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My self-summary
EDIT: Years old profile starting to wear at the seams, update coming soon!

Trying in vain to figure it all out. All of it. I'm into elegant and poetic systems, moving works, curious phenomena, and just about everything else.

Some of my favorite moments in life are when I can take something and finally see the principles and structures at it's core, be it a network diagram of economics relationships, the rhythms of people in a neighborhood, or the algorithm that determines the growth pattern of a tree.

On the other hand, some of my other favorite moments in life are when that kind of clear analytical understanding of a thing are totally out of my grasp. Listening to a song for the 12th time in a row because it's that amazing, sitting on a quiet mountaintop hearing the wind and little else, or simply being with those you love.
What I’m doing with my life
Implementing ideals. Figuring out how to balance all the things I care about, and pursue them as best as possible.

In the long term, my goal is to enable the construction of a more progressive society through novel social and technological systems.

These days, I wait tables, read a lot of books, digest as much music as possible, run RPGs, fiddle around with linux, and learn about as much as I can.
I’m really good at
thinking critically, getting really engaged in something I'm interested in, talking with kids, and I'd like to think I can be pretty funny, in my own nerdy way.

I have a particular love of "semantic specificity and linguistic efficiency", pragmatics be damned~
The first things people usually notice about me
Trans, so...

Otherwise, that I'm pretty tall, and kind of ranty. Once we start talking, you may notice that if you bring the subject around to something I'm interested, like the philosophy of moral foundations or, mechanical keyboards (anything with a close enough look really), I'll have trouble restraining myself to usual levels of conversational excitement. The only thing better is if it's something *you* love that I have no idea about! Please, explain your nerdy thing to me for hours, it's just my favorite dynamic in the world.

A few months ago my sister's roommate told her that my sister and I both hum during silences. It seems I have been doing this for years and had no idea. So I guess I really have no idea what I'm like!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I can only answer with what I've been interested in recently, and a scattershot sampling of what I can remember. My tendency is to read something, internalize the message/content and move on. If you ask me about something specific I could probably tell you though!

A couple books/authors I like are:
Pihkal, Audiocultures, Stanislaw Lem, Hyperion, Burns, Kim Stanley Robinson, Charles Stross, Ray Bradbury, Mervyn Peake, Italo Calvino, Isaac Asimov, Octavia Butler
But goodreads is becoming an increasingly accurate representation of my reading:

Have some movies: I'm Here, Holy Mountain, Upstream Color, Airplane, Holy Motors, Timecrimes, Duck Soup. Starting to curate my movie watching at (my ambitions are more representative than my hazy memory of what I've watched)

TV: Black Mirror, Mushishi, Steven Universe, Samurai Jack

A few genres I like are hip-hop, ambient/experimental, sludge metal, folk/indie/musicistealfromfriends, and jazz. A couple artists I like are Fuck Buttons, Das EFX, zeroh, Brian Eno, The Books, Sharon van Etten, knxwledge. For a complete list of shibboleths, see: and

Foodwise, my favorite thing in the world is cooking new dishes, and learning new techniques. That being said, I always come back to Indian food. Yum.

Games: Journey, DoTA 2, Fez, Endless Legend, Myst, Proteus, Rayman, Dragon Age
The six things I could never do without
Someone to talk to
Something to read
Something to learn
Something to listen to
Somewhere I'm going
Some idea how to get there


A Go board
A book
The sketchy eastern european website that lets you access academic journals for free
A gas stove
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Anything and everything. The algorithms and process underlying all around us, linguistics, sociology, semiotics, gender theory, food science, theory of mind, how people change their minds, how to define the self in face of change, and so much more. A lot of the time though, just how to be *better*, and trying to figure out what I'm not seeing yet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching the weirdest movie I can find and talking bullshit with some friends, enjoying a great new album, sitting somewhere outside that's unjustifiably pretty with trees of both kinds, or reading a book while listening to new music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not actually very big on secrets/privacy, so what I do keep secret is for good reason.
You should message me if
You can't pick between your favorite ideas and things to share with your friends

Spending like, five hours at a museum mostly pointing and smiling sounds like a blast.

You want to trade dirty pictures