33 Arcata, United States
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My self-summary
All signs are pointing to a big move from Seattle to Arcata, California. If everything goes well I will be moving in mid may.

I am coming to the realization lately that none of the things that I would have used to provide a self-summary are really who I am. We are so much more than the bodies and the roles we play. That being said the path to collective consciousness I believe is through the common language of experience, art, and beauty. Share some with me?

Since this is a dating and connection site, I should say that I am completely dedicated to polyamory and looking for like minded people. I am in a long term relationship with saviah.

Love is one of the most amazing things humans have to share and I hope to find it anywhere and everywhere I can. Unconditional love of all of it is the goal for me.
What I’m doing with my life
I am trying desperately to destroy my concept of a comfort zone. I am trying to understand cause and effect and understand my ability to operate within such an unrelenting force.

I am slowly trying to get out into nature. I am less and less inclined to play the games in the city anymore. It is not the right balance for my life, although part of my heart is undoubtedly here. I am trying to create a life where I can live as close to 100% of my values as possible. Part of that includes figuring out exactly what those values are!
I’m really good at
Creative problem solving. Fighting against absolutes. Treating things as knowable.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depends, are you looking at my body, my social identity, or perhaps my soul (for lack of a better word) - what is going on underneath it all? On the first, probably that I am of thin-average build, can't be bothered to shave, I have smaller dark eyes, and I don't have perfect posture (just signed up for yoga, fingers crossed). On the second, that I am intellectual, an advocate who wants answers to things, someone who is creative and goofy and likes to build things with my hands. On the third? Well that is where it gets interesting. The people who I have had the pleasure of noticing and who have noticed me on that level from the get go are people I will always hold close to my heart. Even the person I made eye contact with the other day and caught enjoying the most beautiful sunset.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Be Here Now. Stranger in a Strange Land, Any Dr. Seuss, Shell Silverstein, The Way Things work, Fierce Invalids Home From Hot Climates, and Sex at Dawn. Foundation Trilogy and Brin's uplift series - good stuff. The Future of the Mind. The Tibetan Book of the Dead. I just ordered the Bhagavad Gita. Anything by Ram Dass really. I also just got a book by Jung, we'll see how it goes.

Movies - Amelie, Spirited Away, Me and You and Everyone We Know, the 5th Element, Brazil, Léon: The Professional. As Aziz Ansari said to all those who haven't seen the Dark Knight, "What the fuck is wrong with you?!" I Heart Huckabees, Moonrise Kingdom.

Music - Varies a lot, but Vampire Weekend is my latest obsession. Metric, Smashing Pumpkins, They Might Be Giants, Presidents, Regina Spektor, Kimya Dawson, Magnetic Fields are defaults. I listen to a lot of stuff though. KEXP treats me well. Current obsessions: Major Lazer, Galimatias, and Nujabes.

Food - I am veg, but I like all types of foods with some specific exceptions. French fries are my weakness, but a salad always sounds good. I'll throw beer in this category as well. Beer is good. It is hard to beat a good yellow curry.
The six things I could never do without
The people I am close to, nearby bodies of water, the internet (i guess information in general), music, being creative and stretching the brain. A lazy morning curled up under the covers falling back asleep and dreaming when I have the luxury.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...lately - privelage, racism, socialism.

...people and my interactions with them. I am fascinated by communication and how broken it can be. People have all had such amazing and intense experiences in their lives, but for some reason we haven't figured out how to use this commonality to break down the walls people use to distance themselves from each other.

I also think a lot about where we are all going as a civilization. How the technological singularity will impact our lives and whether innovation and science will solve all the horrible things we are doing to the environment before we destroy ourselves. I think a lot about the discourse of the city versus the idealism of living out in the woods somewhere either off the grid or at least in a sustainable way. I think about the lyrics to Imagine. I contemplate whether greed and jealousy is curable.

I used to be the biggest atheist, but slowly I am finding myself pursuing a very deep spirituality. Perhaps some Hindu and Buddhism influence, mostly from the experiences and writings of Ram Dass. I am fascinated by the effects mediation is having on my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Getting drinks or playing board games, maybe staying in for some dinner and movies or a book. If things go well, perhaps some dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That things are still hard for me to talk about, despite my values surrounding transparency and vulnerability. Sex and kink is probably at the top of this list.
You should message me if
If you want to talk, match wits, or get a cup of coffee sometime. I would love to hear about what you are passionate about and I would be more than happy to tell you the same.