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My self-summary
Note: Before you go to the effort of reading this treatise on a truly great guy, here are a few things to consider: if you regularly watch Fox news, carry concealed fire arms, know that I could never compete with the pooch for your attentions or you could even consider voting for Trump, we are not likely to be a good match. - thanks and good luck.

Genuinely nice guy. Gentle soul, nature lover, sailor, music lover, partner dancer, friend of felines, wine drinker, spicy food eater... Maybe a bit shy at first but opens up nicely in the glass.

Being a fairly humble soul, self-promotion is uncomfortable for me but I spose the whole point of being here is to tell you something about myself and see if there is enough there for us to want to get together for a cup or a glass and some conversation.

The following is rather long, but I want to present you with a (hopefully) clear a picture of why I think I'm worth the effort.

I take great pride when others acknowledge what I feel are the most dearly held traits I bring to a close friendship including kindness, compassion, consideration, loyalty, respect and honesty.  Should our close friendship develop into a loving relationship, I believe you would find me very loving, romantic, affectionate, sensual, cuddly, gentle, sharing, passionate, very good at emotional communication (particularly for someone afflicted with that Y chromosome), playful, funny and supportive.  Once in love (no rush), I possess a monogamous, giving and very romantic libido. I have no problem with women smarter, more talented or more successful than I and I just don't get guys who do. If we love each other then we should celebrate whatever gifts each of us brings into our relationship. Do you appreciate and share many of these qualities?  If so, we might want to talk.

Having said all this, if romance doesn't come, we just might hit it off as friends.

Although I've never been married, I have been in a committed 16-year relationship and know what it takes to make it work and to remain friends if feelings change.

Some other things you might want to know about me: I work at home; I share my house with two feline friends; I love animals (especially cats) and for many years I have volunteered in the Oregon Humane Society's Veterinary Hospital.  I'm a chronically creative artist/engineer type with a wealth of arcane knowledge and a strong drive to invent and build things.  I love to hike in the wilderness, walk around my neighborhood, watch movies all cuddled up with my sweetie, share coffee in the garden.  Sailing is a passion (in moonlight is the best!.)  I've been working on my sailboat and its refit is nearing completion.  Music is a very important part of my life and I've spent much of my career enjoying the technical side of live and recorded music. I listen to live music (especially blues, jazz) as much as I can.  I love water and the sound of a running stream, I have a canoe in need of one more paddler.  I've always felt some sort of connection with the moon. 

And then there's dance. I take classes and go out dancing whenever I can. Dance exercises all facets of my being.  I did/can do east coast swing but have gravitated to Argentine Tango and blues for their emphasis on musicality and connection. Learning to like slow, improvisational waltz for the same reasons.  These are soulful dances that emphasize the connection with a partner and with the music.  If the heady stuff above is unfamiliar, let me show you. I'm told I have a clear and gentle lead and I'm very good with beginners.

Perhaps some of my favorite quotes would be telling:

"Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not feel the music." - Angela Monet
“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” - Dr. Seuss
To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.” - Thomas Edison
"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." - Mark Twain
"It seems to me the way to 'think outside the box' is not to get in it in the first place." - me
What I’m doing with my life
Sailing is a long time passion and I would love to share the wind and water with someone who might appreciate it. (If you've never been out on the water, let me take you out to experience the thrill and beauty of it!)

Otherwise, I invent, create and build things. I'm an engineer with an artist's sensibilities - or is it an artist with an engineer's proclivities - for creating artful gizmos that solve problems and make life a little bit easier. I enjoy doing Mac computer support for right-brained folk (musicians, artists, etc.) because on the whole they are great fun to work with and having a foot in both worlds, I have the ability and patience to translate musician-speak to/from tech-speak and have been fortunate enough to have made a career of it.

I love animals (especially cats) and I get great satisfaction in my long-time volunteer work as a surgical assistant in the Oregon Humane Society's hospital.  Please spay/neuter your pets.
I’m really good at
Writing ridiculously long and detailed profiles.


Loving massage

Apparently blues dance, a recent comment that felt rather nice was "Dancing with you is like being played like a fine musical instrument".  I have very little ego when it comes to dance but that one made me puff up big time...

Compassionately communicating about feelings and working out compromises and accommodations to keep relationships healthy; being supportive with friends; fixing things; figuring out how complicated things work; inventing and creating gizmos that solve problems or are just fun. Translating back and forth between the languages of musicians and nerds.
The first things people usually notice about me
Comments from special friends:
"There is a gentle, kind , and light quality that you emanate..."
"...your eyes.....the color and sparkle and knowing quality."
"You are a prince of a man"
I'll leave out the not so complimentary ones.

I'm often told I'm sweet, kind, generous, helpful and comfortable to be with.

I have a thick head of hair.

Also that I'm a marvelously creative mad engineer type who uses both sides of my brain.  I am very generous of my considerable talents.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have very eclectic tastes in most things so this one will be a challenge:

Music: most anything actually created with the hands of talented and creative human musicians. I tend to focus on music with interesting and varied melodies, rhythms and dynamics. I have no patience with the heavily electronic or "musicians" created by guys in suits.

Film: independent, foreign, quirky,...pretty much anything focusing on plot, character and dialog. Mindless action movies can be entertaining once and a while.  I don't care for gratuitous violence.

I don't watch TV but will watch particularly a good TV series off DVD for a more theatrical feel.  Six Feet Under and Life on Mars (both the British and American versions) being a couple of favorites. Baffled by how Mad Men, a series with so few likable characters can be so compelling.

Food: interesting foods of the world especially with strong flavors and lots of spicy heat.
The six things I could never do without
- Animals (Long time volunteer at the Humane Society Hospital)
- Partner dancing
- Music (an eclectic assortment of obscure 60's-70's improvisational rock, jazz, blues, golden age tango, world and folk music, and more)
- Being on, in or near the water
- Friends and family
- Spicy, interesting food
- Slow, loving kisses.
- A loving friend/partner/lover, position currently open - maybe you?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Love, and how important it is to me. I know what it's like to love and be loved by one very special lady and I miss that feeling.

If this process makes any sense. Think back to your greatest love and the photos they might use and what they would write in a hypothetical profile - would you have even met for coffee?
On a typical Friday night I am
Cuddling with my sweetie by the fire. Dining with friends then listening and dancing to live music. In summer, perhaps we're out for an evening sail followed by a nice bottle of wine.
You should message me if
- You like the prospect of being with a man who isn't afraid to give all to love and talk about feelings.
- You don't want a narcissistic, dominance seeking pack animal type of man
- you don't want a couch potato into TV sports, bad beer and Doritos all weekend
- You do want to be with someone who is fun, curious, thoughtful, caring, supportive and emotionally connected
- You aren't put off by an over-the-top romantic
- You would like to learn about and share some of each other's passions
- You might want a good friend
- You think about loving kisses.
- You think about falling in love with someone who cares...