75Rochester, United States
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My self-summary
I am a widower of 6+ years, seeking the last great love of my life. My personal quest is to connect in depth with a really great woman and to build a relationship that is strong and satisfying in every way conceivable.

My perfect first date is not a date at all. It is two people, a man and a woman, being together and getting to know each other. Staying in the moment and exploring. Searching out those common grounds we share. If all goes well and we move past this, then romance can flow fully and naturally and the sky is the limit and can be wonderful. That “wonderful” is my goal and I’d bet it is yours as well. In other words, I don’t date. I connect and explore what can be brought into being between you and I.
What I’m doing with my life
Seeking opportunity.
Planning the campaign.
Building productive alliances.
Providing good value.
Striving for viability.
Visualizing success.
Being the good Samaritan.
Pausing to smell the roses.
I’m really good at
- Taking on mechanical challenges. Conceiving, designing and executing solutions that are functional, durable and attractive.

- Consuming large quantities of coffee (Certified test pilot for Folgers)

- I rejoice in the poetry, harmony and tonal complexity of well executed photographs. Digital (rarely) or film based (more often). Black and white, please. The pure ecstasy of visually diving deeply into the tonality, shapes, lines and textures of what has been coaxed into being from reality onto the two dimensional print. The dance of highlights negotiating the high wire of detail and gradation, the fullness and seductiveness of mid tone interplay and the mysteriously deep shadows giving up hints of more than meets the eye. This turns me on. Rarely found but nearly a religious experience when seen. Food for hungry eyes.

- I have a great reverence for nature and a deep love of being outdoors and on the water. Few things have turned me on more than guiding a canoe through a tumultuous stretch of white water, feeling the craft respond to the bite of the paddle, perfectly hitting the entry point for each successive torrent and the thrill of half flying over the cascade, feeling the smack of the canoe hit the pool below and celebrating the drenching spray.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am reflexivly kind, non threatening and non judgmental. My gift to all is that I am totally willing to share my knowledge and expertise in the technical and visual aspects of photography with all who truly care to learn. In fact, it would seem that today my true calling would be one of teacher and mentor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: History - the drama of real life, how we got to be who we are from where we started. Last read - "In Our Time", a history of the Magnum picture agency. An organization that deserves every bit of praise they have ever received and more.

Music: Jazz, swing, some classical, some classic rock. Sketches of Spain still turns me on after all these years. A recent discovery, a group called Indigo Swing (I dare you to sit still). Music that demonstrates that the notes not played are equally important as those that are played.

Food: Chinese, seafood, "comfort" food, home "cookin". Not a wine snob but really enjoy it with a special dinner.

Movies: Because of a familiarity with film making I frequently focus on the visual aspects rather than the story line or characters. Most people find this strange, but it is a reflex stemming from my training and background in photography. That being said, I am a big fan of the work Ken Burns has produced that is frequently seen on PBS.
Six things I could never do without
Belief in myself
Believing that there really is someone special out there for me.
At least 4 hours of sleep a night
intelligent conversation
good health
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How and where I'm going to discover my significant other. How I'm going to be able to scale back my professional activities to successfully connect with and maintain a relationship.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with a close friend or my sons, catching up on chores, watching The PBS News Hour & Charlie Rose.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a "hopeful" romantic.
You should message me if
Personally and professionally integrity and forthrightness are important to me. In all aspects of life they are the core building blocks of trust and belief. This profile, like all aspects of my life, stands in integrity and pulls no punches. If your profile reflects these qualities as well, then join me, and together lets explore together and perhaps dance the dance of unfettered joy.
The two of us