisions anyway. The folks funding the campaigns are.
You should message me if
You are a half full type of personality.
If things look dark and gloomy and your relationships have all failed because it's all the other persons fault, I'm probably not the right person for you.
On the other hand, if you've learned from your mistakes and have decided not to do that again, and are capable of growth, by all means, give me a write.
The two of us