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My self-summary
Geeky sapiosexual cyclist seeks same. Or similar. Or complementary. Or dissimilar but compatible and interesting.

I enjoy my, and others', intellect and have a geeky passion for many things, though my biggest interests are sexuality, bicycling, and geekiness, itself.

I'm quite kinky, non-monogamous, and am very much interested in positive, consensual, open, empowering expressions of sexuality. I have a queer view of sexuality and gender (and, thus, politics), though, sadly, I've yet to find myself sexually attracted to anyone beyond cisgendered women. For more on that, check out

I'm a bit of a crazy, year-round cyclist (though not as crazy as some) and am rather fond of my callipygean assets. I absolutely adore riding. It's somehow therapeutic and as close as I will probably ever come to engaging in something I would consider spiritual. (In that vein, critical mass is as close as I will probably ever come to engaging in organized religion.)

I am also fascinated by bike culture and its evolution. I live in one of the best cities in the country for cyclists and yet even here we pale in comparison to most of the so-called civilized world. (If I ever move to Europe, it will be to Amsterdam or Copenhagen.) There is also a burgeoning subculture of bikesexuals, a crossover between the worlds of biking and sexuality, to which I wholeheartedly subscribe. Bike porn is a beautiful thing.

Another culture I love, and in which I feel right at home, is that of the geek. We are a growing voice in society of those who, up until recently, were social outcasts and misfits due to any number of factors, but usually involving a passion for subjects dismissed by the mainstream. Where we used to be able to find solace and acceptance only in niche locations or events (cons, specialty stores, geeky abodes, etc.), thanks to the magic that is the internet, we can now communicate and celebrate our penchant for passion. Though anyone reading this is likely to be a fellow geek and not in need of this explanation. Also, we like meta-humor.

I am a bit... unusual, and I quite like it that way.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm really enjoying where my life is currently at. I have fantastic friends. I love biking as much as I do. I have a job that keeps me interested and pays for me to go to finish my undergrad degree(s). I spend a fair bit of time geeking out on my computer, perusing the tubes, playing with Python, reading various blogs/feeds, etc. I'm fairly involved in the local kink community and weekends often find me at some sort of kink related event. I'm engaged helping to plan and produce Sexy Spring and thoroughly enjoy not only the event itself, but the wonderful people involved. I also partake in the occasional tabletop rpg session and various other geeky endeavors.
I’m really good at
Geekery. Amusing myself. Fixing computers. Empathizing. Math, but not arithmetic. Appreciating high-quality food. Creating unordered lists. Being a night owl. Relying on my intuition. Thinking perverted and subversive thoughts. Sharing said thoughts with friends. Exercising consent. Riding my bike. Getting distracted. Meta-humor. Appreciating irony. Finding ironic situations humorous to a point others may consider inappropriate. Appreciating my introversion. Questioning tradition. Pondering power dynamics. Pondering particle physics. Analyzing gender roles. Spending hours diving down the rabbit hole that is Wikipedia.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I have arrived via bicycle. In January. Unless you've recently seen Jon Heder in a movie (e.g. Napoleon Dynamite), in which case you will quickly notice and feel compelled to point out that I look and sound *exactly* like him. Seriously, you won't be able to help it; it's uncanny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The internets. The vast majority of what I read is contained therein. Tech blogs, science blogs, geek blogs, sexuality blogs, sex geek blog, mplsbikelove, bike porn blog, etc. The only books I've seriously perused lately have been textbooks.

I'm not a huge movie buff, but among my favorites are La Vita E Bella, Gattaca, and The Princess Bride.

I've never owned a television of my own and I'm quite content to keep it that way. Nonetheless, I do watch the occasional show online or series on DVD.

My musical taste is... eclectic. Lately, I've been listening to a lot of mashups. The Wet Spots are my favorite musicians. Desdamona is probably my favorite local artist. I grew up listening to MPR, though I'm not a huge fan of The Current, since it's just a watered-down, wanna-be version of Radio K. And KFAI has more interesting programming than any of them.

In general, I prefer my media to be intellectually engaging. There are, of course, exceptions.
Six things I could never do without
Because I'm fairly confident I could survive with just the bare necessities of existence, I shall use this space to create a list of amusing shit I've found on the internet. Since, as everyone knows, there clearly aren't enough mediums out there for references to amusing shit on the internet.

Things I've found enjoyable or intriguing enough to actually remember:
Invisible Knapsack LOLcats.
Pen Trick Fail
Fuck Me Ray Bradbury
A picture I took of a Roman enjoying his siesta... in the street. (8lmp9 on twitpic)
8 Miles Wide by Storm Large
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Various geekery, sexual and not. Modern society, particularly with respect to transportation and sustainability.

Lately, I've spent a fair bit of time thinking about what sort of relationship I'm actually seeking (and where in my profile to put said information since the 'I'm looking for' section leaves little room for creativity). Ideally, I'd like to be in a relationship that lasts many years. However, I have no desire to find a relationship simply for the sake of being in a relationship. Rather, I'm looking for someone with whom I am so compatible that our relationship would naturally last for many years. I'm quite happy and content on my own, but I would love to find someone to include in these feelings. I'm looking for a partner with whom I would like to share a large part of my time and my life, as well; potentially even marriage or children. Though, again, I'm not seeking a spouse (much less a fertile womb).

I'm most attracted to assertive, confident personalities, though I'm wary of arrogance. I also appreciate more mature mindsets as long as they don't preclude a fair bit of lightheartedness. I enjoy and embrace my intellect and I would prefer a partner who does, too. I also enjoy and embrace my sexuality and would like a lover who shares that trait as well. Communication skills are important; I've exerted energy developing mine and tend to get a bit frustrated when I have to deal with someone, on anything more than a superficial level, who is unable to express themselves effectively. I'm also put off by those who don't understand or appreciate the power words can have and subsequently use them irresponsibly. I enjoy physical activity and don't particularly want to be with someone sedentary. By and large, I'm very easy-going, patient, and laid-back (sometimes to a fault) and I need a partner who appreciates this rather than one whom finds it a detriment.

Sexuality encompasses a substantive part of my emotional expression with a partner and, consequently, the compatibility thereof is rather important. I firmly believe that, just as most can sustain more than one close friendship without them negatively impacting each other, most people are capable of sustaining more than one healthy sexual and/or romantic relationship. While I am not willing to entirely exclude one relationship for the sake of another, I am by no means desiring a steady supply of fresh, new lovers. Rather, I want my partner and I to be able to seek others to fulfill unmet needs and to allow us to express our sexuality in ways we cannot or do not with each other.

I would love it if my partner's most prevalent sexual kinks complemented mine perfectly, but I realize that's probably not going to happen. However, I do want a partner who, at the very least, shares complementary interests in broad strokes. I'm looking for a woman who wants to take control sexually, and possibly in some more general fashion. I'm also quite fond of many of the more psychological aspects involved, eg. power exchange, humiliation, objectification, hypnosis, etc. I've been the dominant partner in a relationship before and, while I enjoy it for brief periods, it isn't a dynamic I can sustain. I've also been the submissive partner in a (different) relationship and found that submission is a mindset I can readily embrace.
On a typical Friday night I am

I spend a fair number of them alone in my apartment, which I quite like. I also spend a fair number of them out with friends, something I also enjoy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I shave my legs because I enjoy them smooth. Though, that's more unusual than private since most people I know have seen me sans pants.
You should message me if would like to communicate. Particularly if you are interested in communicating with me. Intelligent communication receives preferential treatment.

Also, if you can fully appreciate a t-shirt which asks (in symbols, naturally):
The integral of 2x dx from 10 to 13?
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