42 Highland, United States
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My self-summary
right, so, the whole username thing is a reference to my favorite character in my favorite movie, rubin & ed, and is not a reference to my being a voluptuous woman. (although if i were a woman...)

i'm originally from chicago's north suburbs, and the north side, and have also lived on the west coast, in california & washington state.
i moved to n.w. indiana about 10 years ago, with the idea that i would eventually move back to chicago or move elsewhere... i'm still here.

oh, and i live about 45 minutes from the north side of the city by car or train and most of my friends live up there, so don't be afraid of the indiana thing– at least not for this reason... it's quicker to get here than rush hour from the 'burbs to the loop.
What I’m doing with my life
selling/shipping "stuff" on-line for the music store i used to work for that, sadly, had to close a while back... i/we sell anything related to playing and listening to music, and movies, like cd's, vinyl, cassettes, guitar gear, dj equipment, dvd/vhs, music books, etc. i used to teach guitar at the store, and i am trying to get back into that somewhere.

i also do record searches, both for hard to find/out of print items and for any other music and such. i'm also interested in selling vinyl/etc. for people, as i'm good at it and love to help people with music stuff.

i had a band locally, but it is not currently in the works. i would love to meet new people to play music with, even just for kicks or something.
I’m really good at
watching/discussing movies.
listening & being attentive.
mano-a-mano situations.
enjoying/playing music.
eating delicious cereal.
skee ball & dominoes.
looking at my cats.
other fun stuff...
The first things people usually notice about me
on the surface... my eyes? you tell me...

otherwise, i've been told i seem to be an
attentive person... but then they realize
that i'm not. (just kidding about that...)

let me (not) ask some people about this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
well, in no particular order...
music: Flaming Lips, Grandaddy, Mercury Rev, Sparklehorse, Arcade Fire, Swell, Polyphonic Spree, Black Mountain, Pram, Shudder to Think, Rachel's, Slint, Cat Power, Beck, Jesus Lizard, The Stooges, Elliott Smith, Neil Young, Sufjan Stevens, LCD Soundsystem, Naked Raygun, Seam, Throwing Muses, Mogwai, Dianogah, The Posies, My Bloody Valentine, Hum, Red Sparowes, Slowdive, Explosions in the Sky, Swervedriver, Dinosaur Jr, Built To Spill, Mission of Burma, Gang of Four, Television, T. Rex, Bowie, Eno, V.U./Lou Reed, Misfits, Slayer, Queens of the Stone Age, Tindersticks, Radiohead, Mazzy Star, Sonic Youth, Cocteau Twins, Massive Attack, Secret Machines… Beastie Boys, Eric B. & Rakim, Tribe Called Quest, Black Star, The Roots… Billie Holiday, Clifford Brown, Sonny Rollins, Grant Green, Oliver Nelson, Miles, Blakey, Roach, Dolphy, Monk, Coltrane… Tavener, Gorecki, Prokofiev, Bartok, Glass, Dvorak, Reich, Penderecki, Bach, Beethoven, Ravel, Kronos...

movies: Rubin & Ed, Grey Gardens, Heavenly Creatures, Donnie Darko, Eternal Sunshine..., Repo Man, Being There, Three Colors, The Dreamers, Harold & Maude, Let the Right One In, Barfly, Roadside Prophets, Trust, North by Northwest, Better Off Dead, Flirting With Disaster, Dead Man, Xanadu, Wet Hot American Summer, The Petrified Forest, Scavenger Hunt, Cloak & Dagger, Wings Of Desire, The Brothers Bloom, Drugstore Cowboy, The Cockettes, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Oldboy, This Is Spinal Tap, Slacker, Requiem for a Dream, Say Anything, Fletch, Kiss Meets the Phantom..., David Lynch, Jim Jarmusch, Michel Gondry, Christopher Guest, Tim Burton, Steven Soderbergh, Gus Van Sant, Krysztof Kieslowski, David O. Russell, Wes Anderson, Wim Wenders, Hitchcock, Almodovar, '40's-'50's film noir…

books: Rat Girl, Catcher in the Rye, Notes From The Underground, Anthem, Children Of Men, Looking Backward, Now That You're Back, Fahrenheit 451, Dress Your Family In Corduroy And Denim, The Bell Jar, The Stranger, Ariel, One Hundred Years Of Solitude, One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest, Bully, Bunnicula, Staring At Sound, Siddhartha, Three Guineas, Sexing the Cherry, No Exit, The Cover Art of Blue Note Records, Anything by Edward Gorey(!!!)

t.v.: Arrested Development, The Soup, Antiques Roadshow, Criminal Minds, South Park, Later... With Jools Holland, Fishing with John, The Daily Show, Parks & Rec, Inside Amy Schumer, @midnight, The Killing, Community…
The six things I could never do without
my people.
(i'm sure i can do better than this...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the truly unfortunate paradox of opposite day.

how bacon is the most coveted of the salted, cured meats.

traveling to various places around the world, especially new zealand.

getting back into playing/performing live music, in whatever form.

coming up with better answers to things, like these questions...
On a typical Friday night I am
on my computer
playing my guitar
watching a movie
talking to someone
on my porch swing
at dinner w/ friends
sitting on the couch
at a show in the city
(or all of the above)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i have always been bad about shaving. it's not an intentional thing, almost always having some sort of beard. it's mainly because it grows really fast: if i shave in the morning, i'm zz top in the evening.
You should message me if
any of the above applies or appeals to you.

you'd like a new, good friend/companion...

or something more, without expectations.

you want to visit highland, in. sometime...