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My self-summary
I'm full of contradictions but try to avoid being a contrarian. That said, I'm a sort of sentimental, outdoorsy, socialist tomboy who loves punk music, children, and science fiction, and cares a lot about art, nature and social justice. I try to keep my balance but sometimes careen between hope and skepticism about the possibility that humans will manage to transform ourselves & our social systems (in a timely way).

Though I can find common ground with just about anybody and am easily amused, most of the time I feel completely alienated from our national culture of conquer/consume, archaic notions of gender-based roles, and anything related to flags (except rainbow ones).

Recently realized I've been spending way too much time at my stressful desk job, and am trying to be better about getting out of that habit. In most ways I'm comfortable in my own skin, but I don't want to be stuck in any ruts.

I take the world seriously but have a serious need to play - and while I really am an outdoorsy lefty tomboy, I have what used to be called an "artistic sensibility." (Or sometimes a "bad attitude." But in a good way.)
What I’m doing with my life
Dividing my time among family, community, work and self, and trying to find big joy in tiny moments. Putting my version of brains & brawn into working in public education, kind of a bureaucrat (hopefully a good kind). Still amazed that my kid is off to college, aware this is a new phase of my own life & rolling the possibilities around in my imagination... And there's the part about playing outside as much as possible, given the rest of the list.
I’m really good at
Carrying a lot of stuff on my bike, baking, organizing people & systems, wasting time, setting up my tent, languages, being a friend, and making out. Not necessarily in that order.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm disheveled, laughing (often at myself), and trying to pay attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I can't settle on A Favorite anything because it always depends on the context & my mood. I watch political action/thrillers and scifi, documentaries, and strange things that move me or make me laugh. And read a lot: thick nonfiction, long novels, short stories, and the back of my cereal box. I eat with appetite, and tend to go for healthy/organic stuff but stay away from trendy anything (except I like a crafty IPA, especially when you find one in the middle of nowhere). There's pretty much always music happening - a mix of a lot of stuff except for opera and heavy metal. I hardly ever watch tv but that can be fun to do w/other folks.

Lately reading an eclectic pile of library books: novels by Africans and Persians; fairly trashy sci-fi (on camping trips); and maps/guidebooks while I plan more outings to the sierra. Still singing along with Joe Strummer, Translator and the Jezabels - I like tons of new music but don't feel loyal to it. I'm slightly too picky to call myself an omnivore but now & then I eat a dead animal.
Six things I could never do without
My friends & family. My glasses, something to write with & on, and my trusty bike. And probably a snack.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to push capitalism over the brink, whether it'll be good weather for a bike ride on Sunday, secret places to go camping, swinging out-of-state tuition... and why I came into this room.
On a typical Friday night I am
Collapsed on my couch with a beer and movie or my library book; but sometimes out with friends. With my recently-empty nest I have less typical everything but I still haven't figured that out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I answered the question about whether Star Trek is cool...
You should message me if
You find joy in simple things as well as complicated ones, are excited about learning new stuff, are engaged in the world (community, politics, science and/or art). And heck, if I'm making a list, it would be great if you're responsible and have your shit together, but manage to spend a lot of time enjoying yourself.

I'm interested in meeting someone who'd like to have strings attached - not immediately, obviously, but as a concept (as opposed to someone trying to sow their NSA oats).
The two of us