scarfboi
36Delft, Netherlands
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My self-summary
I'm a curious optimistic cynical smartass.

And probably not as weird as I like to think I am. I lean introspective but you wouldn't always think so. When I sleep enough I tend towards bouncy and in need of distractions, though I can be (sometimes overly) careful around people when I think I may annoy them :)

I like finding similarly quirky people, it just seems like a better starting point. I'd rather have a few closer say-anything relationships than many sorta-acquaintances, and I like the sorts of directness and patience that come with that.

I'm better at hugs now that I don't overthink so much.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like storytelling, and I'll stick with bad stuff when I want to know where they'll go. I like wildly personal or challenging and random-honesty things. Even in the schlocky, escapist, good-bad, eye-candy stuff. Makes it hard to recommend things, actually.

I read in bursts. Three books a month, then none for half a year. For the most part I don't stick to authors. I'm currently working on things like Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Anais Nin, David Foster Wallace, history of technology stuff and some pop psychology stuff. Most of it slowly because I keep on going "oh huh".

Series... I like character- or story-driven stuff, what-ifs, or throw-characters-at-a-situation side of things. I get bored when it resets every week, is purely drama, or is too polished. I like criticism except when it's too reductive (humor does the same on some shows - what's up with that?). So... usually the sci fi side - B5, Fringe, Dollhouse, Stargate and Doctor Who when they don't get lazy. Things thrown at a specific demographic I tend to be on the fence about, but sometimes end up liking anyway, like Warehouse 13 and others I'll admit to later.
I like various anime and a some jdramas, probably because the different approach to storytelling is refreshing. Also the silliness. Oh, Nodame Cantabile is awesome, watch it (I prefer the live action but hey).

Movie-wise I like a lot more bad stuff :) My cheerup movies used to be Tank Girl, Fifth Element, and Hedwig. I have different kinds of love for the Aliens series, Ghibli movies, Real Genius, Princess Bride, Clue, Bound, Rocky Horror, Empire Records, and another handful or two. If you have a non-trivial theory why I have a soft spot for movies like Ballistic and Resident Evil, I like you.

Music, hm. My last.fm is relatively accurate though I have few-year cycles through the genres I like. My longest-term squee is probably for Amanda Palmer, Fiona Apple, Tori Amos, Lamb, Garbage, K's Choice, Björk (mostly her nineties stuff), and am quite fond of Emilie Autumn.
Disturbing soft spots include bouncy eighties pop and italo disco, and Aqua beyond its use as torture material.

I like my food spicy - Thai, Indian, Indonesian.
I am omnivorous, though have cooked almost exclusively vegetarian for years. So flexitarian. I will probably never be vegan because cheese.
Six things I could never do without
Rainstorms.
Personal connections sans protocol.
My sense of suspended disbelief about reality and my sense of humour about it.
Occasional escapist shiny entertainment.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Comfort as a thing to find, and how it drives people.
Also in relation to being spontaneous.
Being positive without its cult.
Memory.
Rationalization.
Shirked issues.
Creativity.
How society might work with fewer misunderstandings.
Real and artificial intelligence.
Deviance and dark sides.

That it'd be useful to list some of our sharp edges here (hence current intro) - compatibile demons, less profile polishing, and that.
But then, incompatibilities are highly subjective too... Whether okc's matching is off through low-hanging-fruit questions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got a not-yet-very-expored kinky side.

Generally, ask - I'm really quite open once I know I don't annoy you :)
You should message me if
interest outweighed worry ^^
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