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My self-summary
right, so, the whole username thing is a reference to my favorite character in my favorite movie, rubin & ed, and is not a reference to my being a voluptuous woman. (although if i were a woman...)

i'm originally from chicago's north suburbs, and the north side, and have also lived on the west coast, in california & washington state.
i moved to n.w. indiana about 10 years ago, with the idea that i would eventually move back to chicago or move elsewhere... i'm still here.

it's sort of like living in a far south suburb, but not quite the same; there is stuff to do, and places to go, like white castle and church... but there's also record shops, guitar shops/music studios and the greatest, small, used bookshop- you have to enter from the alley...

oh, and i live about 45 minutes from the north side of the city by car or train (yes, there is a train, the south shore, or nictd, that goes from downtown to this area) and most of my friends live up there... so don't be afraid of the indiana thing- at least not for this reason... it's quicker to get here than rush hour from the 'burbs to the loop.

okay, that is enough for this section, but there's lots more below...


more specific details about... "my details":
- i am mostly of the caucasian variety, with
some mediterranean sauce a while back...
it's a good story, actually, if you're curious.

- my name is ethiopian in origin. i am not.
my hippie parents dug it's meaning, which
is about becoming & the circle of life thing.

- i weigh about 140 pounds, plus/minus 5.

- i don't eat a lot, but i do love a lot of food.

- i would be fine with never smoking again,
but i buy a pack on the very rare occasion.

- i enjoy a beer or two, on occasion, but i'm
not someone who gets drunk, really. i don't
mind if someone drinks more than me, but
preferably not all the time, in big amounts.

- i don't partake of any street/illegal drugs,
but i am for legalizing most kinds of drugs.
i do not really plan on being with someone
who does partake at this point in their life,
but i don't hold it against people who do...

- i graduated from western washington u.,
with a b.a. in sociology, w/ a concentration
in stratification/gender studies and minors
in psych and philosophy (gender/identity).

-i started graduate school, but i didn't stay.
i'd like to go back, though, to finish a m.a.
in sociology or get a b.a. in library science.

-i mention it in more detail below, but i sell
stuff on amazon for the music store i used
to work at for 4+ years. we sell lots of cool
items, and i also welcome any questions...
i worked for borders, in the music dept, for
a long time, too. it's sad that they closed...

-i'm also looking into being an independent
guitar instructor, as i don't have a place of
business to teach at since the store closed.

- i do not make a lot of money, but i get by.

- i'm the good/fun uncle, and that's enough.

-i dig cats, and i have always had them, so...
if you're allergic to, and like, them, i'm sorry.
(i like dogs, but do not enjoy all the barking.)

-i took spanish in high school, but that is it.
i wish i would have used it in the real world.

what else... i welcome questions and such,
What I’m doing with my life
selling/shipping "stuff" on-line for the music store i used to work for that, sadly, had to close a while back... i/we sell anything related to playing and listening to music, and movies, like cd's, vinyl, cassettes, guitar gear, dj equipment, dvd/vhs, music books, etc. i used to teach guitar at the store, and i am trying to get back into that somewhere.

i also do record searches, both for hard to find/out of print items and for any other music and such. i'm also interested in selling vinyl/etc. for people, as i'm good at it and love to help people with music stuff.

i had a band locally, but it is not currently in the works. i would love to meet new people to play music with, even just for kicks or something.
I’m really good at
watching/discussing movies.
listening & being attentive.
mano-a-mano situations.
enjoying/playing music.
eating delicious cereal.
skee ball & dominoes.
looking at my cats.
other fun stuff...
The first things people usually notice about me
on the surface... my eyes? you tell me...

otherwise, i've been told i seem to be an
attentive person... but then they realize
that i'm not. (just kidding about that...)

let me (not) ask some people about this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
well, in no particular order... (warning: this may be fairly gratuitous)

music: Flaming Lips, Grandaddy, Mercury Rev, Sparklehorse, Arcade Fire, Swell, Polyphonic Spree, Pink Mountaintops/Black Mountain, Pram, Shudder to Think, Beck, Cat Power, The Jesus Lizard, Andrew Bird, The Stooges, Elliott Smith, The Dismemberment Plan, Sufjan Stevens, The Cure, The Posies, Neil Young, LCD Soundsystem, Slint, Naked Raygun, Dianogah, Throwing Muses/Kristin Hersh, Mogwai, Seam, My Bloody Valentine, Hum, Slowdive, Red Sparowes, Ride, Explosions in the Sky, Rachels, Swervedriver, Dinosaur Jr, Deftones, Wilco, Mission of Burma, Gang of Four, Television, Engineers, T. Rex, David Bowie, V.U./Lou Reed, Brian Eno, Misfits, Slayer, Mudhoney, Queens of the Stone Age, Tindersticks, Big Star, Tram, Built to Spill, Radiohead, Joseph Arthur, Mazzy Star/Hope Sandoval, Sonic Youth, Cocteau Twins/Robin Guthrie, Massive Attack, Secret Machines, etc.

hip-hop/rap: Beastie Boys, EPMD, Eric B. & Rakim, Tribe Called Quest, Wu-Tang, Black Star/Mos Def/Talib Kweli, De La Soul, The Roots, etc.

jazz: Billie Holiday, Clifford Brown, Art Blakey, Max Roach, Sonny Rollins, Grant Green, Miles Davis, Eric Dolphy, Monk, Coltrane, etc.

"classical": Part, Tavener, Gorecki, Vasks, Bartok, Philip Glass, Dvorak, Reich, Penderecki, Bach, Beethoven, Prokofiev, Ravel, Kronos Quartet.

places for live music: Metro, Vic, Double Door, Bottom Lounge, Empty Bottle, Pritzker, Green Mill, Park West, Schubas, Darkroom, CSO, etc.

movies: Rubin & Ed, Trust, Grey Gardens, Heavenly Creatures, Donnie Darko, Eternal Sunshine..., Repo Man, Being There, Three Colors, The Dreamers, Harold and Maude, Let the Right One In, Barfly, Roadside Prophets, North by Northwest, Better Off Dead, Flirting with Disaster, Wet Hot American Summer, Almost Famous, Xanadu, The Petrified Forest, Scavenger Hunt, The Cannonball Run, The Sasquatch Gang, Slacker, The City of Lost Children, Dead Man, Say Anything, Cloak & Dagger, The Brothers Bloom, True Romance, Drugstore Cowboy, Y Tu Mama Tambien, The Cockettes, Oldboy, Love and Human Remains, This Is Spinal Tap, Heathers, Out of Sight, Requiem for a Dream, Labyrinth, Wings Of Desire, Fletch, The Hebrew Hammer, Out of the Past, Freddy Got Fingered, Kiss Meets the Phantom..., The Safety of Objects, Pan's Labyrinth, Waiting for Guffman, The Fearless Freaks, Double Indemnity, David Lynch, Tim Burton, Cameron Crowe, Michel Gondry, Christopher Guest, Jim Jarmusch, Steven Soderbergh, Alison Anders, Krysztof Kieslowski, Gus Van Sant, David O. Russell, Wes Anderson, Wim Wenders, Hitchcock, Almodovar, '40's noir, etc.

places to see movies: Music Box(!), Landmark's Century & Landmark's Renaissance, Lincoln Hall's "Three Penny Was Here" Nights, Piper's Alley (which closed recently!), Gene Siskel Film Center, and Highland Theater (a very old theater in my town, which also closed recently...)

books: Delta of Venus, Rat Girl, Catcher in the Rye, Tropic of Cancer, Notes from the Underground, Factotum, The Idiot, Looking Backward, Now That You're Back, Hooking Up, Bunnicula, Bully, Franny & Zooey, Written on the Body, The Corrections, Middlesex, The Women's Room, Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim, The Bell Jar, The Stranger, One Hundred Years of Solitude, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Anthem, Three Guineas, Sons & Lovers, The Picture Of Dorian Gray, Fahrenheit 451, Staring At Sound, Ariel, Siddhartha, Children of Men, Sexing the Cherry, The Cover Art of Blue Note Records: The Collection, Horrifically Bad Album Covers, Anything by Edward Gorey(!!!), etc.

magazines: magnet (indie music), rolling stone (yeah), Mother Jones (lefty liberal stuff), Guitar Player (thee best guitar magazine), Filter (similar to Magnet, great photography), Filmmaker (indie movies), etc.

t.v. (past & present): Arrested Development, The Simpsons, The State, Ben Stiller Show, Freaks & Geeks, Space Ghost, JBtv, Three's Company, The Facts of Life, What's Happening!, The Soup, Antiques Roadshow, Seinfeld, Later... With Jools Holland, Fishing with John, House, American Pickers, Scooby-Doo (pre-Scrappy), Parks & Rec, Criminal Minds, The Killing, Walking Dead, South Park, Community.

food: i love breakfast cereal, and the one that is at the top of my list currently is honeycomb, with some kix thrown in... for kicks(!)
i also love turkey burgers, and sandwiches/club's, with avocado.
i don't eat read meat at this point, really, and i'm not fond of
most fish, either, so i eat mostly poultry and/or tofu for protein.
i enjoy cuisine from all over the world, especially indian & thai,
and i'm a fan of mango smoothies at indian or thai restaurants,.
otherwise, i'm a fan of blueberries, cranberry, toast, cashews, etc.

places in chicago i enjoy for food/drinks/etc.: lucky platter, no exit, heartland, lula, earwax, andalous, sura, goldstar, smokedaddy, etc.

The six things I could never do without
(i'm sure i can do better than this...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the truly unfortunate paradox of opposite day.

how bacon is the most coveted of the salted, cured meats.

traveling to various places around the world, especially new zealand.

getting back into playing/performing live music, in whatever form.

bicycyle-riding females; if, and especially when, it's an old schwinn.

coming up with better answers to things, like these questions...
On a typical Friday night I am
on my computer
playing my guitar
watching a movie
talking to someone
on my porch swing
at dinner w/ friends
sitting on the couch
at a show in the city
(or all of the above)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i have always been bad about shaving. it's not an intentional thing, almost always having some sort of beard. it's mainly because it grows back really fast; if i shave in the morning, i'm zz top in the evening. so, the whole 5 o'clock shadow thing isn't something i can relate to.
You should message me if
any of the above applies or appeals to you.

you'd like a new, good friend/companion...

or something more, without expectations.

you want to visit highland, in. sometime...